Husband and football

I grew up with 4 brothers so football was always on the TV growing up and I hated it. Couldn't see the attraction. I have been with my husband almost 14 years now and he is an avid Man United fan. He will watch all their matches in all competitions. We have 2 sons. 1 is a Man U fan the other is a Liverpool fan but both into their football (the 12 year old much more than the 10- youngest loves playing and supports Liverpool but doesn't really watch games etc, oldest watches all matches, keeps track of tables etc) My husband also coaches the oldest football team and has done for the last 7 years.

Through watching my boys play grassroots I started to gradually enjoy football. Now I too am a United fan 🙈 and watch every match with them. Don't get me wrong a match will be missed if we have something important on but if a clash can be avoided we avoided.

Can't wait for 1st match of the season tomorrow. It's been a quiet 3 months 🤣

So basically my point is if you can't beat them, join them. It's great having something we are all interested in, we moider and banter and have a laugh and every week we spend that time together

This. I support Newcastle United. Yes i watch some of the big games too but i couldn't watch football all the time. I would get fed up. I also don't want to sit in front f the telly all weekend as the weather is loking good.

Forget football why does he get to dictate what you both watch on TV, 2 people live in the house not one, secondly why are you with someone who just wants to do things without you, also if you have children he wont change trust me ive been there and done that, where do you figure in his life, work out an average of how many hours a week he spends time wise on football including travel time, i bet you its days not hours and then tell him that as he has that time per week you are having equal time for you and are going away every weekend on your own,

Install a sky mini box in a spare room and tell him it’s either the spare room for football or divorce. I am very lucky my man doesn’t follow sports but he is obsessed with vehicles (cars, trucks, trains etc) so it’s all I ever hear about and it does get annoying so I really do sympathise.

I am a big football fan and this does seem excessive. The problem is that there is even more football on the TV this season due to the new Sky deal. I restrict my watching to the team I support + a few big games outside of this. Otherwise over the weekend it could be wall to wall. I do go to live games but it's the away weekends that control is required. My adult children are well into football but run similar constraints. OP you need to talk to him as this is not normal behaviour.

This is novice compared to my dad he's a life long liverpool fan and is an ex referee he watches all football even the women's he has been given 6-12 to live and still runs his Sunday football team 🙄 if he gets a cold hes back in hospital for a few weeks and still insists on going Sunday football to watch his team he's the most dedicated football supporter I've ever know he lives and breathes it in order of love its football 1st us kids 2nd we've always known this if we told him he couldn't watch it ever again or go to a match he die tomorrow I 1000% guarantee it good luck

Life is too short for this one sided relationship.
Find out your legal situation in case of separation.
Expain it’s you or excessive football.
You will then know how to proceed.
He doesn’t sound bothered about you at all, so be prepared to separate.

YABU

In our house it is the other way round

I’m a woman and loove love football, and yes I’ll be the one on holiday finding a pub to watch my team if they’re on tv. They’re on about 20 times a season. My boyfriend hates football and it always astounds people that it’s that way around. I’m not that obsessed that I watch other teams and other games - but it does mount up - 3 Sunday’s in September are already allocated football days and I can’t wait. Not so great for him. Could you ask your partner to compromise and either give you lots of warning (I know a month in advance when my premier league team are on tv as it’s announced online) or prioritise the ones he does watch?

Football is life for a lot of people and a source of happiness. It’s also the most stressful hobby I have!

I hope you find a way around this :-)

But sport is on our tele 24/7. Football, cricket, golf, tennis, ping pong, bowls, you name it-he’ll watch it. We sometimes also watch our local non-league team…

My dad is a huge football fan and follows his team home and away. But also follows England home and away. My mam made the decision to stay with him and live her own life around it. I am also a big fan and so is my husband-of a different team. We both go when we can but not to the detriment of our families. When we retire we’d live to go to a World Cup and the ashes. I’d say if you can’t beat him then join him. We both live a long way from our home town clubs but if I lived at home then I’d have a season ticket and go to many away matches-living 300 miles away stops that..,

Ok so I’ve been married over 46 years to a Liverpool supporter, lived in Germany where football was on everyday, except Tuesdays.
Now live in Greece and can access every European match, including the UK leagues, 24/7.
But, even what your husband is doing is over the top excessive, by football fanatic standards.
Seriously, this guy is a waste of space, time you moved on and left him to it.

Did you tell him you’d come and left your night out to spend time with him and ask him to switch it off?

When they are a season ticket holder it does seem to take over and everything gets planned around the football. Watching random international team matches all the time does seem a bit over the top though … and surely he can miss something on TV if it’s not his team, that’s too much! Saturday afternoon there is a blackout, so unless he is illegally streaming he won’t have anything to watch.

My husband and eldest have a season ticket for one team, me and my youngest have season tickets for another team! Both premiership teams. Cost a fortune. Both DS also play football, 2 x training and 2 x matches each week. Are whole life revolves around football fixtures both children’s and professionals. DC2 birthday this week but had to have an early party so not to clash with fixtures.

i have spend both my 30 & 40 at the match. We’ve been matches on each others birthday. My DH actually went to the his team vs my team on my birthday

I get if you’re not into it - it’s absurd!!!

You need to have a proper conversation with him and make some demands.

He needs to tell you when he wants to watch football in advance so you can make other plans.

Worst case scenario you have a rota for who can use the nice telly and he can watch it somewhere else.

He’s taking the piss big time and taking you for granted.

This would be grounds for divorce for me.

🟥 A huge red card for me! Makes a change from red flags on here… 🚩 Bench this saddo OP, he’s bottom of the league 💋

Be glad it's only football, I get cricket and rugby

I was just about to comment this - seems likely if he’s escalated to anything and everything

Yes this my husband has a normal level of interest in football there is nothing wrong with this what is in the op is insane

The thing is you are now not having any kind of relationship. It just can’t be sustained. If he wants football as his only priority that’s up to him but he really can’t expect you to stick around.

The measure is whether he’s putting his hobby (whatever that hobby may be) in front of his relationship and ‘real life’. He is. So fuck him. If I were you op, he’d be getting the boot. (No pun intended).

There are regularly threads on MN where posters pile on and say the man is wrong, just because some posters have a weird hatred of anything to do with football. So I actually opened the thread to defend him, BUT YANBU at all.
He is being ridiculous.
I like football. I follow a local team on a Sunday. I have a Championship side I look out for the results for and get notifications on my phone. I love watching the little clubs when the BBC follow them in the FA Cup. I watch MotD or Chapions League. This close season it has been great to watch the Lionesses in the Euros. HOWEVER even with all that, I don't watch matches on TV every night. I don't watch random matches on You Tube. I commonly don't have the TV on at all. I go out and about and enjoy other hobbies and volunteering and - dare I say it - actually spending time with my dh.

YANBU at all.

My husband is a season ticket holder and goes to other home games too, meets his mates there and all that, but if there's a holiday or event that clashes with matches he'll sell his ticket with no drama. If there's a match on TV he'll normally watch it, but if he needs to miss it it's no big deal. I think there are reasonable and unreasonable ways of doing this - having a hobby is reasonable, making it the priority of your entire life isn't (especially if you are married and your wife doesn't share this passion).