To keep clothes in a box

I'm sorry but this is basic standards. Her room isn't getting cleaned so she is basically living in a shit tip and not learning from you how to live.

I have teens and they're as lazy as they come but I insist on clean clothes being put away and wardrobes being tidy. My 15 year old watches clean girl videos and aspires to that aesthetic so her stuff is usually tidy. She also does a "Sunday night reset" which is something else she's picked up from TikTok. Would yours be interested in that?

I wouldn't tolerate this from my teens.

Mine are 11 and 13 and the 13 year old has SEN. They've been doing their own laundry for at least a year.
The first few times we didn't make them hang it up and the first time DC1 did his it took four hours. Next time about half an hour and now he just brings it down and puts it in.
Chores get done before screen time, it's highly motivating.

ETA on the drying front, you need a Lakeland heated airer. My DD can attempt to turn it on, while my DS can't, so we do that step (or check DD has done it right) but as they only do their own, we tell them which day they can do it on (usually one weekend day each and we stagger ours through the week- I do appreciate the drying space issue though). DS occasionally tries to do his wash midweek because he wants a specific item of clothing clean but we just send the basket back upstairs. DD has been known to sneak one hoodie in on its own but we're wise to that now (and besides, one hoodie isn't going to break the drying system).

Totally agree.
Basic stuff.
Its teaching them independence

can’t remember at what age , but we had a laundry basket in the bathroom and everyone just threw suff in.
it was a bit of a game , pants in , socks in - bath time.
other clothes - in the draw, or on a hanger - into the wardrobe - story time.
Story time always got stuff put away.
Suff never piled up - and it was no tidy - no story.
They always got a bedtime story - and I’ll always got a tidy bedroom.
win - win.

Its called A Floordrobe. All teenagers have one until they have to buy their own clothes

Self confessed floordrobe owner here 👋

I keep all my sports kit in two underbed storage boxes on wheels. Leggings and shorts in one, tops in another. T shirts get folded as they come off the washing line but then get bunged in the box and I'm not too bothered if everything gets jumbled up.

Would that work for you OP?

I can't believe people are falling over themselves to find an "easier" way for a teen to store clothes. It's putting clothes on hangers/in drawers FFS. Not rocket science. There is no way I would pander to this shit.

Get some cheap pop up baskets she can organise clean dirty in between eg argos

Home Essentials 53 Litre Pop Up Laundry Hamper 4£

At that age my 2 were doing their own laundry and tidying of rooms.
Leaving clothes on the floor was always a no no as it encourages bugs and spiders to hide in it.

Pandering to children does them no good in the long run, it doesn't prepare them for life away from home.

Re the chest, you can only try. If it works good if not nothing lost.

If bulky things like hoodies are a problem, maybe a big hoodie / trousers open box? They are a pain to put away, one hoodie takes up practically a whole drawer. And they don’t really crumple that much. I do think a chest is always a bit awkward to open and close though.

Ahh. Bang goes my award winning idea of hanging things that will go on a clothes hanger in a doorway then! We do this, it’s really effective for drying.

things cant be left to the last minute or allowed to pile up.

Yes, very good lesson for children to learn though?

I’m actually interested to read this, would you feel okay to share?

No, the chest won’t get used because she won’t open the lid. She’ll just chuck stuff on top.

Has she got too many clothes for storage? When mine get bad it’s often because there’s not enough room to find things.

Basically I think I’d be going in there every few days and standing over her while she sorts it. At the very least a “clean here, dirty here” zone.

If she's got piles of clothes on the floor, she's probably got a full load. At 14, she should be capable of running her clothes through when she gets a full load in her hamper. Put a hamper in her room and her dirty clothes go there. She does a load and when dry, puts them away.

Guess what. Teaching kids to adult well is work. But it's necessary work.

My husband and I were both raised doing household chores. We raised our kids that way. It makes the transition to adulthood much easier when you are used to doing your own basic life stuff.

I think that sounds like a good idea, OP and I might try it myself.

I myself have 'the chair' for draping clothes that I will wear the following day over.

My youngest son uses a sofa in his bedroom for his piles of clothes.

My eldest child was very messy and unorganized when he lived at home. I mean, really, really messy. He moved out a couple of years ago and is now very tidy and organised and I would like to add, respectful. Please ignore some of the dramatic replies here that you are encouraging a disrespectful child to whom nobody will 'pander.' She is 14. Peak messy teenager age. Normal.

I think a chair to throw clean clothes on is the easiest option. Nothing to open or rummage through. My mum.is 75 and still does that (my mum can operate a laundry basket though). She does have a wardrobe too, but I think clothes only make it in there for special occasions

I did my own washing from age 12 by hand, and taught my daughter to do the same, based on the idea that you may not always have access to a washing machine, so being aware, if you do have to hand wash, of what things tend to get dirty, where, ie, armpits, gussets, collars, etc. Not teaching your kids to do their own washing is lazy parenting in my view. If she refuses to wash by hand, then teach her how to do the family washing, sorting colours, checking temperatures, etc. She also needs to learn what the washing labels mean, ie., hand wash, temperature, dry clean, tumble dry, etc.

I also think the idea of checking her room each day, morning or evening up to you, and if it's not tidy, then no internet access the next day. She'll soon get the idea.

I did my own laundry from the age of 11 - no other choice - and my 2 year old can currently load things in the washing machine and switch it on so AIBU for that. However, on the chest - I’d be relaxed about the floor or the chest, whichever she prefers. I was a disaster as a teenager and indeed as a single adult with that stuff - only when I had kids did I shape up. Didn’t hurt me (I’ve always kept shared areas clean).

YABU and doing her no favours at all.

She's 14 years old, it's completely unacceptable that she can't hang up/store/look after her clothes properly.
It's a symptom of a wider issue. No boundaries, no respect. She doesn't need to be a neat freak, but needs to be learning something about self care.

Totally with your DH . It is ridiculous. When she goes out into the wide world nobody is going to pander to her.

Mine both did their own laundry from younger than 14. They get to certain ages and have to do it their own way and you have to leave them to it. If they wanted to wear crumpled clothes or whatever that was up to them. And they naturally take care of their clean laundry as wearing dirty stuff was an absolute no, so if it gets mixed up again they would have had to wash it again.

I don’t understand how it would make extra work for you? You have extra work now, nagging her!

I was doing my own laundry at 13 years old. I'm not saying you make her do her own laundry but it's sheer laziness saying that putting her clothes in a drawer is too hard. It's no wonder the young ones nowadays are so inept at life, their parents pander to this kind of thing so they don't develop any life skills