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Have workplace employee networks gone too far

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Holidayheat · 13/08/2025 11:24

I work in a large retail bank. We have a long list of employee networks we can join. Disability network, LGBTQ+ network, neurodiversity network, women’s network, staff wellbeing network etc etc. I really fail to see the point in them. I’m a nice liberal minded person. My colleagues are all nice liberal minded people. We aren’t bigoted in any way etc etc. I have a colleague who is heavily involved in the running of a network. It’s not in her job description but must take up about 50% of her time, which for an IT professional is a chunk of money for my employer. I just don’t see the point. Deciding how to best decorate the office for pride. Getting the budget right for Eid celebration event. Promoting a ‘how to do presentations for women’ event.

If we were a particularly backward thinking workplace I could see the benefit, but it’s 2025 and this is a modern workplace. no one gives two hoots as to whether someone is gay, or Jewish, or has a stutter or is in a wheelchair, they are just interested in whether someone can do their job. There is no prejudice these days in most workplaces like ours and to claim there is or worry that there is seems a little patronising. It seems a massive investment for what? Nothing.

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TheLivelyViper · 13/08/2025 21:31

blubberyboo · 13/08/2025 20:55

Embedding policies is not controlled by employee groups. That is the responsibility of executive managers and in a bank is overseen and enforced by regulators

These employee groups are a corporate marketing ploy and a way to make employees think they are getting something so that they complete the annual employee satisfaction survey correctly.

Many workplace groups will help the executive when writing policies and also to reformat policies around equality. I know many groups have also done training sessions for executive and employees as a whole, many help HR with work experience programs and how to get rid of barriers they may have faced as working class young people going into that role. I'm not saying they are perfect at all, but in some workplaces they may be more performative and in others they may help to change the cultures have good talks to help those groups with networking or as pp mentioned a talk on burnout for autistic people which they're more likely to experience or talks on education on biases during recruitment, they also often do events for the companies corporate social responsibility so it helps them out there.

TheLivelyViper · 13/08/2025 21:25

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 20:48

No, they do not.

They end up costing employers millions of pounds in legal fees by misrepresenting the law.

Have you noted the pushback against perfectly legal SEEN networks
that will cost the taxpayer £££££ because management obeyed a lobby group
not the law.

Clean slate time.

They won't be costing the taxpayer if it's a private company and I haven't seen many public sector workplaces doing this. Also, you said "BAME networks exclude the wrong type of minority" - which would be who?

You can say leave you prejudice at home but we know that people don't, just because something is illegal doesn't mean it doesn't happen and isn't prevelant. Disabled people face many barriers going into the workplace, on applications if they disclose it or ask for accommodations and we should care about all disabilities, whether that be physical and you have a wheelchair or a mental illness or a sensory condition (blind, deaf) or neurodevelopmental conditions or chronic illness. If you look at the Disablity Pride flag you'd see that all colours are represented for all disabilities and we should focus on making the workplace accessible for all disabilities not just having a ramp.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 13/08/2025 21:24

WeaselsRising · 13/08/2025 17:52

Nobody is forcing you to read the emails. Delete and move on.

Back in 2017 I suddenly started struggling at work. I couldn't remember what to do and was finding it really difficult to learn new things. I was worried sick I was getting dementia. Then I happened to run into a colleague who was setting up a Menopause network and after a chat with her I realised that all the things I was struggling with were caused by hormonal changes. I went to the GP, got HRT and everything started getting back to normal. This was long before Davina McCall and TV coverage of menopause.

Since then I have regularly attended the virtual meetings for that network and heard other women repeat the same story. It has been a lifesaver for so many of us, and that woman set up the network on her own through hard work after realising that so many women before us had gone through it but never told anyone. There were stats showing that a huge proportion of women leave the workforce at that age and although there will be reasons like looking after grandchildren or wanting time to yourself an awful lot of women left work because they thought they were no longer capable.

It's very easy to be flippant and decide that networks have no value just because they aren't relevant to you but there is huge value in realising that you are not the only person who feels like this.

I fully agree that it's helpful to discuss things with people and realise that yu're not the only person who feels like that but do you really think you need to do that in work time? I don't think you do. In my workplace we talk about our menopausal symptoms plenty - in the staffroom on lunch breaks, or in passing as we are struggling to find the word for something simple and joke about it with a colleague . Does it REALLY need an official network?

Even if I DIDN'T feel able to discuss it with anyone at work, what about outside of work? Most people have female friends or relatives who they have heard talk about "the Change", or discussed their own symptoms with them. There is plenty on the internet and there was even in 2017.

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 21:20

@itsabeautifuldayjuly
I do audit
I work with hundreds of workplaces
and out of professional duty I read every relevant ET judgement summary
to try to save clients the eyewatering fees

If you are not aware of the financial and reputational harms caused by some employee networks
I can only suggest that you educate yourself

itsabeautifuldayjuly · 13/08/2025 21:15

Dozends of tribunals a year at your work? because of employee networks? with all due respect, there is something deeply wrong with your workplace, and its not the employee networks…..

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 21:10

itsabeautifuldayjuly · 13/08/2025 21:04

@Talkinpeace you are self employed, so in other words, you have no idea what you are talking about? lovely
tribunals are when things go wrong - in the vast majority they don’t
a bit like a person saying cars are evil and should never used because they saw some accidents….

No because my work means I am constantly checking the procedures and controls of public sector bodies.

I therefore see it going wrong at dozens of places per year
as well as what I read by following Employment Tribunal outcomes

If you think that the current situation with the National Library of Scotland puts staff networks in a good light "you have no idea what you are talking about"

itsabeautifuldayjuly · 13/08/2025 21:04

@Talkinpeace you are self employed, so in other words, you have no idea what you are talking about? lovely
tribunals are when things go wrong - in the vast majority they don’t
a bit like a person saying cars are evil and should never used because they saw some accidents….

JasonTindallsTan · 13/08/2025 21:02

For the most point I think these networks and attending these meetings are for people who don’t have enough work to do. I work for a similar organisation and it’s relentless and I’m always being badgered to join or contribute to a network or attend an event. No thanks. I have plenty of actual work to do.

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 21:01

Titteps · 13/08/2025 21:00

Well, this says a lot about the company you work for.

A responsibly run business don’t simply respond to those who shout loudest.

It’s the networks’ job to make their voice heard. It’s your company’s job to listen to everyone.

Ha ha
I am self employed
But I follow Tribunal Tweets

Titteps · 13/08/2025 21:00

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 20:39

No we have not.

Activist networks are purity spirals who exclude those with moderate voices.

LGBTQI+++++ networks exclude lesbians and gays
BAME networks exclude the wrong sort of minority
Disability networks are now all about mental health not access ramps
Women's networks exclude females

Look up "self exclusion"
Ignore those who shout loudest
look for those who are genuinely excluded

Which is the job of the SLT and HR
NOT random activists with no knowledge (see also Isla Bumba)

Take your WORK self to WORK
Leave your personal opinions at home

Well, this says a lot about the company you work for.

A responsibly run business don’t simply respond to those who shout loudest.

It’s the networks’ job to make their voice heard. It’s your company’s job to listen to everyone.

XenoBitch · 13/08/2025 20:58

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 20:45

@XenoBitch
Adjustments to work around disabilities are a legal HR requirement since 1994
A 'staff network' is irrelevant.

Yes, but just having legal support when it all goes to shit is not the only way to make people feel supported.

Like I said in my comment upthread, my DP is autistic and is finding the ND employee network at his workplace very useful. They are not putting flags everywhere etc... they get in guest speakers and talk about stuff that is relevant. Their last talk was about how to handle burnout, and how to recognise the signs before it gets too bad.

As a result, he feels listened to and understood and feels able to stick at his job. The employment stats for autistic people are dire.

StMarie4me · 13/08/2025 20:56

BeMellowAquaSquid · 13/08/2025 11:28

I think we may work at the same place! Literally a club for every single group you can think of. Bulletin after bulletin, posters, seminars. Can’t even have a wee in peace without a poster looking down on you inviting you to the next drinks soirée to celebrate a shoe lace. It’s endless.

If it’s not meant for you then… it’s not meant for you.

But imaging the positivity and representation if it is?!

My family with neuro divergences, mental health problems, physical disabilities and social constraints live this level of support at work.

Why do you hate it so much?

itsabeautifuldayjuly · 13/08/2025 20:55

@Talkinpeace my hr team are amazing, so are my network groups. HR make it possible for me to work (basics). my network team helps everyone to be fully integrated and seen. Equally important.

blubberyboo · 13/08/2025 20:55

TheLivelyViper · 13/08/2025 11:30

Also you wouldn't necessarily know the barriers people in these groups face, it's not just microaggressions, it's also whether the policies have diversity and inclusion embedded, whether it's accessible in interviews and applications for disabled people, whether it's not just someone in a wheelchair or someone with neurodevelopmental conditions, or a chronic illness. Are there jokes around hair which are often brought up or microaggressions which you don't pick up on, networking for women in networks where it's more male dominated or making policies accessible for new mothers and parents in general. I think you're being incredibly naive if you think there's no or little discrimination in the workplace, whilst that's your experience, if you're not of those people you cannot really comment because you wouldn't be experiencing it. Even if it's not in your face doesn't mean it isn't happening and I can tell you that the majority of workplaces have a lot more to do on this and there is lots of prejudice and discrimination in many workplaces.

Edited

Embedding policies is not controlled by employee groups. That is the responsibility of executive managers and in a bank is overseen and enforced by regulators

These employee groups are a corporate marketing ploy and a way to make employees think they are getting something so that they complete the annual employee satisfaction survey correctly.

AliTheMinx · 13/08/2025 20:54

At my work, there is a network for people who are childless, but not by choice. I completely understand how some people may draw comfort from sharing their experiences with others, and have no issue at all with the network, but they tend to send fairly frequent emails to all staff about it, and I find it rather insensitive, as some people may not want to be reminded about their childless status when at work. It may be something they are trying to come to terms with. I think it should be an opt in comes, as opposed to an all-staff email, to minimise causing upset.

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 20:53

@itsabeautifuldayjuly
Eh ?
The requirements of the Equality Act towards disabled employees are not minor and cover much much more than the basics.
If your HR team are telling you otherwise, talk to one of the equality law experts on here or Linkedin or Xtwitter

itsabeautifuldayjuly · 13/08/2025 20:50

@Talkinpeace the legal requirements are minor and barely enough to cover the basics. finding people who understand and can help beyond the absolute basics help a lot. Feeling welcome at work is more than just having the absolute basics covered!

soupyspoon · 13/08/2025 20:49

I think theres no bigger microaggression or out and out aggression than telling someone they are making a (usually invisible and unknowable) microaggression toward you

Or in fact spending half your time putting the middle finger up to your colleagues by not doing your job because you're so busy organising a million pointless events.

Take that colleagues and fuck you!

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 20:48

itsabeautifuldayjuly · 13/08/2025 20:44

@Talkinpeace i suggested you keep your personal opinions at home. you don’t need to participate in employee networks if you don’t want to, but there is definitely a need.
Are they perfect? no. but that just means we need to improve them, not that they are worthless.
Discrimination st work happens every day - networks help to deal with it and improve the situation

No, they do not.

They end up costing employers millions of pounds in legal fees by misrepresenting the law.

Have you noted the pushback against perfectly legal SEEN networks
that will cost the taxpayer £££££ because management obeyed a lobby group
not the law.

Clean slate time.

NoSoupForU · 13/08/2025 20:47

I'm a logical person so I'm going to assume that you don't know every employee of the large bank you work for. Its a bit odd that you don't seem to understand that the very small number of people you know aren't representative of the entire company and that your experiences aren't reflective of everyone's experiences.

It is very well documented that minority groups face additional obstacles in the workplace. If you don't feel any benefit in the networks then don't join them. And however much a "chunk of money" working on projects costs your employer it frankly isn't your concern.

People like you are precisely why these networks are needed.

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 20:45

@XenoBitch
Adjustments to work around disabilities are a legal HR requirement since 1994
A 'staff network' is irrelevant.

itsabeautifuldayjuly · 13/08/2025 20:44

@Talkinpeace i suggested you keep your personal opinions at home. you don’t need to participate in employee networks if you don’t want to, but there is definitely a need.
Are they perfect? no. but that just means we need to improve them, not that they are worthless.
Discrimination st work happens every day - networks help to deal with it and improve the situation

XenoBitch · 13/08/2025 20:42

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 20:39

No we have not.

Activist networks are purity spirals who exclude those with moderate voices.

LGBTQI+++++ networks exclude lesbians and gays
BAME networks exclude the wrong sort of minority
Disability networks are now all about mental health not access ramps
Women's networks exclude females

Look up "self exclusion"
Ignore those who shout loudest
look for those who are genuinely excluded

Which is the job of the SLT and HR
NOT random activists with no knowledge (see also Isla Bumba)

Take your WORK self to WORK
Leave your personal opinions at home

You can't leave your disabilities at home when you go to work.

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 20:41

"It’s one of those things that you are not forced to participate in, but others are free to do so and it doesn’t impact you if they do. "

It does if the workplace group demonises you

see Jewish Comics being "no platformed" by staff networks at Edinburgh Fringe venues

Talkinpeace · 13/08/2025 20:39

Titteps · 13/08/2025 20:20

Employee networks aren’t just about celebrating events. They are an opportunity for different demographics to ‘have a seat at the table’ in their company, be represented and contribute to decisions the business makes.

Companies I’ve previously worked for had Executive sponsors of each network, who would meet with the network committee regularly, listen to any concerns or views and relay them back to those at the top.

Those who volunteer to lead a network can gain valuable skill sets but also make a difference. It may take up a large amount of their time but they can develop and grow from it too.

I think you’ve missed the wider picture here.

No we have not.

Activist networks are purity spirals who exclude those with moderate voices.

LGBTQI+++++ networks exclude lesbians and gays
BAME networks exclude the wrong sort of minority
Disability networks are now all about mental health not access ramps
Women's networks exclude females

Look up "self exclusion"
Ignore those who shout loudest
look for those who are genuinely excluded

Which is the job of the SLT and HR
NOT random activists with no knowledge (see also Isla Bumba)

Take your WORK self to WORK
Leave your personal opinions at home