My friend met a guy in December, they went on a couple of dates but he was quite full on so she ended it. They kept in touch as they have a lot of similar interests in fitness, they got back together in March this year and have been together since.
They spend most of their weekends together, doing their sports related stuff. They seem to go away most weekends.
He doesn’t work and he’s in his 40’s, when I asked her what he does she says she doesn’t really know. He spends a lot of money paying for them to do sporting events and staying away and she says he refuses to let her pay.
He has two phones, which if he was working I could maybe understand but as he doesn’t work, who needs 2 phones?!
He’s Planning to put his house up for sale, but keep a portion of the land but he wants to put the land in her name. Once he’s sold the house, he was planning to move closer to her as they are an hour away at the moment but that’s recently changed and his new plan is to buy a touring caravan and pitch it up a 3-4hr drive from her so he can spend the week focusing on his hobbies and they’ll travel between at the weekends.
Shes met his daughter a couple of times and his mum once, but not any of his other family - Dad, Sister, Brother.
He wants to take her and her children on holiday, when they went to book the trip he gave her cash and asked her to put it in her bank account and book the holiday in her name.
Am I being overly cautious here for my friend or does this all sound like a walking red flag?!
She was previously in an abusive relationship and she is pretty easy going, when I’ve spoken to her about it she says it’s all fine and there’s nothing weird about it but I’m not sure.