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Terracottafarmers · 13/08/2025 09:14

A cleaner I found through mutuals on Facebook got in touch after I posted about needing a deep clean following a renovation. She came over, quoted me, and I booked her in. As per her T&Cs, I paid a £160 deposit, and she invoiced me.

About a week before the scheduled clean, I told her I might need to change the date because my new kitchen was delayed. The day before she was due to come, I had to cancel, the kitchen still wasn’t finished, and I was hoping we could have moved everything from the bedroom into the kitchen by then. I apologised, explained the situation, and asked when she could fit me in next. She seemed fine with it and said she’d look at dates.

This was on Saturday. By Monday, I messaged her again to see if she’d checked her diary, but I’ve still had no response even though I can see she’s been online.

I know that I had to cancel, which is shitty of me but I’d already warned her about the possible delay, and it’s not like I’m not going to rebook her. I just think it’s really rude and now I'm wondering if I should message her again saying 'I really need to get this booked in, please can you let me know?

OP posts:
HatandCoat · 13/08/2025 10:01

...and then a week prior let her know it might be delayed.

What was the point of that? She still had to hold the day free for you until you cancelled the day before. You messed her about and there's every chance you'd do it again.

You seem to think it's fine for a cleaner to be out of pocket for your kitchen delay but not you.

mrsm43s · 13/08/2025 10:00

Surely your deposit is now gone as you cancelled so late and she wouldn't have been able to fill that slot at such short notice. So the deposit is her compensation for the void that you caused her.

So, when you are ready, you need to restart the process of booking her in, paying a new deposit to secure the new slot etc.

You do understand the purpose of deposits, no? It's to compensate the service provider for voids when clients cancel at short notice.

thecatdidit · 13/08/2025 09:52

In my opinion the cleaner should have asked you not to book her in until after the work was definitely done. There's many a slip between cup and lip.
That's a hefty amount to ask for a deep clean.
I'm surprised actually and I have my own cleaning business (20years)
I'd say do not fret, she will get back to you soon and rearrange a time but our services are in demand and a good cleaner is hard to find.

Terracottafarmers · 13/08/2025 09:49

SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 13/08/2025 09:46

You're the one that sounds rude. You messaged her Saturdaty and then on Monday. After mucking her about she was meant to spend Sunday running round after you.

It's only fair that she books you in now WHEN you are ready not on a hopefully date. Why should anyone lose a day's work because it suits you

I don't think I'm rude at all. I paid her a deposit, I booked it a month in advance and then a week prior let her know it might be delayed. Not exactly mucking her about, maybe if I had booked her in, not paid a deposit and then let her know last minute.

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SeaShellsSanctuary1 · 13/08/2025 09:46

You're the one that sounds rude. You messaged her Saturdaty and then on Monday. After mucking her about she was meant to spend Sunday running round after you.

It's only fair that she books you in now WHEN you are ready not on a hopefully date. Why should anyone lose a day's work because it suits you

Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:39

Terracottafarmers · 13/08/2025 09:36

Yes. The kitchen would have been finished if a delivery had arrived and we could've emptied our spare room to make way for the cleaner

There’s no “definitely” about it from the pov of the cleaner

Dozycuntlaters · 13/08/2025 09:39

Youre paying £320 for a deep clean? man, that sounds a lot. How long is it going to take her. My cleaner is £15 an hour, £20 for a deep clean. Did you look around or just go for the first recommendation? Regardless of that, you warrned her it may be delayed and she is being very unprofessional not answering you. If I were you, I would get that deposit back and look elsewhere.

Terracottafarmers · 13/08/2025 09:36

Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:31

Presumably you “definitely” thought is was going to be finished by her previous booking date

Yes. The kitchen would have been finished if a delivery had arrived and we could've emptied our spare room to make way for the cleaner

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Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:31

Terracottafarmers · 13/08/2025 09:28

It's definitely going to be finished this week, it just so happened it was delayed by a couple of days due to a delivery failing to arrive

Presumably you “definitely” thought is was going to be finished by her previous booking date

Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:30

spoonbillstretford · 13/08/2025 09:29

It's just a one off deep clean and OP has paid a deposit.

OP I'd send her a text but she could be on holiday. I'd then chase up in September if she doesn't get back to me.

A £160 deposit for a one off clean?!

HateThese4Leggedbeasts · 13/08/2025 09:30

Did you agree any t and C's for if the date needed to change?

She might be intending to keep your deposit for the late cancellation. Warning her you might cancel doesn't allow her to book someone else in.

spoonbillstretford · 13/08/2025 09:29

Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:25

You sounded like a client who was going to chop and change and be a hassle

It's just a one off deep clean and OP has paid a deposit.

OP I'd send her a text but she could be on holiday. I'd then chase up in September if she doesn't get back to me.

Terracottafarmers · 13/08/2025 09:28

Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:26

How about you wait until your kitchen is actually finished and then message to rearrange

It's definitely going to be finished this week, it just so happened it was delayed by a couple of days due to a delivery failing to arrive

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Terracottafarmers · 13/08/2025 09:27

Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:24

You paid your cleaner a £160 deposit
for what??

im guessing you’re quite experienced with cleaners! Never heard of that

For a deep clean of the house. Her t&cs said for deep cleans she takes half deposit prior to the clean and rest after the clean. I've never had a cleaner before

OP posts:
Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:26

How about you wait until your kitchen is actually finished and then message to rearrange

Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:25

You sounded like a client who was going to chop and change and be a hassle

Someiremember · 13/08/2025 09:24

You paid your cleaner a £160 deposit
for what??

im guessing you’re quite experienced with cleaners! Never heard of that

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