To send little one to nursery in a dress without shorts?

I always put cycling shorts on my daughter. I felt more comfortable while her sense of privacy wasn’t developed

Does it bother the child? Probably not.
Does it bother someone else? Says much more about them than the child.

If too much is on show, perhaps get better fitting knickers.

Knickers. Do people say that (unironically) in real life?

I still do this sometimes! (Paddling in the sea, for example.)

Surely the fuck not?!

Anyone else remember doing PE at secondary school in grey PE knickers? We all hated them, of course. But they were definitely pants (albeit granny style).

I was made to feel deeply uncomfortable when I took my 18 month old daughter swimming in only swimming bottoms. I was told that, once the staff had realised she was a girl (hard to tell at that age), they decided she needed to wear a bikini top. Crazy.

Having worked with young children, boys' shorts also gape at times!

So women have to change what they do because it makes men feel uncomfortable. A slippery slope.

If you are doing it because you don't think knickers cover enough just buy better quality knickers.

Same. Girls used to hang upside down on the bars in the playground. No-one thought anything of it.

Well no, but I wouldn’t do those things in a dress either.

I always put shorts on my 2 yo.

I don't think any of us would like to go climbing, sliding, kicking footballs, etc etc without shorts on.

Always done shorts under dresses and skirts, and same now in primary school. My DD plays, cartwheels, swings upside down etc, so it's important she is covered. Not only for her own privacy but also other kids can be so mean about seeing eachothers knickers 🤦

No it doesn't.

It makes perfect sense to make sure private parts are covered and pants do a perfectly good job.

I wouldnt say youre being unreasonable as theyre your children and your choice but, I'd personally never send my girl to nursery or out in public without her shorts underneath but, there was probably a time i did until I heard someone else mentioned that they wouldnt allow it. We all live and learn. It makes perfect sense to me to put shorts underneath.

I never used to put shorts on my daughter with a dress when she was nursery age but once she went to school she asked to wear shorts under her dress and to be honest I do feel better knowing she's wearing them. As a previous poster said, normal knickers cover nothing when they are sitting down cross legged - they move to the side or gape. The shorts briefs suggested above are a great solution.

I buy my dd the same kind of thing I wear under my own dresses. They are super thin bicycle shorts that are made of wicking material. I find wearing them cooler than wearing regular undergarments so I strongly prefer them.

The fact that you can go upside-down on a playground and no one complains is just a bonus.

Furious! Really? You either live an incredibly charmed life, or have a very low threshold to rage if these two simple words provoke your fury.

Mine is now also 6. She has always had shorts on with dresses. She too does cartwheels and when little would flail her little legs in all directions at once. It's not her I am worried about. I can't imagine not doing that at this age and younger to be honest.

I have a 5yo & a 3yo and I’ve never put shorts on under my girls dresses. It would be roasting so I think it defeats the purpose of wearing the dress, otherwise I would just put them in shorts and tshirt.

The comment was in general to point out people who want their children to wear shorts aren’t sexualising their daughters. My daughters nursery go on trips every week, to the park, beach school 🤷🏼‍♀️

Almost no girl wore trousers or shorts more than occasionally when I were a lass and I guarantee that we were all considerably more active than any equivalent little girl nowadays. I don’t remember being injured on the inner thigh or injuring my backside on 1970s play equipment (made from extra hot metal with as many sharp bits and concrete areas to fall on as possible). I did injure almost everything else but I don’t think modesty shorts would have helped. Honestly, if girls wants to wear shorts under their skirts then let them but I think it’s bonkers that nurseries and schools require this. It’s all in the name of safety and safeguarding but really it’s just a modesty rule the same as any other.

That’s crap that you were made to feel that way and you weren’t even there. The joys of parenting indeed. I’m sure you’re not a poor parent at all (and to be fair I’m sure your husband isn’t either - but these things just don’t occur to them sometimes and it’s not good enough. they really need to engage their brains - I’d be willing to bet my house that this wouldn’t have happened on your watch).

I was thinking similarly. My eldest is ridiculously accident prone and never stops moving but she’s never had a single injury due to not wearing shorts under dresses.