The other day we went to a party, we had a good time although my husband drank too much, the next day I saw on his phone that he had text his friend during the party and said ‘my wife is a miserable cunt’ I was really hurt. He said it was just banter but I found it disrespectful and derogatory. He says I’m overreacting, he was drunk and didn’t mean it. Our marriage is very strained at the minute and this feels like the final nail in the coffin. AIBU?