To not be fazed by job interviews and to find it odd how much anxiety they cause for others?

People are different
HTH

Full disclosure- I’m a retired HR lecturer with experience of teaching managers how to interview and coaching interviewees. So, I never got nervous but there are so many helpful techniques to help overcome nerves.

1. It’s a ‘conversation with a purpose’ not an interrogation’
2. Panels aren’t interested in what you can’t do, you can learn that. You may be not be able to do it YET
3. So many people are shy of ‘blowing their own trumpet’ but nobody can speak for your achievements better than you.
4. Be yourself. After a long day of interviews, you want to br the one that people remember positively.

What are your interviews like? My interviews can involve multiple stages, with presentations. Are you senior?

When I was younger, the lead interviewer thought it was appropriate to ask me questions about my Sexual Assault.

Yep. I get anxious

Whether an interview is stressful or not and the degree to which it is/is not would, I guess, depend on how badly (or not) you want the job

I hate job interviews because i'm autistic.

Of course you’re not unreasonable to not find interviews nerve wracking or pressurising.

You are, of course, massively unreasonable to not have the vaguest idea as to how others do find them nerve wracking.

Sometimes a lot is riding on the interview going well, and that is the real cause of the nerves.

Why are there so many people these days who find the idea that anything outside their own lived experience is just so impossible to imagine - thoughtless or just stupid is my best guess…

Feels like a bit of a silly post?
great, you think they’re fine but some people don’t - surely it’s normal life for people to disagree about things

I'm not fazed either, and I'm generally good at them, it's quite natural for me. Likewise, no problem whatsoever with public speaking.
On the other hand, I'm unable to think straight if I see a spider or a dragonfly.

I’m a seasoned interviewer and pretty confident when it comes to being interviewed myself, but I don’t get the point of this thread. Interviews are well known for being stressful and it’s entirely normal for someone to feel anxious about it. A lack of ‘stress’ does not mean you are superior. It really depends what you’ve got to lose and how much you are counting on getting the job; not everyone will know what that’s like, not to have a safety net.

It's when you think you really want something or in many cases need it and you know you can do whatever it is. Selling yourself is a big personal thing IMO. It's so much pressure.

The one time I couldn't have cared less I got the job (and it was a shit show).

Some people are just very confident. Maybe it's because you didn't care enough. For me, i've been in the position where I was down to my last few pounds, I had no food or electricity and had bills coming up, so I've been desperate for the job, any job. I was very nervous then as I had no one to rely on.

I hate them. I have ADHD and autism and I know I come across as weird. So I try to mask as much as I can which takes so much effort that I lose my thoughts altogether. And I know I do this so I’m up to high doh before every interview.

I am rather surprised you lack empathy so much.

It can also come down to age and experience giving you more confidence.

When I was a final year student going for interviews for my first "proper" job then, yes, I would get nervous. I did the preparation work, learning about each company, thinking of questions I could ask, preparing my answers to all the standard sort of questions but I would still have butterflies beforehand. I always found it difficult to talk about my strengths and so on. Lack of self confidence I suppose.

I then stayed in my first job for 13 years and when I left it was to a company that was a buy out from the previous one so I was head hunted more or less, rather than having a formal interview.

When that finally came to an end 6 years later I was 40 and hadn't really had to interview for nearly 20 years. I was convinced I would be up against ambitious youngsters with more up to date skills. So, nervous again. But I pretty soon discovered that my skills and experience were relevant and that self promotion, i.e talking up my strengths was no longer a problem. In short, 20 more years of life experience gives you a lot more self confidence.

I changed job a few times in my last 20 years working and found interviews a breeze. But I do understand why people starting out can feel stressed by them.

I was nervous earlier in my career as a lot was riding on the outcome. They were generally jobs i really wanted and needed as I was out of work and there was a lot of competition

Now, im not nervous. In my last round of interviews, I wasnt that fussed if I got the job or not. I had a job already, I just fancied a different job. There wasnt huge competition for the roles and i have more awareness that recruitment is hit and miss so its not a fail to not be recruited. I also have more experience of rubbish employers so I am more of the frame of mind that I am interviewing them. Which people always say, but is now real for me.

I’m also not bothered by them, but as I contract I probably do more interviews than most, and I know that I’m really good at my job. So it’s a good thing I don't worry about them

I do get nervous but I get excited more than anything. Its like the adrenaline gives me a huge rush and I love acting and performing ( did it as a degree) and I have adhd so I almost go into it playing a part 🤣 which helps with the nerves. I probably am ravaged with nerves underneath all the masking but I bury it with the excitement and high energy. I do sit at home for hours after though ruminating on it and overthinking and feeling like an idiot! So there’s that!

Do you truly not understand why people are nervous about a situation that decides if they do or don’t get a job that they really want? I think it’s more odd not to be nervous unless you don’t care about the job obviously.

It’s hard to explain if you don’t experience it but I am the most prepared and knowledgeable person and didn’t feel nervous or worried BUT my body let me down and my throat closed up and I couldn’t speak I was choking out words. This triggers a spiral decline and all you can focus on is the awful sensation of dying

but yes: here’s some empathy 🎁

Lucky old you. It's not a choice to get very nervous or anxious, everyone would choose to find things a breeze if they could.

Bet OP is that "one" on any interview panel; the one that loves to trip an interviewee up.

As an aside, I've always found interview panels wank - unless you're recruiting for top brass. I'm sure interviews would be far more conducive to a relaxed atmosphere, if it were a sit down with a cuppa and informal chat setting.

I can only imagine how long your list of answers is to the "what are your strengths" question.

I dont get neevous about exams I quite enjoy the adrenaline rush.

However I understand others do not feel this way and feel nervous about it.

Your post seems to lack this insight.

Depends what it’s for, there are many many contextual factors. On two occasions I’ve had interviews where, if successful, it would literally change my life, so I would say that it is reasonable to feel a bit of anxiety/nerves/pressure as it was a huge opportunity that I didn’t want to waste.

On a different occasion it was for a small but significant promotion, so a lot less pressure but I still spent time and effort preparing for it and felt nervous beforehand and whilst awaiting the outcome, which I would say is quite normal.

Ate you really si lacking in imagination that you can't work out the answer to this yourself?

Or are you just showing off on an anonymous forum?

I don't get particularly nervous either but I can imagine many reasons why someone would.