To not be fazed by job interviews and to find it odd how much anxiety they cause for others?

You can start any goady thread you like. Nothing to say they have to be helpful or genuine.

It's like AI has chosen a name from 'what 3 words'! 🤣

they're always very full of themselves & belittling of others.

I'm confident now, but when I was younger and knew I lacked experience and confidence it was much more nerve-wracking.

I don't get nervous in interviews. I also don't really prepare. They either like me, or they don't. I also don't know how I can prepare anyway, when I dont know the questions being asked.

I prefer interview processes which include other stages which allow me to demonstrate the work I can do.

I don't find it "odd" that they cause anxiety in others though. I get anxious about a lot of things other people don't bat an eyelid over, so I understand that people are just different.

I really enjoy interviews and exams but it's probably because I have never been desperate for a job or a good mark so I'm never particularly disappointed if I don't get it or get a poor mark.

I don’t get that nervous in them, I think it’s a bit like a date, I’m either right for them or I’m not, and if I’m not it’s best I don’t get the job anyway!

I’m curious though, what does scare you Op?

The OP is here only to gloat, not give advice and pointers.

I think it’s great you’ve been so successful @DearPeachBiscuit. It’s a real skill, both being able to compose succinct replies to answer the question and remain calm. I find competency based interviews difficult like give an example where xyz, and there’s a formula (STAR or similar) to getting the answer to hit all the marks being looked for, without over elaborating. Well done. Tips welcome!

You can’t start a thread like this and not give advice/pointers

Look for the pattern and realise how many times you see it where its the OP of a provocative thread title, and its the only post ever made by the username. It may be suggested when you sign up, but it is definitely a sign of a bot or ai. This thread is unusual as the OP has returned.

I’m similar, I quite enjoy interviews and am very comfortable with public speaking. Having to network and make small talk however has me climbing the walls - we’re all different.

Um, good for you?
I have have crying fits, thrown up, and passed out... in interviews. I can't help it.

Could have seen that reply coming a mile off

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I do if I really need the job - I get very nervous then and don’t do well.

The interviews I’ve done well at are when I don’t have a real need of the job - when it would be a “nice to have” rather than crucial.

But I do bounce back after they go wrong, so I tend to get there in the end.

To be fair when you join, they suggest some new user names for you. The website i mean. They are pretty random.

I couldn't be bothered to make one up. So I chose one that was suggested. It isn't three words, but it does have a colour and an animal in it.

That's probably all it is.

Some key reasons people experience nerves in any situations:

1. Novelty - it's not something they do very often
2. Experience - either a bad past experience or they know it's not their natural strength
3. High stakes - the outcome matters

All of those could be in play for an interview. Not that hard to understand, surely?

It's like anything. It's nerve-wracking for some and not for others.

I have no fears about driving. I enjoy it, a 3-4 hour journey where I can listen to podcasts on all varieties of roads is something I positively look forward to. Doesn't stop me understanding that for some people that would be really scary, that some people find motorways overwhelming etc.

Good for you.

Do you ever get the job though? 😂

I mostly found them ok too OP, but I can understand why others find them stressful, especially when there's loads of competition. ✌️

Yes because the interview process in my company, like many others had changed and it’s now apparently “values based” instead of competency-based.

In practice this that they seem to ask you questions that have nothing to do with the actual job. As an autistic person this causes me a massive amount of stress and it means I have no idea how to prepare.

I KNOW I am competent and I have a track-record that speaks for itself; I always get great feedback about my work. But in interviews I’m asked questions and have no idea what the right answer is.

Last time I had an interview we were given a document to “help us prepare” which came in the form of a list of questions. I sat up until late going through the questions but they ended up having nothing to do with the interview which totally threw me.

I’m told I’m great at my job but these scenarios are hugely stressful and disadvantageous to neurodivergent people who just want to be able to give a straight answer to a straight question.

I don’t get nervous for interviews at all, but that’s because I’m going for the job because I want it, not because I’ve needed it. I always had savings to cover me for quite a few months or in a job at the time, so no pressure.

However, I get nervous about waking to the shops sometimes…..so horses for courses and all that.

YABU. Not everyone is good at them or feels confident. The more you do, the easier it gets though, certainly.