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To wonder why shoplifters are so thick and selfish?

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girlfriend44 · 12/08/2025 18:50

Pharmacies have today revealed they are suffering from increased shoplifting too.
Where us this all going to end

If people keep stealing there won't be any ships left will there?
Have they ever tried running a business?
What would they do if people kept stealing?
How low as well stealing from an independent pharmacy. It's hard enough for them as it is.

They are there for people in the community as well to help them?
Makes no sense.
People are thick and selfish.
Are they trying to ose everyone down?

🙄😪

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MeridaBrave · 16/08/2025 23:36

mumofoneAloneandwell · 12/08/2025 18:58

Youre on your own
Your family have bullied you and treated you like shit. Your kids dad is gone. No friends.
Youre down to your last few pounds. And your baby suddenly gets a fever

Are you really thick and selfish for stealing some calpol, which costs over £3?

Imo, no

Edit - ive been in this situation but have never stolen. But I've been so broke i might have had to. Thankfully things are a little better now.

Edited

You can get kids paracetamol free from your GP on prescription.

SpiritAdder · 16/08/2025 23:34

Minor crimes like shoplifting are caused by grinding poverty,
There are housing, health, food, energy, crises that have been worsening year on year for 15 years at least.
More and more child poverty
More and more homeless

There is no epidemic causing people to be thick or selfish.
They’re poor and desperate.

Athreedoorwardrobe · 16/08/2025 23:29

R0setheHat · 16/08/2025 12:38

I think it was a flippant tongue in cheek comment

Of course! I know its not going to really happen.. it's still an unhinged thing to say. It's not funny. Kids used to get their hands chopped off for stealing bread when they were starving. It's grim. As is the attitude towards shoplifters. Ghoulish and not really addressing any of the underlying issues.
Yeah sit there and wang on about corporal punishment and how these people are just filth, born evil or whatever.. then call anyone who wants to seriously talk about the causes 'a bleeding heart' or a 'woketard'..... but what good does any of that do? None. It's just smug.

R0setheHat · 16/08/2025 12:38

Athreedoorwardrobe · 13/08/2025 19:09

You are unhinged.
That is something that used to be done as a punishment for stealing. Do you think it lessened thievery? Have a look at the actual statistics. Read a bloody book.
Crime was far far higher in the days when punishments like that were dished out.
But I guess ghouls like you felt entertained and vindicated so that's all right then.

I think it was a flippant tongue in cheek comment

Athreedoorwardrobe · 13/08/2025 19:09

girlfriend44 · 13/08/2025 15:30

One way to stop it, but it will never happen, cut their hand off.
😱

You are unhinged.
That is something that used to be done as a punishment for stealing. Do you think it lessened thievery? Have a look at the actual statistics. Read a bloody book.
Crime was far far higher in the days when punishments like that were dished out.
But I guess ghouls like you felt entertained and vindicated so that's all right then.

TheStroppyFeminist · 13/08/2025 15:37

Well, if there are no consequences then people think (rightly) they can get away with it. It used to be considered a crime and the police would, rightly, respond and the CPS would prosecute. Now the police can't be bothered, even where a shop has CCTV of the incident and the criminal (because that's what a shoplifter is) has been apprehended, nothing happens. Shop staff have, rightly, been told not to intervene because they may be injured or worse.

I predict the major retailers will respond at some point and will implement measures to reduce this. I'm not sure what but it'll be better than what's there now, which is nothing. A friend who works in a supermarket says people regularly come in and fill a trolley with no intention of paying. The staff don't do anything, the police don't either so they get away with it.

It's theft and it's wrong but this is where we are.

girlfriend44 · 13/08/2025 15:30

One way to stop it, but it will never happen, cut their hand off.
😱

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Vitriolinsanity · 13/08/2025 12:38

This fictional penniless young mother with multi kids, no family, no help from anyone now has a diabetic child. Can her luck get any worse?

But the shop stealing epidemic is not down to this fictional person. It’s entirely down to the fact certain elements of our society know full well how to game what little system is left. Watching a group of teens stroll out of Tesco without a care in the world, you do wonder how things went so wrong.

RedLightGreenLiiight · 13/08/2025 10:17

girlfriend44 · 12/08/2025 21:13

Would Sandra like it it she was running a business and people did that to her?
Things are not free, the shop have had to pay for it. This is what I mean about being thick.

When all the pharmacy's close because they can't make a living where will everyone go there?

Exactly. You say you don't care about your neighbours helping themselves to stuff, but if they stole from you I'd expect you'd feel differently.

I own a shop and shoplifters boil my piss, they're not stealing essential items because they're starving or need medication. It's pure entitlement. The last one I caught was an almost 7ft tall middle aged man, he had no qualms about wrestling with a slight woman (me) as I tried to get my property back off him. I told him he was a pathetic waste of space for fighting a woman and he's stealing directly from my pocket as it's my shop. I got my stuff back and he slunk off, he was clearly counting on me not having the bottle to confront him.

Independent shops can't really afford to put up their prices to cover theft, otherwise noone would buy from them, as they can just buy cheaper online.

susiedaisy1912 · 13/08/2025 09:59

lnks · 12/08/2025 19:00

Some are thick and selfish,
others are desperate and at breaking point.

This.

user1471433754 · 13/08/2025 09:45

Mmmm, I was in Marks & Spencer a few days ago for a couple of things when I overhead two staff members commenting that a couple had gone out with a trolley full of food. That couple walked up to their very large car, she got in the passenger seat, he filled up the boot and away they went! 🤷

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 13/08/2025 08:56

Whammyyammy · 12/08/2025 21:47

I wonder why there is such an increase in crime?

Because the police do nothing. They’re too often more interested in investigating someone who’s posted something that could possibly offend someone on SM.

Pickledpoppetpickle · 13/08/2025 06:29

x2boys · 13/08/2025 04:55

Your child is entitled to free prescriptions and always will be as a diabetic then
I'm also the parent of a Diabetic
The lengths people are going to justify why shop lifting is ridiculous
The vast majority of shoplifting isn't dine by desperate mothers to feed their kids .

I'm fully aware of the entitlement. I was simply saying not e eryone can get a pharmacist to prescribe for them.

x2boys · 13/08/2025 04:55

Pickledpoppetpickle · 12/08/2025 22:39

my child is a type 1 diabetic. Pharmacists won’t touch him with a barge pole. Always tell us to speak to our GP.

Your child is entitled to free prescriptions and always will be as a diabetic then
I'm also the parent of a Diabetic
The lengths people are going to justify why shop lifting is ridiculous
The vast majority of shoplifting isn't dine by desperate mothers to feed their kids .

x2boys · 13/08/2025 04:50

SpringSpruce · 13/08/2025 01:20

It's more complex than that. She'd need to contact her health visitor or social worker not a gp, and whilst yes they would signpost her to support/a food bank there's a lot of potential shame and fear of being judged as not able to meet the babies needs which could push someone to steal it instead of admitting they don't have enough money to feed their baby.

Thees a lot more potential Shame in being caught shoplifting.....

TheStinkyPrincess · 13/08/2025 01:32

LIGHTSNACKER · 12/08/2025 19:33

I don't buy clothes with a label on anymore from vinted in case it is stolen.

I only buy george asda or next on ebay. Most designer labels are knock off such as LV bags etc.

I would rather buy a real leather bag from m and s when they have a sale.

SpringSpruce · 13/08/2025 01:20

ZoeCM · 12/08/2025 19:07

I don't think shoplifters steal out of desperation. If a mother can't afford formula, for example, I doubt any GP would send her away if she begged for it. Shoplifters steal out of entitlement.

It's more complex than that. She'd need to contact her health visitor or social worker not a gp, and whilst yes they would signpost her to support/a food bank there's a lot of potential shame and fear of being judged as not able to meet the babies needs which could push someone to steal it instead of admitting they don't have enough money to feed their baby.

sweeneytoddsrazor · 13/08/2025 00:30

Anyone who works in retail knows that by far the largest amount of shoplifting is done by organised Eastern European gangs who do not come in and steal a loaf and a tin of beans to feed the kids. They come in well prepared, often with their own detaggers , and will take hundreds of pounds worth in one go then travel to the next shop and do the same.

jetlag92 · 12/08/2025 23:59

EveningSpread · 12/08/2025 22:09

Because “thieves” might equally apply to the companies selling goods to a captive market at daylight robbery prices Grin

Possibly, but as you're unlikely to be a net contributor to society, maybe that's the only way get you to contribute a bit. (through VAT)

jetlag92 · 12/08/2025 23:53

ilovesooty · 12/08/2025 19:06

How much time have you spent working with acquisitive crime? I'm not endorsing or excusing it, but I don't think you have any idea what you're talking about.

Well it's pretty obvious on a base level - if more people steal things from a shop - that shop has to put up prices for everyone.

On a higher level - that criminal has got away with committing a crime and there is a lot of evidence (which I can google if someone can't be bothered to) that someone who commits smaller crimes and gets away with them, goes on to commit bigger ones.

1offnamechange · 12/08/2025 23:31

Athreedoorwardrobe · 12/08/2025 21:24

This is spot on. And there's also the fear of being seen as not coping. That social services might get on your back. A lot of people in these types of situations can be very distrustful of authority or any type of organisation. Due to have been continually treated like nothing etc

As I said previously I had to steal food in my late teens. I had absolutely no idea what a food bank even was and it just would not have occurred to me that anyone might help me. Having the confidence to ask and the expectation that people are on your side is a privilege people don't even understand they are raised with.

if someone hasn't heard of a foodbank in 2025 they live in a level of obliviousness so extreme they shouldn't be procreating.

apart from anything else in every supermarket I've ever been in you would have walked past the dropping off point for the local foodbank after nicking your stuff.

Pickledpoppetpickle · 12/08/2025 22:39

x2boys · 12/08/2025 19:13

Pharmacists can also prescribe so if you have a sick baby that needs paracetamol prescriptions are free for children..

my child is a type 1 diabetic. Pharmacists won’t touch him with a barge pole. Always tell us to speak to our GP.

MrsSkylerWhite · 12/08/2025 22:10

Erm, because they’re thick and selfish ….

EveningSpread · 12/08/2025 22:09

Carnation25 · 12/08/2025 19:00

Always wondered why they are called shoplifters and not thieves.

Because “thieves” might equally apply to the companies selling goods to a captive market at daylight robbery prices Grin