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To wonder why shoplifters are so thick and selfish?

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girlfriend44 · 12/08/2025 18:50

Pharmacies have today revealed they are suffering from increased shoplifting too.
Where us this all going to end

If people keep stealing there won't be any ships left will there?
Have they ever tried running a business?
What would they do if people kept stealing?
How low as well stealing from an independent pharmacy. It's hard enough for them as it is.

They are there for people in the community as well to help them?
Makes no sense.
People are thick and selfish.
Are they trying to ose everyone down?

🙄😪

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RobertaFirmino · 11/09/2025 17:26

I have shoplifted. One baking potato and 2 bananas. This was nearly 30 years ago. I was broke. All I had at home was half a block of cheese and some butter. Wasn't getting paid for another two days. So yes, I pinched something to eat. After having eaten plain pasta with grated cheese for the previous three days, those bananas tasted fantastic.

girlfriend44 · 11/09/2025 16:03

We had another one this week, made the local paper.
Shop showed the footage of a couple picking from an independent.
In the end due to the exposure, they returned the goods.

WHY DONT PEOPLE REALISE THERE ARE CAMERAS EVERYWHERE TODAY.

You could see in the footage they were trying to dodge being seen by the shop assistant, but the camera was filming it all.
It was like a joke watching them.

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 11/09/2025 11:43

C152 · 11/09/2025 11:23

Do you own a pharmacy that has a shoplifting problem, OP? Is that why you're so rude towards posters like @mumofoneAloneandwell and brush over lived experience? Whilst some stats suggest that it's likely shoplifting is often driven by organised gangs, there will always be some who shoplift out of a genuine need.

There's an interesting article on the myths vs reality of shoplifting in the UK here:

https://policinginsight.com/feature/analysis/whats-the-truth-behind-the-shoplifting-epidemic-six-key-questions-answered/

Are the pharmacies you are referring to using all of the measures available to help prevent theft? Because that, and lobbying the Gov to use a combination of carrot and stick approaches to encourage private organisations to put in place strategies that can help reduce shoplifting (and address the massive poverty issue) is the only thing that is going to bring about change.

Thank you, finally someone applying reasonable thinking to this thread

Some of the comments, so sad

Lincslady53 · 11/09/2025 11:41

Whenever shoplifting is discussed, there are always comments about poor single mother, starving with no options. The real problem with shoplifting, are the gangs that strip a whole rail of clothes, or a display of steaks, then intimidate and threaten any member of staff trying to stop them. I worked in high street retail for 30 years till 2018, and the gangs controlling shoplifters and beggers worsened every year. If you haven't worked in retail you have no idea what staff have to face on a daily basis

C152 · 11/09/2025 11:34

taxguru · 17/08/2025 19:49

@WaryCrow

If you don’t want the black market to exist then we need to find better economic solutions in a time when there are not and never have been enough jobs, wages pay nothing like the cost of living, and essential education or training costs money we do not have, other than denial that this is happening.

Lots of people "working" in the black economy etc are certainly not on the bones of their arses and many are relatively well off. Many "could" work proper jobs (or self employment) and pay the right taxes, abide by the laws, etc if they wanted to, but they want "something for nothing", so evade tax, defraud benefits, steal, sell stolen/duty free/counterfeit goods, etc.

I don't disagree with you that some people see crime as easier than work, but I read @WaryCrow 's post to be about the societal conditions that create a black market, rather than individual sellers. Criminals fencing stolen goods are opportunistic - they see what the market needs and they deliver. If people are buying stolen meat, baby formula, medicine etc., then the answer is to look at why they are doing that rather than buying from a shop (e.g. poverty, access etc) and solve those issues.

C152 · 11/09/2025 11:23

girlfriend44 · 12/08/2025 19:40

Give over, that's not why people are doing it.
They are doing shoplifting in general because they've got no.moral compass and because there is no deterrent.
Things aren't free.

Do you own a pharmacy that has a shoplifting problem, OP? Is that why you're so rude towards posters like @mumofoneAloneandwell and brush over lived experience? Whilst some stats suggest that it's likely shoplifting is often driven by organised gangs, there will always be some who shoplift out of a genuine need.

There's an interesting article on the myths vs reality of shoplifting in the UK here:

https://policinginsight.com/feature/analysis/whats-the-truth-behind-the-shoplifting-epidemic-six-key-questions-answered/

Are the pharmacies you are referring to using all of the measures available to help prevent theft? Because that, and lobbying the Gov to use a combination of carrot and stick approaches to encourage private organisations to put in place strategies that can help reduce shoplifting (and address the massive poverty issue) is the only thing that is going to bring about change.

Dancingsquirrels · 11/09/2025 10:33

taxguru · 12/08/2025 19:29

Nail on the head. Same with people buying duty free cigarettes and alcohol from a "bloke in the pub". If people stopped buying stuff from criminals, we'd be able to start shrinking the black economy.

See also paying tradesmen in cash for a discount. Tax evasion costs all of us

floraldreamer · 11/09/2025 10:27

Someone ran into my local wetherspoons kitchen recently, grabbed a load of packaged steaks and ran out again.
A lot of shoplifters are addicts. They need money to feed it and it is the only way they can get it. Then you have those who steal to order and/or to sell. Id say a very small minority are the ones who are on the bones of their arse needing to feed a baby etc.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 11/09/2025 10:18

Artmumcreative · 11/09/2025 09:16

Surely in this situation if you couldn't afford Calpol you'd take them to the GP or walk-in centre and all them to provide some Calpol

At 7pm? All you need is calpol to sort the fever

You could either spend hours in a&e for some calpol or solve the issue by taking some from tesco

I couldn't judge a woman for that

taxguru · 11/09/2025 09:21

Louiestopit · 18/08/2025 14:51

Well, some people can only afford to buy meat and laundry stuff from Pete behind the Wetherspoons. That’s the truth of it.

NO it really isn't. Most people doing that are doing it because they can, not because they're financially desperate. Look at those illegally selling duty free cigarettes and booze - most of the people buying have jobs and could afford to buy it in the shops, they just don't want to and get a buzz from buying it on the cheap, in the same way people like to buy counterfeit/fake perfumes, DVDs etc from car boot sales. They're the same people getting a buzz from tax evasion and benefit fraud by "getting one over on the man" or other stupid concepts!

Artmumcreative · 11/09/2025 09:16

mumofoneAloneandwell · 12/08/2025 18:58

Youre on your own
Your family have bullied you and treated you like shit. Your kids dad is gone. No friends.
Youre down to your last few pounds. And your baby suddenly gets a fever

Are you really thick and selfish for stealing some calpol, which costs over £3?

Imo, no

Edit - ive been in this situation but have never stolen. But I've been so broke i might have had to. Thankfully things are a little better now.

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Surely in this situation if you couldn't afford Calpol you'd take them to the GP or walk-in centre and all them to provide some Calpol

Hatey · 18/08/2025 15:21

Louiestopit · 18/08/2025 14:51

Well, some people can only afford to buy meat and laundry stuff from Pete behind the Wetherspoons. That’s the truth of it.

Really? Steak and expensive laundry pods.
Because it’s the expensive stuff that gets stolen.
Maybe they need to buy cheaper laundry detergent and buy mince.

Louiestopit · 18/08/2025 14:51

Hatey · 17/08/2025 19:37

I blame the people who buy the cheap meat and laundry pods.

Well, some people can only afford to buy meat and laundry stuff from Pete behind the Wetherspoons. That’s the truth of it.

anniegun · 17/08/2025 22:08

Bonden · 17/08/2025 09:52

Yes and like “sex with a fifteen year old girl” when it is actually rape.

Not necessarily.

Needmorelego · 17/08/2025 21:58

Vallmo47 · 17/08/2025 16:33

I work in a pharmacy in England and this isn’t true in the region I’m in. Whereabouts are you?

I'm in London.
To be honest the scheme might not exist anymore. I'm not sure. My daughter is 17 now and I know it was around about a decade ago.
Edit :
Apparently it comes under the NHS Minor Ailments Scheme and you can still get it if the pharmacist thinks your child needs it.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 17/08/2025 19:53

There are no consequences for stealing.
Once upon a time, there was a punishment including prison time.
These days, no prison space for medium/low crime, especially not for stealing

taxguru · 17/08/2025 19:49

@WaryCrow

If you don’t want the black market to exist then we need to find better economic solutions in a time when there are not and never have been enough jobs, wages pay nothing like the cost of living, and essential education or training costs money we do not have, other than denial that this is happening.

Lots of people "working" in the black economy etc are certainly not on the bones of their arses and many are relatively well off. Many "could" work proper jobs (or self employment) and pay the right taxes, abide by the laws, etc if they wanted to, but they want "something for nothing", so evade tax, defraud benefits, steal, sell stolen/duty free/counterfeit goods, etc.

KickHimInTheCrotch · 17/08/2025 19:48

Hatey · 17/08/2025 19:36

Lots of drug addicts etc won’t engage with therapy. I know some who have been to rehab and therapy and are on methadone. Still prefer to take any drugs they can get.
I also know a couple of alcoholics who steal alcohol.
The few I know got in with a bad crowd at school and never left. And they are in their late forties!

Methadone is the cheapest sticking plaster for a lifetime of addiction. There are much better drug treatment programmes out there but the government won't properly fund it.

And we can blame addicts for picking up the drug in the first place and not having the strength of character to say no. But addiction is an illness and should be treated like any other illness. It's also an illness that has a huge cost for communities in the form of crime, anti-social behaviour and safeguarding.

Hatey · 17/08/2025 19:37

I blame the people who buy the cheap meat and laundry pods.

Hatey · 17/08/2025 19:36

Lots of drug addicts etc won’t engage with therapy. I know some who have been to rehab and therapy and are on methadone. Still prefer to take any drugs they can get.
I also know a couple of alcoholics who steal alcohol.
The few I know got in with a bad crowd at school and never left. And they are in their late forties!

KickHimInTheCrotch · 17/08/2025 18:39

OonaStubbs · 17/08/2025 08:09

How would decriminalising drug users help to prevent shoplifting?

Because drugs like heroin and crack are very expensive. Users can end up needing to "earn" hundreds of pounds a day to just feed a fairly average drug habit.

Dealers can charge whatever they like - they are able to bring drugs into the country relatively easily, cut and distribute on to the streets via vulnerable young people to desperate addicts who need to use in order to function.

If people had easy access to medically approved alternatives and proper long term therapy, they would not need to feed their habits through theft, burglary, prostitution etc

But drug users don't get this because it's a criminal justice "problem" and the nhs can't fund decent drug treatment.

I don't think we should turn a blind eye to crime but I do think that the resources to address the actual problems are misdirected.

Corfumanchu · 17/08/2025 18:22

Selfish, yes but I don't know about thick. There are pretty much no consequences for shoplifting aside perhaps from getting banned from a store which they will pretty much ignore I imagine, given that trespass isn't even a crime.

girlfriend44 · 17/08/2025 17:53

TheStroppyFeminist · 13/08/2025 15:37

Well, if there are no consequences then people think (rightly) they can get away with it. It used to be considered a crime and the police would, rightly, respond and the CPS would prosecute. Now the police can't be bothered, even where a shop has CCTV of the incident and the criminal (because that's what a shoplifter is) has been apprehended, nothing happens. Shop staff have, rightly, been told not to intervene because they may be injured or worse.

I predict the major retailers will respond at some point and will implement measures to reduce this. I'm not sure what but it'll be better than what's there now, which is nothing. A friend who works in a supermarket says people regularly come in and fill a trolley with no intention of paying. The staff don't do anything, the police don't either so they get away with it.

It's theft and it's wrong but this is where we are.

People.just need to.treat others as they would like to.be treated and we wouldn't have a problem?
Would they like it if the boot was on the other foot?

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Vallmo47 · 17/08/2025 16:33

Needmorelego · 12/08/2025 19:05

You can get free paracetamol for babies/children at pharmacies without a prescription.
It's not widely promoted but apparently if you ask you will get it.

I work in a pharmacy in England and this isn’t true in the region I’m in. Whereabouts are you?

notnorman · 17/08/2025 16:19

Louiestopit · 17/08/2025 11:57

Unless people see the issues they cause, they don’t get it.

They want to be all inclusive, and welcoming and think that everyone has good intentions and most importantly, go out of their way not to sound racist. That’s great until they are using the local park toilet, which is what happens here.

I don’t think the people who are keen to pull you apart have actual experience of living around them.

Edited

Absolutely right. It’s just awful but people who don’t have any experience of them just don’t understand and immediately pull the racism card

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