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Sons boyfriend ruining our holiday

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SummerHolidayys · 12/08/2025 18:30

DS is 21, his bf is 19 (turning 20 during this trip). They've been dating for about a year and to be honest I don't know much about him. He's not very talkative and while I have tried it doesn't really go anywhere

His BF is has MH issues. We're currently away in Spain. We got here Sunday. Since then there's been nothing but problems with bf, complaining about the food even food I've seen him eat, pizza etc he doesn't want or like apparently.

He's been overly touchy and kissing with DS in front of us (me, DD, my sister & her children) and DS hasn't said anything but I can tell he looks uncomfortable.

He's taken a dislike to DD for some reason and told DS she threatened him, she's 14 and didn't witness this but I doubt she did. He just seems generally in a mood, doesn't want to go anywhere. DS kindly asked if he'd taken his meds and he started shouting at him and took it as an insult.

There's more but I don't want to make this too long. I wish I hadn't let him come now, I want to go home early.

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TonTonMacoute · 12/08/2025 18:39

This isn’t much help for you OP, but serves as a warning to not invite strangers on your holiday, even if your DS/DS thinks they’re the bees knees!

Is he your guest? If so I would be having as sympathetic a discussion as possible. You are concerned he doesn’t seem to be enjoying it, is there anything you can all do to help, but be blunt that he’s spoiling it for everyone else.

HerecomesMargo · 12/08/2025 18:38

He sounds like a real mess. Mh issues, no respect, dislikes your child and such an attention seeker.
have a firm word with your ds and ask him if this is what he wants his life to be like.
he sounds like a 19yo brat and im sure your ds can do better.

Actually you should have a firm word with him yourself. Saying stuff about your dd and shouting at your ds- you have the right to speak up. He will probably lash out and then you just send him packing

Vaxtable · 12/08/2025 18:37

I would speak to your DS on his own and explain how his bf is making everyone feel and it has to stop

if bf won’t then bf needs to go home early and won’t be invited on any more holidays

EatSleepDreamRepeat · 12/08/2025 18:34

It's not your DS fault, it's the boyfriend's fault. I wonder if you are seeing his true colours and if your DS is really happy? I'd try and make the best of it, tell your DS boyfriend if he doesn't like food etc he can sort his own- he is an adult. Then when you get home have a bit of a heart to heart with DS.

JudithOnHolidayAgain · 12/08/2025 18:33

Send him home early!

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