Wedding no show. Was I unreasonable to block her?

Is it possible she is under her husband's control? Coercive partners often do things to isolate their victim. He may have been behind the 2 no shows also.

I'd say she feels guilty, she knows she's done wrong so she's trying to make it your fault, I'd guess by trying to provoke you into being rude to her. That way she can say 'see? I KNEW we were right not to turn up to the wedding!'

But she knows she did wrong.

You are absolutely not being unreasonable and it sounds like she didn’t have any sort of excuse not to attend the wedding and not to tell you about it. Did something happen in the background that made her turn on you? Who knows… either way she should have been in touch. And she should have responded to your message.

The thing I don’t really understand is the blocking. What is this achieving other than to create additional drama? Blocking her husband as well - next level childish behaviour. I understand why you were frustrated but this is just not necessary as it shows her you are annoyed/upset. Move on quietly and let her stew for being an asshole. Now she has reason to think you are also there creating drama and she probably feels justified.

I would have been on my honeymoon for the next two weeks though and rather busy.

Whats the husband like OP from what you know of him?

Im probably completely off track but im thinking maybe he could have put a stop to her going/could be controlling etc?
Especially the fact he was the one ringing you.

It does sound like she was initially excited to go at first both to the hen and wedding.

Obviously I don’t know her and she might just be a total cow but that thought just came in my head as I’ve been with someone controlling.

If this was me I would have been furious! Very rude! I wud have messaged her with exactly what I thought - “how come you said you were coming to my wedding but instead you bailed and went to a national trust place that day instead? Unless there’s something really bad going on, I think that’s really rude and would like an explanation and an apology.” Then I’d see what she said. If I didn’t like the reply then I’d block her and move on. She’s obviously actually not your real friend, I’d never do that to someone, not even someone I didn’t really like!

To be honest I would have contacted her after the wedding to make sure that all was ok. You seem very focused on her posting on social media, but equally she could have been posting old pictures from her camera roll while sitting in a hospital bed. It is poor form that she did not contact you.

I wonder was it a friend in the group that made the bitch voicemail and that she used the husband's phone to let you know.

Because OP was enjoying her own wedding not chasing up no shows.

I would suspect the DH didn’t want to come & likely didn’t want her to come to hen do. Or she got the fear about an event with people she doesn’t know or no longer sees.

In any case a card & gift & apology for not attending would have been the best way to deal with it.

I think blocking people is childish. Either ignore her or have a conversation. But blocking stops the opportunity for any sort of explanation.

I’d block her too. It doesn’t seem there was a major family emergency if she was posting online. Even if she forgot (how if she said she’d booked hotel and train) she would’ve seen your photos online.

Lol and we all know SM post reflects RL. Ignore she's been making an effort to make SM even more normal than usual, that's also a concern.

I would have just left it, no need for blocking or anything else really. Yes its annoying and infuriating but you don't see her or really speak to her so whats the point in blocking her?

If she did message or call just ignore it and don't read. I'm sure that would get the message over.

This seems like such an alteration in character. Do you know her husband at all? I wonder what he is like. Might they have had a row over her attending the hen party and on the wedding day?

I think the calls were from her, it's too much of a coincidence. To ring someone's phone at that time of night is despicable. It's a very immature and cruel thing to have done.

I feel there may be some issues with her that you don't know about but of course you were right to have ended the friendship.

Had her phone stolen- rubbish or no PIN code and being used by thieves, doesn’t have your number in her head?
doesnt explain getting another phone and being on insta without trying to trace you that way though

If a long standing friend was acting completely out of character, I'd be worried, not blocking them, even if they had missed my wedding.

Do you believe it was her and her mates behind the voicemail

I can’t think of a single good reason for her to treat you like this. Be done with her and don’t give her a single thought ever again. What a horrible woman!

You're well rid.
Block and delete the number.
If they start being twats, contact the police.

Could you have said something about her missing the hen do that got back to her? Her posting photos on the day of the wedding is really bad and showed she didn’t care whatsoever. Yet she apologised about missing the hen do so comparing that to what she did for the wedding means something has been said to her in between the two events in my opinion