Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Was IBU for walking out of shop at checkout?

286 replies

PersianKittens · 12/08/2025 12:26

I'm not naming the shop, but this morning, I went into a big high street retailer to collect a click and collect order and whilst I was there, I had a look around and picked up a few more things.

Went to till, total came to over £150, all fine, sales assistant asked if they could have my email address for the receipt. I said, no thanks, a paper receipt is fine thanks, she said, sorry we don't do paper receipts, we need to have your email address to provide that. I looked at her and said I had never come across any other retailer doing that, but she stood her ground and said in an assertive tone, I need your email address. Again I refused and said, if that's the case, I'll just leave it and walked away. Last time I gave a retailer my email in store, I was bombarded with daily emails, despite unsubscribing via the link at every email received.

WIBU to have walked away as I didn't want to hand over my personal data? Driving home, I did think about creating a separate email account for this reason, but then again, why should I? surely my preferences should be respected.

OP posts:
pinenuts75 · 12/08/2025 17:24

dynamiccactus · 12/08/2025 16:30

Well your employer needs to check their compliance with consumer law then. You do not need a receipt. You do need a proof of purchase. They are not the same thing.

Q. A consumer doesn't produce a receipt; does the trader have to do anything even if the goods are faulty?
A. There is no legal requirement for the consumer to provide or produce a receipt. If the trader does not remember the consumer buying the item they can ask the consumer to provide proof of purchase. This can be a credit card voucher or cheque stub or anything that indicates when and where the item was bought.

https://www.businesscompanion.info/en/quick-guides/goods/selling-and-supplying-goods#Consumerrightssummary

(love the reference to cheque stub - does anyone even still accept cheques in shops?)

I’m pretty sure a company like dunelm knows the law.

Tink3rbell30 · 12/08/2025 17:22

But now you don't have the stuff you wanted. I get it's a bit irritating but emails are given for any website you want to shop on, aswell as websites like this so it's not sacred information.

NotPerfectlyAdverage · 12/08/2025 17:20

Set up a new Gmail just for shopping. I have two email accounts now. I also periodically unsubscribe from everything

IntoTheFringe · 12/08/2025 17:19

AgentJohnson · 12/08/2025 12:32

But you went there to collect a click and collect order, so presumably they already had your email address. I get your annoyance but in this instance, the walking out was performative.

Exactly! Surely almost everyone has shopped online at some point in their life so I don't understand the reluctance to give out email addresses. I've had a separate email address for shopping for years now to avoid too much spam in my inbox. I'd rather have an email receipt than a bit of paper I might lose.

I'm sure a big high street retailer isn't going to miss your custom so I'm not sure what you think you have achieved here.

Wheech · 12/08/2025 17:16

BustyLaRoux · 12/08/2025 13:45

On the subject of spam emails, I have a number of places I’ve ordered from online and now despite unsubscribing multiple times I still get their bloody emails. Saint and Sofia I’m looking at you.

Get screenshots of your successful unsubscribe and report them to the ICO. I hate these companies harvesting data.

Clafoutie · 12/08/2025 17:12

Moveoverdarlin · 12/08/2025 16:01

It’s like it’s 1999 with all these reactions. What’s the issue with them having your email address? I buy stuff from Next, M&S, John Lewis, Amazon, ASOS, PLT, SHEIN, Net a Porter, B&Q, ScrewFix, Look Fantastic, Smyths, Boots, Dunelm, New Look, River Island, Ryan Air, EasyJet, Virgin and a gazillion other online retailers regularly. They all have my email address and have done for about 20 years. As yet I’ve not been victim to some scam or fraudulent goings on.

If some get over zealous with their marketing emails I just unsubscribe.

Any emails that are shit, go straight in to my junk.

I just can’t see the big deal. I presume you didn’t actually need anything in the Dunelm order? If you needed a BBQ, paddling pool and washing line for the nice weather tomorrow, I guess your husband might be a bit peed off.

The issue is, you should have a choice as to whether you hand over your personal data as well as money for your purchase. You talk of 1999, as if people are clinging to the past, yet all indications are that data theft is increasing, not improving. Corporations are owed money for your purchase, no more than that. It’s about the right to have a choice.

Londonrach1 · 12/08/2025 17:10

Yanbu. I would have walked out too. Let head office now if the failed sale. I'm paying with cash everywhere now after a sales assistant struggled to count 10p in coins. We need cash

jetlag92 · 12/08/2025 17:09

I just say that I don't give out my email address and then I get a paper receipt. I've never had an issue.

SerendipityJane · 12/08/2025 17:09

mnahmnah · 12/08/2025 17:05

Give them a fake Email In future

[email protected]

As long as that doesn't inconvenience someone who may actual own/use that email address. With hundreds of billions of email addresses in existence (plus the potential for an almost unlimited number that may not bounce) you'd have to be sure.

Hotagain · 12/08/2025 17:06

I’ve heard of this before. You did right. I always want a paper receipt in case I shop elsewhere that trip. Also it’s easier to work out later which receipt I need if I need to return something. I could set up a separate email for shopping receipts but doesn’t everything link up anyway and with businesses being flawed more of my details could end up being hacked. Such Shops should have to declare no paper receipt on their entrance doors, so can avoid wasting time on both sides.
also a pain if they mistype or the system goes down!

mnahmnah · 12/08/2025 17:05

Give them a fake Email In future

[email protected]

SerendipityJane · 12/08/2025 17:05

B1anche · 12/08/2025 16:39

Exactly! I'd rather be responsible for a paper receipt than risk the cashier typing my email in wrong and not getting one at all.

As I noted, under GDPR there is an obligation on the organisation capturing the data to ensure it is accurate. Usually this translates into "We sent them on a course".

Genevieva · 12/08/2025 17:01

Could you have bought the shopping without a receipt?

Also, why not just name the retailer?

GasperyJacquesRoberts · 12/08/2025 16:57

"You want my email address? Sure. It's th1s_1s_an_incr3dibly_l0ng-and_d1ff1cult_t0_typ3_3mail_addr3ss@p0int3less.waste.of.t1me.com. Let me spell it for you - tango, hotel, number one, sierra, underscore, number one..."

XiCi · 12/08/2025 16:52

IMissSparkling · 12/08/2025 12:43

If pushed, I just tell them breezily that I don't have an email address. 🤥 I do sometimes get the side eye but I always get a paper receipt!

I do this. They say 'have you got an email address' and I just say 'no, I haven't' then get a paper receipt straight away. No way I would have left stuff I'd ordered via click and collect and have a wasted journey

DolphinOnASkateboard · 12/08/2025 16:46

MounjaroMounjaro · 12/08/2025 16:12

I was just thinking that.

Not at all. The only time receipts are legally required is when a VAT-registered business is buying somethign from another VAT-registered business. And on a similar note, you don't actually need a receipt to enforce your consumer rights with a retailer, whatever they may say.

lazyarse123 · 12/08/2025 16:41

My dh would be fucked then. He doesn't have an email address, not the first clue how to use mine.

Hurryupwearedreaming · 12/08/2025 16:41

A few months back I bought something in Mountain Warehouse and they were insisting on an email receipt. I don’t buy much new stuff so didn’t have an alternative email ready and didn’t want to say my personal email address out loud (it’s not really keeping your data secure and some of us feel the need to be more careful) Anyway, after insisting they gave me a paper receipt. Then I helped a much older lady after me get a paper receipt. I then heard the salespersons discussing if they had reached their email targets for the week. So that’s what the reason is.

Spindrifts · 12/08/2025 16:40

Well, especially if it is your main email address with all sorts of important stuff. I have another email which is easy to remember for all the promotional and shop stuff.

B1anche · 12/08/2025 16:39

dynamiccactus · 12/08/2025 16:31

I also love all the arguments being made "but if you lose it you won't be able to return it".

Well firstly, are you saying the item is so crap that I will return it*?

And secondly are you saying I am so disorganised that I will lose the receipt?

*I did once have this years ago when I bought a TV for £200 and the salesman tried to sell me an extended warranty for £80. He wasn't pleased when I said no. I did say that if the TV was that rubbish I'd bring it back under consumer laws.

Edited

Exactly! I'd rather be responsible for a paper receipt than risk the cashier typing my email in wrong and not getting one at all.

Nowaynowayhose · 12/08/2025 16:39

I used to get an email receipt from Dunelm. Then on one occasion the receipt never came through, (the sales person must have entered it wrong). I needed to refund the item, luckily I went straight back to the store the same day. It was a faff, but because they hadn’t cashed up for the day they could find the evidence of the sale. I was told by the sales person that this happens a lot! Since then I always ask for a paper receipt.

mamagogo1 · 12/08/2025 16:38

I’ve been asked if they can email the receipt many times in many stores but when I say no I’ve always been offered a paper one. I do give my email to shops where I actually need the receipt where there’s a warranty on the product eg Curry’s but never in clothing stores

B1anche · 12/08/2025 16:36

dynamiccactus · 12/08/2025 16:30

Well your employer needs to check their compliance with consumer law then. You do not need a receipt. You do need a proof of purchase. They are not the same thing.

Q. A consumer doesn't produce a receipt; does the trader have to do anything even if the goods are faulty?
A. There is no legal requirement for the consumer to provide or produce a receipt. If the trader does not remember the consumer buying the item they can ask the consumer to provide proof of purchase. This can be a credit card voucher or cheque stub or anything that indicates when and where the item was bought.

https://www.businesscompanion.info/en/quick-guides/goods/selling-and-supplying-goods#Consumerrightssummary

(love the reference to cheque stub - does anyone even still accept cheques in shops?)

(love the reference to cheque stub - does anyone even still accept cheques in shops?)

Oh I'd love to whip out a cheque book in New Look!😂

Castieldeansam · 12/08/2025 16:36

Create an email specifically for this purpose. That way you can find your receipts if you need them but ignore anything else. Call it something like annoyingdigitalreceipts or something that will amuse the staff!

dynamiccactus · 12/08/2025 16:35

Moveoverdarlin · 12/08/2025 15:51

I’d give you a sympathetic look back and say ‘Ahhh you getting forgetful my love? It’s a click and collect order, you needed an email to make the purchase. We then emailed you to say it’s ready - that’s literally why you’re standing here you silly billy!’

If you spoke to me in that patronising way I'd walk out and I'd hope that you were in more trouble for losing £150 worth of sales than you would be for not getting an email address from me. But no doubt you'd go and huddle with your colleagues and moan dark things about "Karens".

And the OP has already said that it was her husband's email address for the click and collect and in any event she might not have been in there for the C&C first.

Swipe left for the next trending thread