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Was IBU for walking out of shop at checkout?

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PersianKittens · 12/08/2025 12:26

I'm not naming the shop, but this morning, I went into a big high street retailer to collect a click and collect order and whilst I was there, I had a look around and picked up a few more things.

Went to till, total came to over £150, all fine, sales assistant asked if they could have my email address for the receipt. I said, no thanks, a paper receipt is fine thanks, she said, sorry we don't do paper receipts, we need to have your email address to provide that. I looked at her and said I had never come across any other retailer doing that, but she stood her ground and said in an assertive tone, I need your email address. Again I refused and said, if that's the case, I'll just leave it and walked away. Last time I gave a retailer my email in store, I was bombarded with daily emails, despite unsubscribing via the link at every email received.

WIBU to have walked away as I didn't want to hand over my personal data? Driving home, I did think about creating a separate email account for this reason, but then again, why should I? surely my preferences should be respected.

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SweetHydrangea · 12/08/2025 18:08

pinenuts75 · 12/08/2025 18:00

No it isn’t it doesn’t prove what you have bought

It is against the law. Look it up on the government website. And every large store in existence keeps transaction data so if you give the date and amount plus your last 4 digits of the card you paid with (all on the bank statement), they can find the transaction.

if you work in a small shop you might not have that system, but a bank statement is still proof of purchase, your employer/you if your shop can’t override the law regardless of what you might think.

pinenuts75 · 12/08/2025 18:07

stillhiding1990 · 12/08/2025 18:05

How would they know what item was bought though?

Exactly 🙄

SporadicMincePieMuncher · 12/08/2025 18:07

mnahmnah · 12/08/2025 17:05

Give them a fake Email In future

[email protected]

Um, then she wouldn't end up with the receipt that she wants...

stillhiding1990 · 12/08/2025 18:05

SweetHydrangea · 12/08/2025 17:53

Not sure where you work but that’s actually against the law. A bank statement is classed a proof of purchase.

How would they know what item was bought though?

stillhiding1990 · 12/08/2025 18:04

They would have had your email address for your click and collect surely?

LIGHTSNACKER · 12/08/2025 18:03

If you did a click and collect order surely they have your email already?

SporadicMincePieMuncher · 12/08/2025 18:02

AgentJohnson · 12/08/2025 12:32

But you went there to collect a click and collect order, so presumably they already had your email address. I get your annoyance but in this instance, the walking out was performative.

This. You gave the company your email address when you made a click and collect purchase.

SweetHydrangea · 12/08/2025 18:01

CBM40 · 12/08/2025 17:33

Do you have a job ? If your manager TOLD you you HAVE to do something what would you do ?
Maybe you are a manager. What would you do if you TOLD an employee they HAD to do something and they refused.
Do you really think shop assistants have anything to do with any decisions a company makes ? Really?

No one is saying they cant ask a customer for their email if their manager has asked them too, but they shouldn’t be standing there out right lying to people, saying they can’t provide a paper receipt when they know full well they can. That is on the shop assistant and they can absolutely control that behaviour.

pinenuts75 · 12/08/2025 18:00

SweetHydrangea · 12/08/2025 17:53

Not sure where you work but that’s actually against the law. A bank statement is classed a proof of purchase.

No it isn’t it doesn’t prove what you have bought

PerplexedConfusedBewildered · 12/08/2025 17:55

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SweetHydrangea · 12/08/2025 17:53

pinenuts75 · 12/08/2025 16:02

You certainly need your receipt for a refund where I work, we don’t accept bank/credit card statements as proof of purchase.

Not sure where you work but that’s actually against the law. A bank statement is classed a proof of purchase.

pinenuts75 · 12/08/2025 17:48

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/08/2025 17:47

I don’t think you’ve made the rules? I’m aware that it’s instructed from above. But assistants make out there is no other option, when there is. That’s a choice.

I never push if they want a paper receipt they are more than welcome!

Fundays12 · 12/08/2025 17:47

Good on you. You absolutely can refuse to give out your email address as ifs classed as personal information under the GPDR act. Personally I would be complaining to their head office and reminding them of the fact they have no right to demand personal information under law.

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/08/2025 17:47

pinenuts75 · 12/08/2025 17:38

Thank you for clarifying! It really annoys me customers think I have made the rules to ask for a bloody email! I hate asking as much as the customer (not all) hates been asked.

I don’t think you’ve made the rules? I’m aware that it’s instructed from above. But assistants make out there is no other option, when there is. That’s a choice.

samarrange · 12/08/2025 17:40

dynamiccactus · 12/08/2025 16:30

Well your employer needs to check their compliance with consumer law then. You do not need a receipt. You do need a proof of purchase. They are not the same thing.

Q. A consumer doesn't produce a receipt; does the trader have to do anything even if the goods are faulty?
A. There is no legal requirement for the consumer to provide or produce a receipt. If the trader does not remember the consumer buying the item they can ask the consumer to provide proof of purchase. This can be a credit card voucher or cheque stub or anything that indicates when and where the item was bought.

https://www.businesscompanion.info/en/quick-guides/goods/selling-and-supplying-goods#Consumerrightssummary

(love the reference to cheque stub - does anyone even still accept cheques in shops?)

This can be a credit card voucher or cheque stub or anything that indicates when and where the item was bought.

The problem is that if you buy 6 items totalling £150, a card receipt for that amount of money doesn't indicate that this was when you bought the £45 hair straighteners or whatever. Maybe you bought them a year earlier as part of a purchase of 5 items totalling £110, and now you're trying it on after the guarantee has expired.

pinenuts75 · 12/08/2025 17:38

CBM40 · 12/08/2025 17:33

Do you have a job ? If your manager TOLD you you HAVE to do something what would you do ?
Maybe you are a manager. What would you do if you TOLD an employee they HAD to do something and they refused.
Do you really think shop assistants have anything to do with any decisions a company makes ? Really?

Thank you for clarifying! It really annoys me customers think I have made the rules to ask for a bloody email! I hate asking as much as the customer (not all) hates been asked.

SweetHydrangea · 12/08/2025 17:37

I bet it was New Look or Dunelm! I’ve been completely bullshitted by them in the past and I always stand my ground, then complain to head office about the particular store. I gave Dunelm the benefit of the doubt a couple of months ago as I had bad morning sickness and couldn’t be bothered to argue, she typed my email in wrong so I didn't get the receipt, went back to say it hasn’t come through and the next thing I know I’ve been subscribed to their email list!! It’s all to meet in store targets and it really pisses me off!

samarrange · 12/08/2025 17:36

Tell them your e-mail is persiankittens (at) mailinator (dot) com

Mailinator is (among other things) a free service for e-mails that you don't want to get. You give out the address and forget about it, but you can also log in and collect the mails without a password if you really want them. They are auto-deleted after a few days. It's perfect for situations like this.

Growlybear83 · 12/08/2025 17:35

I assumed it was Dunelm when I read your first post. My local branch always tries to get my email address off me but they do eventually give in when I tell them that I don’t have one. If they ever refuse to give me a paper receipt then I would do the same as you and walk out.

pinenuts75 · 12/08/2025 17:35

IntoTheFringe · 12/08/2025 17:25

Then you wouldn't get a receipt.

Exactly and these are the customers who moan when they can’t get a refund because they have no receipt 🙄

CBM40 · 12/08/2025 17:33

OnlyMabelInTheBuilding · 12/08/2025 15:24

I also refuse, it’s nonsense. And they can definitely give paper receipts, but they get targeted on email receipts, signing up to mailing lists, so they pretend you can’t.

I have no interest in helping a sales assistant meet nonsense targets; I don’t want spammed with any more shit. Always ask for paper, I’d leave it too if they pretended they couldn’t, and send a complaint off naming the staff member. But I’ve found they always back down, and print one, even if some will glare while doing so.

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Do you have a job ? If your manager TOLD you you HAVE to do something what would you do ?
Maybe you are a manager. What would you do if you TOLD an employee they HAD to do something and they refused.
Do you really think shop assistants have anything to do with any decisions a company makes ? Really?

SirBasil · 12/08/2025 17:31

SerendipityJane · 12/08/2025 14:36

GDPR requires that personal data be captured accurately and that a company can demonstrate they are doing this.

It's not a big deal, but thought I'd flag it ....

my name is complicated to spell. If i stand there and spell it phonetically (and don't get me started on shop assistants who write, for eg "sierra, india, romeo" and then get huffy when i say - no "s - i - r" but then when i get to the last letter (l) they have to be told 26 times... And then, you ask if you can see it to check it's right, but that's not possibe.

It is a waste of their time, my time, and everyone in the queue behind me's time.

so it is easier to say: no i want a paper receipt. No? Now i want a refund because i don't want these things.

SerendipityJane · 12/08/2025 17:29

Wheech · 12/08/2025 17:16

Get screenshots of your successful unsubscribe and report them to the ICO. I hate these companies harvesting data.

How much recompense do you get for having your privacy violated and your time in having to get it corrected ?

The answer to that question is the answer to how serious data protection is in the UK.

party4you · 12/08/2025 17:28

PersianKittens · 12/08/2025 12:36

My husband placed the order so it was his email address. He sent me the screenshot of the order confirmation to collect. He’s also that person with over 2500+ unread email notifications on his phone which bugs the life out of me lol.

Then give his email… you can also opt out of the marketing ones.

IntoTheFringe · 12/08/2025 17:25

mnahmnah · 12/08/2025 17:05

Give them a fake Email In future

[email protected]

Then you wouldn't get a receipt.

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