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Was IBU for walking out of shop at checkout?

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PersianKittens · 12/08/2025 12:26

I'm not naming the shop, but this morning, I went into a big high street retailer to collect a click and collect order and whilst I was there, I had a look around and picked up a few more things.

Went to till, total came to over £150, all fine, sales assistant asked if they could have my email address for the receipt. I said, no thanks, a paper receipt is fine thanks, she said, sorry we don't do paper receipts, we need to have your email address to provide that. I looked at her and said I had never come across any other retailer doing that, but she stood her ground and said in an assertive tone, I need your email address. Again I refused and said, if that's the case, I'll just leave it and walked away. Last time I gave a retailer my email in store, I was bombarded with daily emails, despite unsubscribing via the link at every email received.

WIBU to have walked away as I didn't want to hand over my personal data? Driving home, I did think about creating a separate email account for this reason, but then again, why should I? surely my preferences should be respected.

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Speckly · 13/08/2025 20:11

If you were collecting a click and collect item, didn’t they already have your email address? 🤣

SausageRoll2020 · 13/08/2025 20:07

You obviously provided the company with your email address for the Click and Collect order, so you don't object to this company having your data, you just wanted to make yourself feel important.
My sympathy is entirely with the retail employee who had to deal with you.

Some retailers will be using a POS system which only allows for email receipts.

MMUmum · 13/08/2025 19:59

I once agreed to an email receipt from Dunelm, never received it and when I rang them they said they couldn't resend it as they didn't keep them on store records, so I ended up with no receipt, never again !🙄

Nclow · 13/08/2025 19:59

I reckon if you asked to see a copy of their Fair Processing Notice / Privacy Notice at the point they asked for your email address, then asked if they intend to use your email address to send you marketing emails in addition to sending you your receipt and if they are, how they intend to ask for and then record your explicit consent to receiving said marketing emails, and then ask if any of their data processing takes place outside of the UK and if so, who their data controller is (so that you can just have a quick Google to assure yourself right there at the till that there are the right safeguards in place to ensure that the provisions of the Data Protection Act will be applied to your data) and that if they don't know about any of this then could they bring a manager over that can help you...they might decide to hit that "print" button with some haste!

dh280125 · 13/08/2025 19:52

I never do it either.

JustMeAndTheFish · 13/08/2025 19:39

UntIl a couple of years ago I would have agreed with you.
Until I lost a paper receipt and the shop explained that I could have got a refund if I’d agreed to the email receipt.
But has to be said, I’ve never ever been inundated with emails from anywhere - just the receipts I needed..

Wildefish · 13/08/2025 19:34

PersianKittens · 12/08/2025 12:26

I'm not naming the shop, but this morning, I went into a big high street retailer to collect a click and collect order and whilst I was there, I had a look around and picked up a few more things.

Went to till, total came to over £150, all fine, sales assistant asked if they could have my email address for the receipt. I said, no thanks, a paper receipt is fine thanks, she said, sorry we don't do paper receipts, we need to have your email address to provide that. I looked at her and said I had never come across any other retailer doing that, but she stood her ground and said in an assertive tone, I need your email address. Again I refused and said, if that's the case, I'll just leave it and walked away. Last time I gave a retailer my email in store, I was bombarded with daily emails, despite unsubscribing via the link at every email received.

WIBU to have walked away as I didn't want to hand over my personal data? Driving home, I did think about creating a separate email account for this reason, but then again, why should I? surely my preferences should be respected.

What happens if you don’t have an email address

LillyPJ · 13/08/2025 19:25

Well, I just asked Chat gpt and apparently shops are not obliged to provide paper receipts in the UK. However, it says most will give you one or some other proof of purchase if you ask. I guess I'd accept buying groceries or similar without a receipt but I would not buy a bigger item without. I'd walk out and go elsewhere rather than give them my email.

hididdlyho · 13/08/2025 19:18

Sounds like a new over enthusiastic staff member. I've worked in sales where the managers insist you objection handle at least once before you stop asking, in order to not piss off the customer too much. If they're letting you walk out, rather than buy your items, clearly there's something wrong with that sales model!

It's such a shit system though, because even if a shop refused to provide a paper receipt, you could still prove proof of purchase through bank statement etc. My business doesn't send out marketing emails, but we do ask for an e-mail address at the time of ordering, so we can let customers know when their order is ready to collect. We get lots of calls from people wanting updates on their orders because they gave a fake e-mail address to avoid getting marketing spam.

LillyPJ · 13/08/2025 19:10

B1anche · 12/08/2025 12:28

Was it New Look? Or Dunelm? They are both bad for insisting on digital receipts. I always stand my ground.

They don't really 'insist' at Dunelm. They just ask for it and I always say no and ask for a paper receipt instead.

LillyPJ · 13/08/2025 19:08

I'm pretty certain she was wrong. I don't think a shop can demand any of your data (including an email address) and I think they are obliged to give you a receipt if you want one. Perhaps you could have asked to speak to the manager? If the assistant was wrong, as I suspect she was, she needs to know.

Airspice · 13/08/2025 19:06

I had the same in New Look the other day, I said ‘no I’ll have a paper receipt please’, to which the lady replied ‘we don’t do them anymore’, I refused to give her my email and said I didn’t want to be bombarded with junk mail. She said they don’t send any but I just told her I wouldn’t bother with a receipt and walked out. I think it’s wrong 🤷🏼‍♀️

Pelsall116 · 13/08/2025 19:03

So how does anyone go on who doesn't have an email address? Not everyone does

Bernardo1 · 13/08/2025 18:39

I think you make a good point about how you can accumulate spam email. So why didn't you give husbands email as he ordered it.

YouCantHandleTheRuth · 13/08/2025 18:37

Create an email address just for occasions such as this ... something along the lines of "[email protected]" ....

.... or stronger!

Beachhutgirl · 13/08/2025 18:32

I was told in one store that they could not process a cash refund (£5 for a faulty item) without my email address. Reluctantly I gave it, but threatened to complain if I got any marketing emails.

This worked, in that store they can opt you out of further contact.

fetchacloth · 13/08/2025 18:28

Venalopolos · 12/08/2025 12:30

Dunelm always give me a paper receipt without argument when I ask.

Agreed, I always tell them that I already receive emails so I don't supply my email address again.
Unless the purchase is online, I would expect and insist on a receipt, even if it meant speaking to a manager to make it happen.

Laura95167 · 13/08/2025 18:02

What happens if someone doesnt have email

AliciaLeeming · 13/08/2025 13:06

Bromptotoo · 12/08/2025 16:31

I've never heard of any store needing my email.

I was foolish enough to give it to Halfords once and was then carpet bombed with marketing emails.

Halfords once demanded my full postal address to sell me a sat nav ( when they were new fangled things).

I refused and the assistant told me he couldn't sell it to me without the details. That was quite the stand-off. The store manager came eventually and very reluctantly "approved" the sale.

I never ever give my personal details instore. That includes my email address.

Tollington · 13/08/2025 06:54

I say that I don’t have an email

IDontHateRainbows · 13/08/2025 06:42

It's not very 'embracing diversity ' is it. My mum is electronically illiterate, never had an email, can't even use a smart phone, but always asks for a receipt. What would they do with her?

Laiste · 13/08/2025 06:39

God this thread has bought out the idiots hasnt it 🙄

Growlybear83 · 12/08/2025 21:17

BusWankers · 12/08/2025 19:41

Really? How do they do any work? Are they not employed?
Do they never book anything online ever?

Edited

They’ve both recently retired so not particularly elderly by any means. And no, neither of them has ever ordered anything online. My friend’s daughter has bought her an occasional thing on Amazon but that’s all. She’s never had a credit or debit card either, although I think her husband has a debit card. She pays for everything in cash. I can’t imagine not using cards but it seems to work fine for them.

TheGreatWesternShrew · 12/08/2025 21:09

Surely if they were trying to send you a receipt you’d already paid? So then you stormed out.. without the stuff? With the stuff but no receipt?

SirBasil · 12/08/2025 20:49

BusWankers · 12/08/2025 19:42

Well that's not a reason.

My mother is 86 and has 3 different email addresses.

and my mum was perfectly fine with email and online until suddenly she wasn'T

We need to keep on at government and companies to prevent this becoming the norm. There must always be an analogue solution, just in case, anyway.

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