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Is this guy a peado or am I being paranoid?

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purpledaze24 · 12/08/2025 12:20

I take my 3 yo DS to our local play park around 3 mornings a week. Often when we’re there there’s this man there sitting on a bench with his dog, but never with a child, he’s always just with the dog. The play park isn’t enclosed from the wider park so he didn’t stand out that much at first but the last few times I’ve seen him he seems to be taking pictures with his phone of the kids playing. He’s pretty blatant about it, not trying to hide it. He also has an attachment on his phone, which looks like it’s over the camera lens. I’ve never got close enough to properly inspect it but it looks like a small black square over the lens and sticking up at the top of the phone. I’m wondering if this could be a zoom…he looks very normal (not that that means anything I know), early 30s, good-looking, well-dressed. I’ve never seen anyone challenge him - maybe because he’s so blatant about it & the park is often busy & people probably assume he has a child playing who he’s taking pictures of. He definitely doesn’t btw. I’ve seen him leave and arrive before and it’s always just him and the dog. I know that, technically he’s not breaking any laws. Anyone can takes pictures of anyone in a public place but he’s giving me the creeps. I cannot think of any possible reason why he’d so regularly be taking photos of random children other than that he’s a peadophile. There’s also nothing else he could be taking pics of, his dog is by his side. AIBU? What should I do? I don’t feel comfortable challenging him

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Mydustymonstera · 12/08/2025 13:13

I’d be worried too OP
I suspect community policing might be best.

Campingisnexttogodliness · 12/08/2025 13:11

I would log it with the police. Bet he isn't even allowed near dc...
Imo.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 12/08/2025 13:11

PhilippaGeorgiou · 12/08/2025 13:08

You assume all people walking their dog alone in a park, sitting on a bench and possessing a phone are "pedos"? The police must be very busy in your area. I saw at least 30 of them just this morning when I was walking my dog alone in possession of a phone.

Is anyone ever going learn how to spell it?

No, but I'd assume someone sat in a kids park holding what looks to be camera equipment could be a pedo - (which is the correct spelling??) - and I'd warn the authorities

PhilippaGeorgiou · 12/08/2025 13:08

mumofoneAloneandwell · 12/08/2025 12:58

Assume hes a pedo. Don't approach but let the authorities know x

You assume all people walking their dog alone in a park, sitting on a bench and possessing a phone are "pedos"? The police must be very busy in your area. I saw at least 30 of them just this morning when I was walking my dog alone in possession of a phone.

Is anyone ever going learn how to spell it?

Stanlow · 12/08/2025 13:07

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Nevertrustacop · 12/08/2025 13:06

The police will have zero interest in this. He is doing nothing wrong. If he makes you uneasy, go away. We have no idea whether he is a person sexualy attracted to children or not. You can't tell by reading about them. Even if he is, he is still allowed to take photos of fully clad children in a public place.

PestoHoliday · 12/08/2025 13:04

"Peado" looks like an Aldi knock off version of swimwear.

I wouldn't immediately jump to paedophile from Bloke On Bench With His Dog. I sit and edit the bird photos I take when I'm in the park and I usually do it near the children's playground because it's nice there. So perhaps I 'm biased towards having -a-sit-on-a-bench people.

But if you're worried, contact the parks department of your council.

mumofoneAloneandwell · 12/08/2025 12:58

Assume hes a pedo. Don't approach but let the authorities know x

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 12/08/2025 12:57

Maybe he's filming himself and the attachment is one of those selfie light things?

Joystir59 · 12/08/2025 12:57

Paedophile not peadophile

GingerBeverage · 12/08/2025 12:57

We have had several warnings about men taking photos of children in the parks near us. It happens, it’s a real thing.
The local police monitor the situation and ask parents to inform them if it happens again.
Speak to your local team.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 12/08/2025 12:57

Tomatoblush · 12/08/2025 12:55

Oh so if he’s a photographer then he’s ok taking photos of other peoples kids ?

OP said he’s taking pictures of kids NOT animals or nature.

I wasn't aware the OP had seen his photos. I have no idea what he's doing. I was giving an alternative explanation to him being a paedophile.

RB68 · 12/08/2025 12:57

It must be rough round here then as its the Police patrol the bigger parks!!!! I thought we were a gentrified "Shire" lol

Tomatoblush · 12/08/2025 12:55

MiloMinderbinder925 · 12/08/2025 12:40

. I cannot think of any possible reason why he’d so regularly be taking photos of random children other than that he’s a peadophile.

Really? Could he be a photographer? Could the attachment on his phone be for professional purposes? Is it at all possible that he's taking pictures of nature or dogs rather than sexually objectifying children?

Oh so if he’s a photographer then he’s ok taking photos of other peoples kids ?

OP said he’s taking pictures of kids NOT animals or nature.

WarrenTofficier · 12/08/2025 12:53

pamelanoon · 12/08/2025 12:51

I just matched with a guy on tinder whos job title was "park ranger"

Is he going to take you for a pic-a-nic?

PhilippaGeorgiou · 12/08/2025 12:52

MrsSkylerWhite · 12/08/2025 12:50

Our son is in the process of buying a little house that backs onto a park in urban NW England. It has “park rangers”. I think wardens/rangers are making a bit of a comeback. Makes good sense in deterring low level and anti-social crime.

Yes, ours are called Rangers. Had them for 20 odd years.

pamelanoon · 12/08/2025 12:51

I just matched with a guy on tinder whos job title was "park ranger"

MrsSkylerWhite · 12/08/2025 12:50

MsPug · 12/08/2025 12:26

This isn't the 80's! when was the last time you saw a parky at work? 😂

Our son is in the process of buying a little house that backs onto a park in urban NW England. It has “park rangers”. I think wardens/rangers are making a bit of a comeback. Makes good sense in deterring low level and anti-social crime.

Thelnebriati · 12/08/2025 12:47

Surely an actual photographer would have more sense than to go to a park and photograph other peoples children?
Its not OPs problem to worry about whether he's dodgy or not, all she had to do is tell the police and let them deal with him.

Springtimehere · 12/08/2025 12:46

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CatherinedeBourgh · 12/08/2025 12:44

Seriously? You can't think of any reason why someone would have a daily routine when walking their dog that would involve them having a rest on a park bench and going on their phone other than that they are a paedophile?

Either you have no imagination or you have a very overactive one.

clotheslinefiasco · 12/08/2025 12:43

I get it OP - that would make me feel uneasy too if I was there with small children.

Not sure what to suggest though.

MiloMinderbinder925 · 12/08/2025 12:40

. I cannot think of any possible reason why he’d so regularly be taking photos of random children other than that he’s a peadophile.

Really? Could he be a photographer? Could the attachment on his phone be for professional purposes? Is it at all possible that he's taking pictures of nature or dogs rather than sexually objectifying children?

MyDeftHedgehog · 12/08/2025 12:40

MsPug · 12/08/2025 12:26

This isn't the 80's! when was the last time you saw a parky at work? 😂

Councils will have a Parks department, perhaps a member of staff could go and take a look

Bananachimp · 12/08/2025 12:39

MissMoneyFairy · 12/08/2025 12:21

Speak to the park warden

The park warden?!