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To skip my work “farewell” on my last day?

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ByCheekyLemonPeer · 12/08/2025 11:12

It’s my final day at a job I’ve found quite challenging (manager issues, poor communication etc). I’ve already handed over my work, I’m not feeling 100% (had a sick day yesterday and my manager said I still sound sick in our 1-2-1 today) and this morning my manager sent a last-minute calendar invite for a 30 min “farewell” on Teams at 4.30 with the whole team.

It’s clearly just for optics, she even admitted she thought my last day was on Friday and only remembered today. I’m tempted not to join, finish my work and log off quietly.

Would that be unprofessional or is it fine to skip it given everything?

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cariadlet · 14/08/2025 00:29

ByCheekyLemonPeer · 13/08/2025 23:17

I declined the meeting and wrote that I was still feeling under the weather and that I didn’t think I’d be able to join the meeting. I mentioned that I’ve appreciated working with the team and wished everyone the best going forward.

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Perfect!

thebigyearahead · 13/08/2025 23:39

No, I think you’ll regret it. Always best to leave on a good note. I felt exactly the same as you in my last job, was so tempted to duck out the last meeting, and I’d told them I’d try and make it as my laptop was being collected same day. I did attend and it was really lovely and I was able to wish them all the best (even though I wasn’t really feeling it). But afterwards I felt pleased with myself for leaving on a really positive note. Never burn your bridges …

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ByCheekyLemonPeer · 13/08/2025 23:17

JNicholson · 12/08/2025 19:41

What did you decide @ByCheekyLemonPeer? We need to
know!

I declined the meeting and wrote that I was still feeling under the weather and that I didn’t think I’d be able to join the meeting. I mentioned that I’ve appreciated working with the team and wished everyone the best going forward.

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Bikergran · 13/08/2025 22:25

Send a "reply to all" saying thank you, but you do not want to do this, and will not be taking part. You also could say something along the lines of "My thanks to those colleagues who have been supportive, I have learnt much in this job, and I wish you well as I move forward in my career." Thus implying that some staff have NOT been supportive, and you've learnt what a sh*t place it is to work.....but politely 🤭

Jk987 · 13/08/2025 22:19

so unprofessional to not turn up without notifying them!
Some people might be fond of you and want to wish you well. Why burn bridges?

Whatwouldnanado · 13/08/2025 20:03

Suck it up. It’s a few minutes. Better to leave on good terms with possible future contacts.

dh280125 · 13/08/2025 19:59

No is the best word, once you learn to say it.

JNicholson · 12/08/2025 19:41

What did you decide @ByCheekyLemonPeer? We need to
know!

tanstaafl · 12/08/2025 18:14

@CurlyKoalie

Never heard of a farewell on Teams before. Sounds a bit disrespectful.

The prevalence of WFH means Teams can often be the only way to get people together for a goodbye these days, maybe 15 in the office in a meeting room and as many again from home.

Catpiece · 12/08/2025 13:25

Bin it off.

cariadlet · 12/08/2025 13:23

In person farewells can be awkward enough. One on Teams sounds awful. I would definitely skip it but make an excuse and send your apologies so they are not hanging around waiting for you.

wimonnzy · 12/08/2025 13:13

Thank you so much for thinking of me, it's a lovely gesture and I appreciate it a lot, however due to .........

Celeryedition · 12/08/2025 13:11

Apologies. Poor signal. All the best. 👍

This is my draft message for a similar event. Feel free to borrow it.

Mydustymonstera · 12/08/2025 13:11

Nomorenonsense2025 · 12/08/2025 12:22

They literally won't care. At all. None of them. Nothing rude or sour about it, they will just move on and instantaneously forget about it. JFC the invented dramas of some people's lives 😅😂😆

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I would totally care!! That would be 30 mins I had made time for, that I had to then sit about on a call like a numpty making small chat waiting for you to show. Possibly having rearranged my day for it. Argh.

Mydustymonstera · 12/08/2025 13:09

Don’t be so disrespectful of people’s time to just not show up. They’ll be hanging about waiting for you and unable to leave the call incase you are just delayed. Really uncaring. Much better to email round now saying goodbye and that you won’t attend the teams meet.

CurlyKoalie · 12/08/2025 13:08

Depends if you need a reference.
Never heard of a farewell on Teams before. Sounds a bit disrespectful.
Couldn't you just wiggle your camera cable disconnect and disappear into the ether?
Technical issues then surely?
Nobody to blame.

tanstaafl · 12/08/2025 12:59

Are you keeping in touch with any of them?
Might non attendance be seen as bridge burning?
Might you come across them as a hiring manager of a job you want in the future?

By all means go home , but send a ‘really gutted but I’m feeling awful’ email to your manager/group email just as you’re leaving, to stop your manager trying to herd a few people together for as you say ‘optics’.

ImAPreMadonna · 12/08/2025 12:25

I would 100% attend. Without a doubt.

How you leave a job is almost as important as how you do a job. It’s the last memory people have of you. It’s only 30 mins of your life.

Daboomboom · 12/08/2025 12:23

Dont just not turn up. People will think poorly of you for that.

Either suck it up for 30mins on Teams as awkward as that will be. Or send apologies in advance. I dont think anyone likes these things.

Good luck with your new job.

Nomorenonsense2025 · 12/08/2025 12:22

Nomorenonsense2025 · 12/08/2025 12:11

Definitely ghost it. Doesn't matter at all. Only a total clown would care and the sort of person that would get upset by this would find a reason to be annoyed at anything anyway. They'll all be relieved they can just go home.

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They literally won't care. At all. None of them. Nothing rude or sour about it, they will just move on and instantaneously forget about it. JFC the invented dramas of some people's lives 😅😂😆

Cattenberg · 12/08/2025 12:19

Yeah, if I were well enough, I'd just suck it up and try to leave on a good note, not a sour one. I would wish everybody well and mention any positives about working there. But I'd also look happy to be leaving 😀

Bingbangboo · 12/08/2025 12:16

It's a half hour Teams meeting, just suck it up! You never know when you will come in to contact with these people in the future.

autumngirl714 · 12/08/2025 12:15

i understand your reasoning OP but I do think it’s abit rude/unprofessional. I would just attend, it’s only 30mins. You never know if any of your paths may cross professionally again in the future.

HeroicFailure · 12/08/2025 12:13

Coffeeishot · 12/08/2025 11:15

Just message saying you really are not feeling great and will probably just duck out and go home.

Sounds horrendous and awkward.

This.

redskydelight · 12/08/2025 12:13

Either go or say that you don't feel up to it/would rather slip away without a fuss.

Don't just not turn up. That's really rude.

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