Brothers new partner seems really unpleasant.

Your title is quite misleading given you haven't even met her!

Personally, I would want to meet her if she was my brothers GF. She might have some stupid opinions you disagree with. She sounds like she isn't very well informed so, should circumstances arise, you have the opportunity to re-educate her. Maybe she is just vile. But you at least have to meet her to find out.

Agree

There are plenty of people I really don't like whom I've never met in person - most of them famous people.

They've made their unpleasant views and feelings very clear on numerous occasions - whether online, in their writings or on camera.

As a PP said, are we all BU in our hatred of Hitler - because not one of us has actually met him in person and 'given him a chance' and we are 'only' basing our opinions of his odious beliefs on what he wrote, said on grainy old film and was reported by multiple sources from the time as saying?

Why does it make a difference whether somebody 'says' something with their mouths or with words that they type online (or share posts and videos from others and affirmatively and unequivocally endorse them)?

I know there are some people with no internal monologue or filter at all, who never think before self-broadcasting; but it's one thing to ponder something to yourself, it's quite another to actually decide to post it out on your SM, as a representative statement of whi you are, for everybody to see.

Also this!

Yep, again, first post nails it! 😂

Ok so if you are worried about your nephew then you’ll want to stay close to them to keep an eye on him.

keep your enemies closer….

Of course you can dislike people for their beliefs! If you met someone who said that they believed that Hitler was right about Jewish people, surely you would think that they were dreadful and wouldn't want anything to do with them?

I 'met' Lee on a tram, not knowing who he was until later and my impression was exactly what is portrayed on SM.

Suffice to say, I didn't vote for him.

🙄

They are a dick and don’t deserve to be heard out

Surely she is entitled to her opinion op. Maybe when she meets the kids she might change her mind but it’s her beliefs you can’t dislike her for them we are all entitled to them.

See what happens when you meet her. If she makes some unpleasant comments you'll know where you stand and can act accordingly.

If I'd seen my brothers partner make them comments when there were NÐ people in the family I'd be straight on the phone to brother to speak to him about it. I can respect people having different views but if someone said ND doesn't exist and is bad parenting when their partners child is ND I'd be a bit perplexed and want to get to the bottom of why they have made that comment and what they think of their partner and his child. I'd also be wary of introducing them to my own ND child. I wouldn't want my DC around someone who was going to judge them.

Agree.

Meet her, so you can hate her even more lol

Either she a) does not believe ND exists which is odd and I'd be questioning her if she thinks the world is flat b) she DOES believe in ND but thinks that it can vary in severity and that many people are using ND as an excuse to be an AH, which I think is a pretty common and valid opinion tbh. c) something else.
I'd meet her and find out.

I absolutely agree with all that you say.
I didn't explain it well. I think I mentioned that in my previous post.

How could your bother be so in to her if she has such negative attitudes towards his own son? Is there some misunderstanding here maybe? Have you asked your brother OP?

A lot of people that dont believe in ND, I have noticed that they think a lot of nd traits are just normal, because they themselves have so many traits.

Id hold off judging too harshly. Her views now might mellow over time

Sure, which is fine, too, obviously. I mean, the OP hasn't met this woman before because of distance, will meet her soon, but there's no reason to think they're going to be soulmates, just because the OP's brother is very keen on her. I'm fond of several of my SILs, but wouldn't consider them friends.

That’s exactly what I was going to say. And if she won’t be educated, then accept you’ll never be friends.

She sounds thick as shit. One for thinking this shit and two for posting it on social media. I would keep contact to a minimum.

But as a pp mentioned, imagine someone posting racist/transphobic stuff, particularly if it was relevant to you. I too would be thinking I didn’t like the person before I’d even met her.

I'm a sen mum - the judgement is INSANE , from people who have zero experience of sen but feel qualified to make a judgement about the parents

That's an horrific view, and I wouldnt like her

But, its early days and shes going nowhere so I'd make my comment and leave it at that

The woman might change her mind, so no point in causing an argument

That's not what I meant. 😳This is not a 'horrific' view. It's not particularly nice but the person needs to be met and to spend some time with before cancelling them and judging them.
Way to much of this crap going on IMO