OF… do any mums do it? AIBU for even considering it?

I used to be a cam girl about 10 years ago and sold my used underwear, used toys, the lot. I went into it thinking it would be an easy job and that I could kind of play men at their own game. Turned out it wasn't easy, you need to constantly analyse how sexy (or not) you are in order to make money, you have to objectify yourself, keep secrets and think about what will happen if they come out, deal with messages from men who think they can literally buy you, compete for attention with thousands+ women who are willing to do more for less money than you, and ultimately consider why selling your body seems easier than any other job or career. I don't judge people for doing OF but I do assume there is underlying low self-esteem. Also, I'm now a safeguarding lead and if I found out a parent did OF I would have to report them for conducting sex work from the child's home.

Just sexy photos won’t make you any money really, and it’ll be hard to make any money from it if you want to keep it a total secret because OF relies on you advertising yourself really.

Used underwear…so how does this work and where do you sell? Asking for a friend! 😅

Yes I do it. Brings in about £1k/mth on top of my day job. Doesn’t take a lot of effort these days but that’s on the back of several years of building up a fan base, now mostly just ticks along.
As others have said there’s a million people offering nude or sexy pics - you wouldn’t get much traction with that. You need to find a bit of a niche and cater to that. People always go about feet pics on here but there’s any number of kinks you can cater for, and they aren’t all necessarily weird or “out there”. Treat it like a business and do your research and establish your offering as well as your boundaries of what you will/wont do.

A mum from my child’s class does it and earns well. However, she’s had a lot of publicity (local, national and international media) and she does a hell of a lot more than just sexy pics.
Her kids are quite young at the moment but I feel
for them when they’re older as her pics are all over the internet.

OP, when you were growing up, did you want to be a sex worker? Did you think at any time that your children would be proud of you for exposing your body to strange men?

FFS get a grip. There are other options for you. How do you think you could put photos up there and remain private? It only takes one person to recognise you and everyone will know.

If you had no idea, why did you price them at £55 which is fairly pricey for ski socks ?
I could understand at an ebay auction but vinted surely you set the price ? Sounds lucrative though 😃

“Selling underwear” Men are literally revolting they really are!!

Just doing ordinary "sexy pics" will make you two fifths of fuck all. This stuff is all available for free.

How much more would you need to earn to make leaving viable? Have you checked your benefit entitlements? Lots of other ways to make money from home- lots of claims processing jobs are now 100% WFH.

Do you have any other skills, like typing?

It's s bit of a leap from working p/t to deciding to become a sex worker to earn money to leave your dh. Most women in your position would go from p/t to f/t work or retrain for a better paid career. Why not pick up some weekend hospitality/bar/restaurant shifts?

The hospitality industry is really struggling for staff atm so plenty of work available. Send your CV to a recruitment agency & ask them to find you a f/t or another p/t admin or other job to fit in with your current job? I think you can find much better paid work than sex work tbh, you just haven't tried hard enough.

As for keeping it a secret, you're incredibly stupid to think that. Have you forgotten what happened to that cheating couple who were outed at the Coldplay concert? In this digital age, nothing stays secret for very long.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c80pnnn0gj3o

I sold a three pairs of ski socks on Vinted, each pair worn once. The sold for £55. I had no idea.

I would be worried that if your husband found out, which in this day and age is likely, he would use it to take your kids from you.

Its a hard no from me, even though I support women doing what they want with their bodies xx

Yabu

My former employer fired people for working on OF. Interesting article…

chloecombi.substack.com/p/the-number-how-gen-a-are-getting

But considering keeping it a secret from everyone.

This is 2025 @Mumontheedge1249 - there's no such thing. Once those pics are on the Internet, chances are someone who knows someone etc will find out.

So a mum in our school does it - she is very much shunned and socially excluded. I like her to be honest she’s an absolute riot, but I know my husband isn’t looking at her porn. That’s why a lot of the mums don’t like her - and a lot of dads are subscribed. She does like actual porn though and to be honest it’s unlikely you’ll make much money unless you have a large pre existing following on do actual porn. Her son is 5 and doesn’t really get bullied to my knowledge but lots of families won’t have him round ect.

I genuinely would not recommend it, most women who do it make little money and you will be pushed and pressured to do more and more explicit stuff for money. I really hope you find a better solution.

That’s true, she’d have to do some pretty ‘intense’ content to gain notoriety. However, once she starts and realises what gets the money, it’s likely she’ll want to have that cash.

It truly is a slippery slope, and all it takes (regardless of content) is one colleague or workmate subscribing or recognising you. Then suddenly you’re bringing your workplace into disrepute, the mums at school are all whispering about you, your kids don’t get invited over anymore, and the police dont and won’t take you seriously if anything happens to you because “you’re know to be a hooker”.

Society has more respect for drug dealers than they do for women who engage in any level of sex work. And to make money, you’re going to have to be well down the sex work path.

I’d go with the feet thing or selling underwear or something if you could make that work!

I wouldn’t be putting anything up there with my face or anything else identifiable

Given how good reverse image searches are getting there is no way you can guarantee this will stay hidden. How would you feel if your ‘D’H, mum, great aunt Beryl, employer, child etc… found the pictures?

Also why would anyone pay for your pictures when there are so many already out there?

Could you look at increasing your part time hours? Which would set you up better long term as well for when you are single.