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Thinking is weird my friend wants my man to help her move out with driving her stuff and putting stuff in her new home?

153 replies

Tommelige · 11/08/2025 22:12

Im very sure i will prob get lots of different opinions on this.
to begin with we been togheter for 3 years my partner knows her trough me and he only have meet her trough some parties we have been hosting. So they don’t have each other on socials either. Last party my friend was hinting that she will move out from her parents house soon and looking for someone to help her move out, felt like she was kinda hinting that to my partner since she was looking at him. But its not like people in her family don’t drive at all. I felt a bit weird why she wants my partner to help in this. Another friend told me that some girls are like that when u get a man, they also expect your man to help them and do things for them because ur their best friend.

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DinoLil · 11/08/2025 23:52

It's 'thought', ''dude' and are you aged about 16?

Why would your partner not help your friend move? And you, of course? She's your friend.

jbm16 · 11/08/2025 23:52

Don't think it's strange, she clearly needs help with moving, and is trying to ask without asking...

My husband would help my friends, neighbours if they needed anything, without us even thinking about it.

Perhaps ask her if she needs help...

Battels · 11/08/2025 23:48

CarpetKnees · 11/08/2025 23:44

What I think it weird, is knowing a friend is about to move and not offering to help, when you are young.
I mean, that's what people do.

Yes, I’ve lost count of how many friends we’ve helped move house down the years. And for years there were lots of decorating parties. I got quite goood at cutting in, ever after a couple of drinks.

CarpetKnees · 11/08/2025 23:44

What I think it weird, is knowing a friend is about to move and not offering to help, when you are young.
I mean, that's what people do.

CarpetKnees · 11/08/2025 23:44

Battels · 11/08/2025 23:14

I read the thread title as the friend wanting the OP’s nan to help her move house and thought that seemed a bit much.

Grin
murasaki · 11/08/2025 23:33

CharlotteSometimes1 · 11/08/2025 23:17

Chill dud is the funniest thing I’ve read on here tonight

Definitely. Also, kudos to your username, I love that book.

Eightdayz · 11/08/2025 23:29

She clearly wants to spread her peanut butter all over YOUR chocolate.

You need to shut this down fam. Pronto

Innit

CharlotteSometimes1 · 11/08/2025 23:17

Chill dud is the funniest thing I’ve read on here tonight

Battels · 11/08/2025 23:14

I read the thread title as the friend wanting the OP’s nan to help her move house and thought that seemed a bit much.

BiologicalRobot · 11/08/2025 23:08

I see nothing wrong in a single woman looking for male help when moving furniture. Men really are the stronger sex (by quite a lot). However your attitude isn't that great, have you scent marked "your" man yet?

Kibble19 · 11/08/2025 23:06

Rachie1973 · 11/08/2025 23:00

Catherine Tate and Matt Lucas vibes?

Yes. 😂

Jeremy Kyle would be all over this.

”Is your friend moving in on your man? Got your suspicions about cheating but can’t put your finger on why? Give my team a call…”

KittytheHare · 11/08/2025 23:02

@Tommelige your spelling and grammar errors are inconsistent. It would have been more believable to write “of tought, instead of “have tought”.

RaininSummer · 11/08/2025 23:02

Very odd. And what's with the 'trough' and 'tought'.

Rachie1973 · 11/08/2025 23:00

Kibble19 · 11/08/2025 22:57

Is anyone else picturing the OP in their head?

Catherine Tate and Matt Lucas vibes?

Tommelige · 11/08/2025 22:59

@Kibble19 thats creepy

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Kibble19 · 11/08/2025 22:57

Is anyone else picturing the OP in their head?

OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 11/08/2025 22:55

Tommelige · 11/08/2025 22:45

@Hoardasurass no need to try act like a «bigger smarter person» chill dud, plus she asked when the others went out to smoke and she was sitting there with me and my partner. Or else i would not have tought of it

Why have you changed it from 'she hinted' to 'she asked'?

Idontjetwashthefucker · 11/08/2025 22:55

Tommelige · 11/08/2025 22:45

@Hoardasurass no need to try act like a «bigger smarter person» chill dud, plus she asked when the others went out to smoke and she was sitting there with me and my partner. Or else i would not have tought of it

Oh dear, sounds like a bunch of teens

cardibach · 11/08/2025 22:51

Tommelige · 11/08/2025 22:45

@Hoardasurass no need to try act like a «bigger smarter person» chill dud, plus she asked when the others went out to smoke and she was sitting there with me and my partner. Or else i would not have tought of it

You said she hinted. Did she ask, or hint?
Either way it’s totally normal to ask your friends and/or their partners to help you out.

Tommelige · 11/08/2025 22:45

@Hoardasurass no need to try act like a «bigger smarter person» chill dud, plus she asked when the others went out to smoke and she was sitting there with me and my partner. Or else i would not have tought of it

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MrsWalker2025 · 11/08/2025 22:37

How old are you?

Hoardasurass · 11/08/2025 22:35

You really need to grow up and get over yourself.
Your friend hasn't asked him to do anything she told a group of friends that she'll be moving soon and would like some help, nothing more. This is a very common request of friends and yes when your in a relationship with someone and their friends need a hand with something you offer to help if you can and are free when needed, its what people do for friends and family.

ArtesianWater · 11/08/2025 22:34

I think she just wants help with something she can't do alone.

RhaenysRocks · 11/08/2025 22:33

You're being ridiculous. He's not "your man" He's a man that you date. He's a man she knows and she's looking around for physical help with an awkward and heavy job.

ExtraOnions · 11/08/2025 22:32

…Schools out for summer …

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