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Thinking is weird my friend wants my man to help her move out with driving her stuff and putting stuff in her new home?

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Tommelige · 11/08/2025 22:12

Im very sure i will prob get lots of different opinions on this.
to begin with we been togheter for 3 years my partner knows her trough me and he only have meet her trough some parties we have been hosting. So they don’t have each other on socials either. Last party my friend was hinting that she will move out from her parents house soon and looking for someone to help her move out, felt like she was kinda hinting that to my partner since she was looking at him. But its not like people in her family don’t drive at all. I felt a bit weird why she wants my partner to help in this. Another friend told me that some girls are like that when u get a man, they also expect your man to help them and do things for them because ur their best friend.

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Lillers · 12/08/2025 06:53

If she’d asked when he was on his own, maybe you’d be right to look a bit more into it. But she asked/hinted (unclear which) while you were both there, so she’s not trying to hide anything from you. Neither of you have to offer, but it would be completely normal if you did.

Perhaps she waited until the others had gone out to smoke because there’s someone there that she really did not want to accept help from - perhaps a man she feels uncomfortable around and she was worried that if she said it then, he’d offer and she’d feel like she had to accept. Or perhaps it was a loud and chatty group and she couldn’t get a word in. Who knows.

Either way, it’s not unusual for people to ask/hint that they’d like help moving.

MyDeftDuck · 12/08/2025 06:50

Let’s look at this from a different perspective………someone is soon going to be moving home and mentioned this to friends, one of which has a ‘man’ who potentially could help. You take exception to what you see is a hint for ‘your man’ to help……….someone friend you are!
A true friend would be recruiting others to make this move easy and seamless ……… do grow up OP!

Bowies · 12/08/2025 06:45

It’s not weird, you’re her friend and you’ve been a couple for 3 years, it’s not like you were on a couple of OLD.

I think it’s more weird you’ve spoken about her behind her back IRL plus made a thread to canvas for opinions. Are you insecure about your relationship?

If would have been quite normal to offer to help her together, when she was speaking about it to you and DP.

butterpuffed · 12/08/2025 06:15

KimberleyClark · 12/08/2025 05:07

Or a Nan with a van. Might be a gap in the market there.

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Or a nun with a gun if it's a rough area.

Emptyandsad · 12/08/2025 05:58

It's probably because I'm getting old, but my penis isn't up to the job any more.

It might be able to rummage through the cutlery drawer, but it's definitely not helping you down the stairs with a sofa

Sporadica · 12/08/2025 05:50

I'd find it odd if she asked her friend's boyfriend to help rather than her friend (you) or both of you together. But perhaps she has the kind of furniture that can only be lifted with a penis.

autienotnaughty · 12/08/2025 05:49

Yes it’s normal to ask friends to help with stuff like that and presumably your bf would be quite strong so from a practical perspective handy in a move

marcopront · 12/08/2025 05:17

KimberleyClark · 12/08/2025 05:07

Or a Nan with a van. Might be a gap in the market there.

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I’m sure I’ve seen something like that on dragon’s den

KimberleyClark · 12/08/2025 05:07

Augustus40 · 12/08/2025 03:36

If that were me I wd just hire a man with a van.

Or a Nan with a van. Might be a gap in the market there.

Flamingoknees · 12/08/2025 04:40

Why are you typing with an Irish accent?
Just ignore the hints if neither of you want to help - or be nice and say you'd both be delighted to pitch in.

GarlicLitre · 12/08/2025 04:16

People kept talking about decorating parties so I thought I'd try it once. I invited half a dozen friends to my new flat, provided snacks & drinks, and tried to get them decorating. They were horrified - apparently, they'd thought it was just a little housewarming party and I was trying to be different with the 'decorating' part Confused It was quite embarrassing.

I ended up doing the bloody decorating myself, as usual.

SecondVerseSameAsThe1st · 12/08/2025 04:06

KittytheHare · 11/08/2025 23:02

@Tommelige your spelling and grammar errors are inconsistent. It would have been more believable to write “of tought, instead of “have tought”.

Creative writing tips. 😂

Jk987 · 12/08/2025 04:03

The snobbery on here! Is this forum only for middle aged women with perfect English? All ages and backgrounds are welcome as far as I know!

BondAway25 · 12/08/2025 03:47

Muffinmam · 12/08/2025 02:46

I don’t understand how people think you are being unreasonable.

No, your friend is not entitled to your sexual partner moving her out of her parent’s house.

Are you competing with the Op for the weirdests post(s)?

Augustus40 · 12/08/2025 03:36

If that were me I wd just hire a man with a van.

TheGreatWesternShrew · 12/08/2025 03:22

Does he have a large van or car? She probably just wants free help moving. My husband helped my best friend move because she can’t drive and he can.

SecondVerseSameAsThe1st · 12/08/2025 03:13

Kibble19 · 11/08/2025 22:57

Is anyone else picturing the OP in their head?

🤡

user1492757084 · 12/08/2025 03:13

Both you and your partner should offer to help her.
We have done this many times, to help close friends.

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 12/08/2025 03:00

Battels · 11/08/2025 23:14

I read the thread title as the friend wanting the OP’s nan to help her move house and thought that seemed a bit much.

Omg I did too & thought that's not fair on Grandma 🤦‍♀️ 😂

Lurkingandlearning · 12/08/2025 02:57

Battels · 11/08/2025 23:14

I read the thread title as the friend wanting the OP’s nan to help her move house and thought that seemed a bit much.

😂😂😂

Muffinmam · 12/08/2025 02:46

I don’t understand how people think you are being unreasonable.

No, your friend is not entitled to your sexual partner moving her out of her parent’s house.

Muffinmam · 12/08/2025 02:41

CarpetKnees · 11/08/2025 23:44

What I think it weird, is knowing a friend is about to move and not offering to help, when you are young.
I mean, that's what people do.

Is it what people do?

I’ve always hired movers.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 12/08/2025 02:28

AHH this is so awkward, but anyway...🍿.

Meadowfinch · 12/08/2025 02:26

OP, asking friends to help with a move is completely normal. I'm not sure why you think it's so strange. You sound a bit insecure in your relationship?

Does your boyfriend have access to a van? That would make much more sense.

PigletSanders · 12/08/2025 02:18

RaininSummer · 11/08/2025 23:02

Very odd. And what's with the 'trough' and 'tought'.

Irish I thought.

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