Thinking is weird my friend wants my man to help her move out with driving her stuff and putting stuff in her new home?

OP do you live in an Rn’B song? What’s with the “my man”? Are you really young? Is this your first boyfriend?

It’s common to ask a best friend and their male partner (presumably stronger, perhaps access to a bigger car or van) if they would be able to give up a couple of hours to help you move. My boyfriend has done that for a couple of my friends. Not given up hours or too much labour or anything but as he had a car and drove (and me and my friends didn’t), helped them move their stuff over from one house to the next.

It’s just a nice and normal thing to do for your friends isn’t it? If you don’t want to help a friend move then just politely say you and him have plans that day and can’t do it. It’s not abnormal to ask a friend and their partner for help once in a blue moon, especially if that person doesn’t own a car. It’s unlikely she’s after “your man”

Such a nasty anti-Irish remark.

What? Of course a man is asked because of his strength! It would be nice if the OP and ‘her man’ both offered to help a friend in need.

Do you think Irish people are illiterate?

Do you want to help your friend?

My partner often does
things for my family and my friends.
I don’t find it weird at all.

I think the several dozen boxes of books made it more of a challenge. And it even gave the removal men a slight struggle getting the sofa round the tight bend in the stairs!

Jesus, we've always asked friends to help when we've moved and vice versa.

We will be moving soon, and I text my friend if we could borrow her husband for a few hours in return for a takeaway and beer. My husband has done the same for her in the past.

Blimey. My daughter's entire HOUSE fits into one fairly normal sized van!

And I'm fine with moving sofas up stairs and stuff. As long as there's someone else at the other end, I'm not a weightlifter!

If she's moving out of her parent's house, how much, realistically, has she actually got TO move?

@Vroomfondleswaistcoat When DD moved out two years ago she had LOADS of stuff. When the plan was originally mooted DH said if she hired a van we would help her move. But when we realised how much there was going to be we offered to pay for a removal firm instead.

It took TWO men with a (big) van.

A nan with a van definitely wouldn't have been much use. I can't see an old lady being much help getting a three seater settee up to a second floor flat.

@KittytheHareI wonder if OP may have an Irish accent and is writing phonetically. “Would have” is consistent. As we all know exactly what OP means does it matter anyway?

What the what now???

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Completely off topic but that was a horrible film.

Don't really remember the plot or much at all but the old nun rape scene... I know low budget films want to be 'edgy' but nope.

I’ll tell myself that then. I had a live in work flat as well as my main home when I was in my mid 50s. When I moved out of that I hired a van and two friends came to help.

@Tommelige Maybe she's hinting that you could both help because you know about the moving out and yet you haven't offered. Maybe she is skint and cannot afford to pay for this service, or her family have told her that they can't or won't help?

Either way, it's normal to ask for assistance with this sort of thing. You repay the favour when you can and make the task better by providing pizza/favoured takeway and beer for your helpers. It's not weird or cheeky to ask, unless you have form for never reciprocating.

What’s his sex life got to do with it?
Entitled? Of course not. Totally normal to sound out whether he (and the friend) might be available? Yes.

Young people mov8ng out of h9me or from shared accommodation dont have the quantity for that to be cost effective - or the money if they did. I’ve helped loads of people, and in 2019, in my 50s, I moved out of work accommodation and friends helped me. Totally normal.

OP's post is clearly an overreaction.

That being said, given that she uses guillemets rather than quotation marks and makes mistakes like "is" rather than "it is" (very typical of Romance language speakers), she is presumably ESL. All this sniggering about her spelling isn't a great look.

Exactly what I would have said. I have a friend who is single and will ask my husband to help out occasionally. I’m happy she feels she can ask and he doesn’t mind. How can that be ‘weird’?

She hasn't even asked. And you sound like an absolute nutter.

You are giving this too much head space.

It is completely normal to ask friends but it depends. If she’s moving from her parents house, it would be more normal to ask her dad or brothers - if they were capable.

You sound very young.
It's not weird to ask friend's partners to help if you are single. I don't think she means anything by it, but was hoping your partner would offer, and he probably should.

How rude! Irish people know how to spell (well, as much as anyone else).