Thinking is weird my friend wants my man to help her move out with driving her stuff and putting stuff in her new home?

It's not normal to ask for help.

It is where I live.
If the person moving doesn't mention it, then how would friends know to offer ?

The friend is leaving home and is probably just taking her personal belongings without any furniture.
Eh ? How do you work that out ?
My dd "left home" or "moved out" 3 years ago and a) took furniture from her bedroom and b) had to transport all the stuff she had been collecting over the previous few months and storing in our garage... furniture from free giving sites, the odd bit from marketplace, and things friends had given her.
Same as when ds moved to his place last year and same as when the nephews and nieces have moved out.
Pretty normal have thought.
Yes we (in our 60s) helped, but so did a gaggle of their mates, as it is bloomin' hard work shifting furniture (as well and boxes and clothes rails and white good) out of one place into a van then out of the van into the new place.

Coincidently, dd is helping her mate move flats tomorrow, and has suggested her partner helps too.

I think this attitude is weird, that friends can’t be asked for help and that any interaction with a friend’s partner means you’re ‘after’ them.

Because someone else had posted saying that her friend is after her man. Why can't the friend ask her family instead of asking friends? The OP had posted because she thinks it's weird to hint about her man helping, when knowing her own family could help.

The friend didn’t ask. She hinted - expecting OP to offer. I have no idea why you think this is a play for ‘her man’. It’s totally normal to ask your friends to help with things. Totally.

The OP mentioned nothing about furniture but stuff. The friend has family to help. It's not normal to ask for help. But it's normal to offer. The friend is just after her man. I don't think the OP actually mentioned that her man got a van. The friend should just hire a man with a van as they would be use to lifting heavy items if the friend got any.

I don’t think she would. She so fixated on t being odd to help your friends.

You’re just making that up. She may have furniture in her room, or stored in the garage, with which to furnish her new place. She may have lots of books which are heavy. She didn’t ask the bloke at all, and only mentioned it when OP was there. It’s totally normal to help people move.

The friend is leaving home and is probably just taking her personal belongings without any furniture.

The OP state parents, therefore both mum and dad are still alive. If it were any of the other reasons you suggested, I would had thought the OP would had mentioned the dad being incapable for whatever reason. The OP state the friend's family can drive, therefore didn't need to hint to OP that her man can help her to move, when family can assist with this.

Or he might be in his 60s. Or dead. Or disabled. Or abusive.

She wants him because she vaguely hinted in the presence of the OP that she needed help with moving house, a perfectly normal thing for friends and their partners to engage in?
This is a really weird take.

Her dad could help, instead of asking a friend's man. If she's young, then her dad might be in his 40s.

My married friends have often lent their partners to me, sometimes without asking the partners. Just women helping women, right?

1st instinct best instinct. she wants him. easier to take yours than find her own. don't leave him alone with her and tell him why. but if you tell him he may well like it and try her. its one of them things. I'd find a man with a van advert and shove it under her nose

1st instinct best instinct. she wants him. easier to take yours than find her own. don't leave him alone with her and tell him why. but if you tell him he may well like it and try her. its one of them things. I'd find a man with a van advert and shove ut under her nose

How old are you? If 20, just go with him…if 30, yeah…she should have grown up 😂😂
if she didn’t ask, you don’t have to say anything :)

Not weird. People rely on networks all the time. Maybe he’s one of the few people she knows who could do it and is trying to capitalise on your friendship.

My partner help the woman next door move into the house further down the street if you trust him then what is the issue?

YABU. I am single and have lots of friends in relationships / marriages. My friends offer up their ‘men’ to help in these situations as they know how hard it can be to do it on your own (and how expensive it can get) rather than post on Mumsnet behind my back.

Have you forgotten what it’s like to be single or are you just one of those people who doesn’t like helping friends out?

Agree, I’m Irish and not sure why someone would assume she’s Irish for bad spelling.We often pronounce th as t but we typically know how to spell these words.

I think decorating party etiquette is to pre warn your guests not just invite them over and then expect them to get cracking! 😀

I think decorating party etiquette is to pre warn your guests not just invite them over and then expect them to get cracking! 😀

Slightly wandering off tangent here, but after 'Nan With A Van' & 'Nun With A Gun'
I think there's a market for:
'Dads Move Pads' when it comes to house moving
'Ma Valets Cars' for washing/cleaning cars,
'Bro Who Hoes' for a gardening business
'Sister Finds Your Mister' for a dating site

I think I may have too much time on my hands 😂

I beg your pardon?