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Why are so many women beholdent to a male

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Lifeisinteresting · 11/08/2025 21:46

I give up. I was brought up to be independent. I got pregnant at 16 ir was not I’m dead! I had the kid (she's now a Dr) I was a board director in a FTSE 100 at 32. I worked hard. Why are there so many posts on Mumsnet by women who can't take responsibility?

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edwinbear · 12/08/2025 10:41

A quick Google suggests there has never been a female board director of a FTSE 100 at the age of 32. Obviously. This is just BS isn’t it OP.

backinthebox · 12/08/2025 10:19

Oh, well done you, OP! How fab to be so independent. By ‘beholdent,’ do you actually mean ‘beholden?’ As in ‘indebted’ or ‘feeling you have a duty to someone who has done you a favour?’ It’s not clear with your poor use of English. Hopefully your PA sends out slightly more coherent messages to your employees. I suppose in a way, that would make you beholden to your PA, so let’s hope they are not a man, eh!

Anyway - back to other women, the ones you are preaching to, being beholden to men. Wtf do you actually mean by that? It’s so unclear from your post. I suppose in a way, anyone who had been with a man since they were 16 would be beholden to that man for the life they live now. And the man would be beholden to their partner too. I’ve been with my husband since we were 16. He’s offered me his support, his strength and his love to help me be the strong independent woman I am. I do things far beyond the ability of most women (including you, probably) but do them from a position of security, knowing my husband has my back at all times. So I suppose that makes me ‘beholden’ to him. Likewise, he has made a life for himself that needs the support of a partner too, he would not be a director of a multinational company (if we are boasting about that sort of thing) without me behind him. So I suppose he is beholden to me too. Neither of us is independent of the other. We don’t look at it as each of us owing a debt of gratitude to the other - we look at it as marriage. He owes me nothing, I owe him nothing, yet without each other we would not be where we are today.

randomchap · 12/08/2025 10:18

Overtheatlantic · 12/08/2025 10:17

Is beholdent a word?

It's perfectly cromulent

Overtheatlantic · 12/08/2025 10:17

Is beholdent a word?

JHound · 12/08/2025 10:15

Oh it’s a driveby poster with no follow-up in the thread.

Exits

mbosnz · 12/08/2025 10:15

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/08/2025 03:29

Would you like a collective round of applause? 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
It always surprises me how educated people can be very narrow minded.

I'm not seeing anything indicating that OP is well educated. Narrow minded - well I'll give you that one!

JHound · 12/08/2025 10:13

Avantiagain · 12/08/2025 10:12

Your other thread says you had your daughter in your early twenties.

I love this!

childofthe607080s · 12/08/2025 10:13

Why are there posts about women on huge salaries who can’t budget , are broke and can’t understand that not everyone can walk into such a high paying role ?
why are there posts about women who hate all sport?
Why are there posts from women in prestigious roles with poor communication and comprehension skills?

because people are different? Because human relationships are often complex , love is blind , self esteem often absent, people have different strengths and weaknesses, and because people just like different ways of living

JHound · 12/08/2025 10:13

I thought it was just “beholdent”.

But all of that first post seems unclear.

Huh?

(I am also pretty sure you have never been a board director.)

Avantiagain · 12/08/2025 10:12

Your other thread says you had your daughter in your early twenties.

Whatareyoutalkingaboutnow · 12/08/2025 10:11

🥱🙄 my eyeballs are lost somewhere in the back of my head now.

SnowFrogJelly · 12/08/2025 10:11

JackGrealishsBobbySocks · 11/08/2025 21:53

I played footsies with at least 100 as well... big deal.

😂

SimpleBitch · 12/08/2025 10:08

I like being a housewife and my DH taking care of me😁

Thepeopleversuswork · 12/08/2025 10:04

was a board director in a FTSE 100 at 32.

If this is true (and I have my doubts), you are remarkably lacking in self-awareness for someone who is so clever.

Couldyounot · 12/08/2025 10:02

Drop your address here and we'll get your Blue Peter badge out to you asap

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 12/08/2025 10:02

GreenWheat · 11/08/2025 21:55

You are remarkably ineloquent for a FTSE 100 board director.

I thought so too 😂

LadeOde · 12/08/2025 10:00

"I was brought up to be independent. I got pregnant at 16". Perhaps therein lies the problem with your upbringing you've missed.

EverythingElseIsTaken · 12/08/2025 09:56

I expect OP would say I’m “beholden” to my husband. We prefer to call it being a family / a loving partnership (38 yrs) / a happy marriage (34 years) / a team.

I wouldn’t be living the life I have without him but he wouldn’t be living the life he has without me.

Comtesse · 12/08/2025 09:54

I don’t believe a word of it.

Twistedfirestarters · 12/08/2025 09:51

GreenWheat · 11/08/2025 21:55

You are remarkably ineloquent for a FTSE 100 board director.

I was just thinking that. Clearly you don't need to be able to construct a sentence to be a board director.

What are you even 'giving up' on op? You start the post with I give up as if you are personally being victimised by women who aren't independent.

x2boys · 12/08/2025 09:49

Lifeisinteresting · 11/08/2025 21:46

I give up. I was brought up to be independent. I got pregnant at 16 ir was not I’m dead! I had the kid (she's now a Dr) I was a board director in a FTSE 100 at 32. I worked hard. Why are there so many posts on Mumsnet by women who can't take responsibility?

Who supported you whilst yoy were 16 and pregnant or with a very young child?

TurnThatLightOn · 12/08/2025 09:28

Bit of a random post. Don't really understand it. What's the ir not I'm dead bit about? Beholdent indeed.

Locutus2000 · 12/08/2025 07:56

Yawn.

cheesycheesy · 12/08/2025 03:31

True story

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/08/2025 03:29

Would you like a collective round of applause? 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
It always surprises me how educated people can be very narrow minded.