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Why are so many women beholdent to a male

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Lifeisinteresting · 11/08/2025 21:46

I give up. I was brought up to be independent. I got pregnant at 16 ir was not I’m dead! I had the kid (she's now a Dr) I was a board director in a FTSE 100 at 32. I worked hard. Why are there so many posts on Mumsnet by women who can't take responsibility?

OP posts:
ObtuseMoose · 12/08/2025 16:03

I got pregnant at 16 ir was not I’m dead!

Are you a ghost?

SpottyAardvark · 12/08/2025 15:59

0/10. Poor effort. If you’re going to claim to have held senior positions, at least try to spell & punctuate correctly.

hoodiemassive · 12/08/2025 15:54

In our situation I was forced to give up my career because our middle dc is severely autistic. No childcare to enable me to work, no respite and a lifetime of work looking after him.

Not my choice.

MrsTerryPratchett · 12/08/2025 15:22

OoooopsUpsideYourHead · 12/08/2025 00:50

Mind you, according to the OP's other thread she's 41 and has been with her DH for 20+ years.

So, didn't stay single for long 🤷‍♀️

It's quantum and she's able to go down every timeline looking at outcomes of her choices...

Or it's cobblers.

DiordreBarlow · 12/08/2025 15:06

"Why are there so many posts on Mumsnet by women who can't take responsibility?"

What for? Posting an inflammatory OP and then failing to engage in any conversation?

SkylarFalls · 12/08/2025 15:04

Oh and OP I won't be bringing up my kids to value independence either.

It's a bit sad to be glad that you do everything alone.

Independence skills - yes

Not needing anyone = a bit sad and defensive IMO

Is it because nobody needs you? that you think we are all going around striving to be bubbles of not needing anyone else?

YesButNoButMayybee · 12/08/2025 14:52

Oh yeah, I definitely believe you. You don't seem thick and hairy at all.
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PennyRest · 12/08/2025 14:50

Have you tried cycling OP?

DiordreBarlow · 12/08/2025 14:49

"I had the kid"

The absence of love and warmth in those four words is heartbreaking.

SkylarFalls · 12/08/2025 14:26

Lifeisinteresting · 11/08/2025 21:46

I give up. I was brought up to be independent. I got pregnant at 16 ir was not I’m dead! I had the kid (she's now a Dr) I was a board director in a FTSE 100 at 32. I worked hard. Why are there so many posts on Mumsnet by women who can't take responsibility?

My biggest regret in life was buying the "don't be tied down the worlds your oyster" 90s / 00s snobbery around settling down young. And putting things like comfort and security and companionship and family off to go prove what an independent young woman I was

You might not envy my life now, but I probably wouldn't envy yours

Does that answer your question?

DiordreBarlow · 12/08/2025 14:20

Lifeclearlyisn'tinteresting enough without making up stories for MN.

Loving the 'I give up' at the beginning of the OP. She clearly hasn't.

Iloveyoubut · 12/08/2025 14:12

Lifeisinteresting · 11/08/2025 21:46

I give up. I was brought up to be independent. I got pregnant at 16 ir was not I’m dead! I had the kid (she's now a Dr) I was a board director in a FTSE 100 at 32. I worked hard. Why are there so many posts on Mumsnet by women who can't take responsibility?

I honestly don’t even know what you’re saying

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 12/08/2025 13:54

Gotback · 12/08/2025 13:52

Beholdent myt arset.

🤣

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 12/08/2025 13:54

VexedofVirginiaWater · 11/08/2025 21:52

Not everyone is as clever as you are.

Nor can they write as eloquently.

Gotback · 12/08/2025 13:52

Beholdent myt arset.

arcticpandas · 12/08/2025 13:50

Maybe they are disabled or have got disabled children? In our case my DH works for all of us so I can take care of my autistic DS. Or do you think it's better to be beholden to the state in that case?

Bambamhoohoo · 12/08/2025 13:47

Oh OP chat gpt doesn’t even know about you? How will it ever take over the world, they?

Based on the latest reputable information, the youngest-ever female board director in a FTSE 100 company is Julie Chakraverty, who was appointed as a non-executive director of Aberdeen Asset Management (and previously Paternoster) in 2011 at the age of 39 UKTN.
To clarify other notable figures:

  • Liv (Olivia) Garfield became the youngest female CEO of a FTSE 100 company (Severn Trent) when she was appointed at age 38, but that's as a CEO—not a board director—so slightly different role and not the youngest female director per se Yorkshire PostWikipedia.
  • Louise Botting, who joined the board of CGNU (now Aviva), was one of the first female FTSE 100 directors, but she was well over 39 at the time of appointment and not the youngest Wikipedia.
So in summary, Julie Chakraverty, at age 39, holds the record as the youngest-ever female board director in a FTSE 100 company. Let me know if you’d like details on her career or other pioneering board appointments!

Louise Botting - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Louise_Botting?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 12/08/2025 13:45

VideoTomorrow · 12/08/2025 13:39

Are you of at least average intelligence? Possibly well above?

Did you have supportive parents - emotionally/practically/financially? Did your upbringing mean that you have a high EQ?

Don't underestimate the power of those things.

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Parents could probably have given her a head's up that the word is 'beholden' though.

x2boys · 12/08/2025 13:44

Tbf this is mumsnet irl,having a child at such a young age would at best hold someone back from reaching their potential for a good few years but on mumsnet they would still go on to get fantastic Alevels ,places at a Russell group ( it's always Russell group ) university get first class degree ,and go on to be a CEO of a multi national company .

Port1aCastis · 12/08/2025 13:41

Well most women can think for themselves and see through bullshit

vodkaredbullgirl · 12/08/2025 13:41

JHound · 12/08/2025 10:15

Oh it’s a driveby poster with no follow-up in the thread.

Exits

One of them is it, drop and run

Hoppinggreen · 12/08/2025 13:40

Wow, you have achieved a lot despite being dead (and having a loose grasp of grammar and spelling)

VideoTomorrow · 12/08/2025 13:39

Lifeisinteresting · 11/08/2025 21:46

I give up. I was brought up to be independent. I got pregnant at 16 ir was not I’m dead! I had the kid (she's now a Dr) I was a board director in a FTSE 100 at 32. I worked hard. Why are there so many posts on Mumsnet by women who can't take responsibility?

Are you of at least average intelligence? Possibly well above?

Did you have supportive parents - emotionally/practically/financially? Did your upbringing mean that you have a high EQ?

Don't underestimate the power of those things.

MumbleBumbleAppleCrumble · 12/08/2025 13:38

Child at 16, a FTSE 100 board director at 32 - and all apparently whilst being dead - and yet writing a coherent paragraph is clearly beyond you…

GreenWheat · 12/08/2025 13:35

edwinbear · 12/08/2025 10:41

A quick Google suggests there has never been a female board director of a FTSE 100 at the age of 32. Obviously. This is just BS isn’t it OP.

Well knock me down with a feather! 😂