Really want to swim in my pool but I won’t

G'wan gurrl! 😃

Dear OP
here you are…..

I'm 5'4'' and currently weigh just over 200 pounds. I've been in three different public swimming pools in the last fortnight without a second thought. I am envious of your pool and would be in it all the time 😁

So happy for you and your daughter op, life is too short - well done!

Fantastic, OP!

I wasted 25 years of opportunities to get in a pool because of my insecurities about my body. Now I know nobody is bothered what I look like and I love being in the water.

I hope you’ll come back tomorrow and tell us how much you’ve enjoyed your day in your pool!

Hooray!!
Well done.
Keep doing it. Soon you won't think twice.

You think if you dont get in your pool, no-one will realise youre a size 16?
No-one cares. Its completely neutral.
The only people hurting here are you and your daughter.
Could you get some board shorts and a swimming tshirt if you prefer to stay covered

Well done @Sheateallthehummusagain!

Hang on to that feeling! Far nicer than hating on yourself!

And kindly… if your weight is having this much of an impact on how you feel, maybe you need to take some steps to address those feelings. I don’t mean by being on a diet… but taking some steps towards coming to some acceptance of yourself… whilst doing something positive for your health by increasing activity. It will make you feel good when those endorphins start flowing.

Best of luck!

Get in!

I’m the sane size as you. I spend most of my life looking for a oppurunity to swim!

No one is watching you, they are all doing their own thing in their own lives with their own people. To put it bluntly, no one in the outside world gives a single fuck about you, what you are doing or what you look like. I say that last part to myself regularly, it gets me through when I'm feeling anxious or insecure :) go and have fun in the pool.

I spent several holidays not going in the pool. If I did I’d be in a tshirt, full length sarong plus bra and knickers underneath the full swimming costume. I’ve been so angry at myself when I haven’t let myself go in. Made a big fuss of DD in the water every time whether I went in or not so she’d still have a good time. Your own pool? Screw the neighbours, I’d be in there (yes still wearing all of the above) at every opportunity. And you are letting her down because it’s literally at home. We haven’t been able to go on holiday since 2019 and I can’t imagine being able to save enough to do so again. Enjoy what you have and make the most of it with your child.

No, I don't ever feel that I can't go in my pool. I don't have a pool. I'd love a pool. The fact that I'm overweight would not stop me swimming in my pool.

Well done.

If you remain self conscious get a big over the head towel poncho or robe. It will be about half a second between removing and getting in or out.

Once you are in the water no one can see your figure anyway.

But really, no one else will care. When did you last stare at any of your neighbours using their pools?

Do it! I've been at the seaside the last two days and people of all ages and sizes have been on the beach and enjoying swimming on a hot day.

Great! Well done!

Well done op. Make this a permanent change today.

You should not give a shit what anyone thinks of your size. Because anyone who is thinking anything mean is just a total cunt. Never ever let others stop you enjoying something you love with your dd. Never!

Frankly, I’m a bit bigger that you and I’d happily go in naked any time of the day or night. In fact I did go somewhere that had a nice swimming place that I didn’t know was going to be there. So I stripped to my knickers and just got in topless. Had no towel so blotted myself lightly on the front and back of the tshirt DH was wearing and then just put my shorts and tshirt on knickerless. Honestly nobody gave any fucks, I had a great time and DH thought it was funny. It was outdoors and free.

Oh that is lovely to read, OP. Get yourself a short sleeved rash vest and some swimming shorts, and join your DD in the daytime!!

Fantastic update, I’m so pleased for you!

So many size 8-10 women feel the same way. It’s not about your size. You’ve reminded yourself how glorious it is for the human body to be in water, to soak in in it, float in it, swim in it, feel its resistance and support. Don’t deny your body the pleasure of a sensual and healthy experience at whatever time of the day or night suits you.

I agree with others, just get in your pool. We had one when we lived abroad. It gives you a different perspective of your garden, it's fabulous. No one will look, or even care if they do see you. If you can get past your worries, you'll love having your own pool.
Edited for spelling.

Amazing! remember that feeling!

I visit a friend each summer who has a pool overlooked by some houses (not that I think anyone actually cares!) and have floated my size 32 body all the way down to my current size 22 body...have also done the same in the sea and laying on the beach and truly, no one gives a shit, not one (the only time I did get any stares was when I V dramatically slipped on the rocks getting into the sea, swore very loudly and had to do the walk f shame back to my sunlounger with blood running down my leg!) and when I think of all the lovely memories with my gorgeous friend that I could've missed out on, well that would be very sad!

Weirdly I don’t! I’m huge (slightly less huge now after WLI since May!)

I am self conscious everywher, all the time…except in the water. Happy to bob round in my costume at the beach, at the pool, on holiday. But balk at the idea of a social event fully dressed 😂 Go figure!

My thought process (I guess) is that I’ll likely never see those people again, I dunno!

Off topic, but just wore shorts outside for the first time ever I think, certainly as an adult! It was hot and I wanted to walk the dog so just thought sod it! Once you break the seal, I think you’ll be glad you did 💜

Don't deny yourself the joy of swimming or being in lovely cooling water, OP.
Feel the fear and do it anyway?
Good luck.

Fabulous! So proud of you 👏

I am size 24. I was like you but have a little 8yo water baby. I got myself swim shorts and a rash vest to swim in the sea and have found tankinis with bra support the best thing to wear in the pool. Literally no one cares what you look like but your dd will love you swimming with her.