To leave DH if he loses his second job in three years?

If he applies for another job while the FWW is on file i think that has to be declared.

This is so gross. I assume from your responses you won't leave now he's not been sacked, which of course is your choice. However by standing by him just know you are condoning the way he behaves. Regardless of your "interrogation". Rather you than me.

Good god. He’s disgusting. Wants to celebrate a mere final warning for sexual harassment.

I think you need to set out some firm boundaries with firm consequences, OP. Eg, “If you have one more disciplinary at work, our marriage is over. Three strikes and you’re out; no further discussion.” (That is, unless you’ve already decided to leave.)

🥺😳 Please look up the freedom programme

Are you going to stay with him Op or are you still processing everything?

He will mess up, and you don't have to be caught up in the fallout when he does. Are you considering staying with him?

😮 wtf! He's pondlife!

Takeaway and a shag later

He's a fucking pig.

What an unrepentant cunt of a man.

He's all cock-a-hoop because he's just managed to get away with a final written warning for sexual harassment and thinks that he deserves a reward?

Hopefully, he will become an absolute pariah at work and all the women will give him a very wide berth.

I presume that his current employer doesn't know about the allegations of sexual misconduct at his last workplace and that he left under a cloud for the same behaviours that he has demonstrated here.

OP you might want to ask a few more questions at some point.

If he’s got a FWW he’s also (see my previous post) likely to be on a performance improvement plan, that is really a tool to manage him out of the business. I expect it will be very stringent and specific.

Any breech if that plan then he’s out.

This is very far from the slap on the wrist he was expecting.

He may feel he’s “won” today but this is simply the company covering themselves whilst doling out the rope and given how he’s behaved and his response to you - he’s already started tying his own noose.

@Joness2 I would be concentrating on your own personal situation- start putting money ‘aside’ etc -

The combination of knowing now what it was he said, plus his attitude of it's all a fuss over nothing, he'd never get sex from me again.

Please don't stay with him just because of finances.

Please don't brush it under the carpet like it didn't happen.

It's only over until the next time.

For clarity, I feel awful for you that this is happening and it’s not your fault he’s a pig. I just can’t understand how after multiple occasions where he’s shown himself to be a misogynist pig who sexually harasses women, in multiple settings, you’re still with him. You deserve so much more. So do your kids.

If you’re planning to stay with him after all of this then you’re out of your actual fucking mind.

What a vile, horrible, misogynist pig your husband is.

I really hope you can see that and aren’t going to subject your kids to witnessing this relationship as their blueprint for any more of their childhood.

Why that text to you shows his sheer audacity and that he doesn’t give a flying fig about the whole disciplinary just that he thinks he has got off Scot free. No doubt he will get pissed up insult someone I. The pub and act like nothing is wrong. What an absolute tosser I am sorry you are with such a n awful man. That text alone is enough to spur you on to leave him though I would probably just pack him a bag and leave it on the doorstep with a note saying no longer welcome here.

He's safe for now but it's more of a question on for how long? As he clearly thinks this is all a big joke and he's done nothing wrong. He will be watched like a hawk as no-one will want to work with him due to association and he clearly can't help himself so won't be long before he slips up again. I know you need to stay at the moment due to finances but I'd use this time yo get yourself in a position to be personally stable when you leave. Remember he only told you this because he was at risk of losing his job, has known for months, god knows what else he has/is hiring from you. A guy like that who doesn't see a thing wrong in what he said has no conscience of action

He clearly thinks it's funny! The repulsive creature. Pity he wasn't fired!
I wouldn't be able to sleep with that again!
It wants rewarding for sexual harassment? it clearly lives on another planet!
You deserve better.

Totally agree. The break needs to be made now, not when he inevitably does get fired.

Yeah he clearly learned absolutely nothing so it’s bound to happen again, this time resulting in a dismissal and then rinse and repeat at a new job

not someone to rely on

I would be asking him to stay elsewhere for the weekend

I'm appalled at the outcome and angry on behalf of his work colleagues. He doesn't deserve the job and I hope OP makes plans to LTB. It doesn't sound like he's going to change.

I'd be even more furious if I was one of those women who had been subject to his vile behaviour.

I'd be tempted to text back something like:

Well you kept your job but you've lost your wife. At least you'll do be able to pay child maintenance.