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How would your husband react to this way of attempting intimacy?

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Klarr · 11/08/2025 20:19

Dh, kids and I are on holiday with my sister, her husband and children. It’s been lovely. Villa abroad. The kids occupy themselves and the adults get to lounge around the pool/play tennis/take it in turns to go out and about. No one is stressed as it’s pretty easy and relaxed.

Anyway, today I saw DH being really great with the kids - he just sorted everyone out today with breakfast and making sure the kids had all the stuff they needed for today’s big activity. We were ahead of schedule and just milling around.

I was just wanting to show my dh some affection if you know what I mean. So to get a bit of privacy in the bedroom I told dh his mum (who lives abroad to us all) was FaceTimeing on the kids tablet in our room and I couldn’t bring it to him as it was low battery and needing charging. Anyway, he got really annoyed and rejected me when he found out I was making the phone call up and just trying to get a few mins with him alone. Am I crazy that most men would not care AT ALL that I white lied in this scenario.

We moved past it but I just feel really rejected

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Notmyreality · 11/08/2025 20:50

wolleywool · 11/08/2025 20:28

mentioning parents is a bit of a passion killer! 😆

Honey..your mums on the phone..wink wink😉😉😉

yeah, bit weird.

Klarr · 11/08/2025 20:41

I wouldn’t necessarily refer to it as luring. If dh has said I’m not in the mood that’s fine but to take exception with the white lie was a bit odd.

i tried making eye contact with dh and directing his eyes upstairs but he just didn’t pick up on it.

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BrassOlive · 11/08/2025 20:37

So you got horny watching your DH with the kids and thought you'd lure him into sex with talk of his mother? Hmmm..

Disturbia81 · 11/08/2025 20:35

Imagine it the other way round and the man expected her to just get in the mood..

Bambamhoohoo · 11/08/2025 20:33

Maybe he just didn’t want to have sex.

MrsLizzieDarcy · 11/08/2025 20:32

I wouldn't have had to ask twice....

wolleywool · 11/08/2025 20:28

mentioning parents is a bit of a passion killer! 😆

hmmimnotsurewhy · 11/08/2025 20:28

Just because he’s a man he shouldn’t say no? I think he might have become a bit worried it’s his mum and found out it was just a joke.

wolleywool · 11/08/2025 20:28

Why not just whisper "let's have sex" or similar?

Screamingabdabz · 11/08/2025 20:26

Yeah God, don’t bring his mother into sexy time. 🤦🏻‍♀️

Klarr · 11/08/2025 20:26

We have a healthy intimate marriage. Nothing ott. And I just thought he would appreciate the spontaneity.

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QuickFawn · 11/08/2025 20:24

Probably killed the mood a bit with all the talk of his mum 😂

MYBO · 11/08/2025 20:23

My DP would have laughed at me and jumped at the chance!

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