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to think my colleague should just admit she is on weight loss injections?

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betnet · 11/08/2025 17:31

At work we have all noticed Sally has lost a lot of weight in the past few months. She is always talking about diets and what she eats and does not eat anymore and makes a big deal about avoiding the biscuit tin in the kitchen. She keeps saying it is just willpower and cutting out snacks.

Last week I walked past her desk, her bag was open, and there was one of those weight loss injection pens in plain sight.

Now I cannot unsee it and every time she goes on about her self control it feels performative.

I am not saying she has to announce it to the whole office, but when she is preaching about anyone can do it if they just try it feels a bit dishonest.

AIBU to think she should either be upfront or just stop making a song and dance about how she has done it all naturally?

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SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:35

PinkArt · 11/08/2025 22:33

JUST ASK HER TO STOP COMMENTING ON YOUR SNACKS!
It's that easy. No need for your weird snippy replies to people here, no need to use antagonistic words like 'admit' to medications she may or may not use, just ask her not to do the thing that's actually annoying you.

Sadly, it appears the OP is unable to string a sentence together in real life.

PinkArt · 11/08/2025 22:33

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:28

It is fine if she wants to keep it to herself but then she keeps boring everybody with amazing stories of her willpower. Telling us to stop having snacks while she has them herself.

JUST ASK HER TO STOP COMMENTING ON YOUR SNACKS!
It's that easy. No need for your weird snippy replies to people here, no need to use antagonistic words like 'admit' to medications she may or may not use, just ask her not to do the thing that's actually annoying you.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:33

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:32

I wouldn't have cared if this was a damp squib. I have other threads 😂

I am not seething. This thread has been a lot funnier than I expected 😂

😂
I’m loving all these crying with laughter faces we’re exchanging! Such fun!

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:32

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:30

Well your thread would have been a right damp squib if no one had engaged with it!
Anyway, you still haven’t answered why you can’t just do what the vast majority of actual adults would do, and ask the woman to stop commenting on your diet. Have you got nothing better to do than seethe and start threads about it, when you could have nipped it in the bud ages ago?

I wouldn't have cared if this was a damp squib. I have other threads 😂

I am not seething. This thread has been a lot funnier than I expected 😂

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HRTQueen · 11/08/2025 22:31

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:28

It is fine if she wants to keep it to herself but then she keeps boring everybody with amazing stories of her willpower. Telling us to stop having snacks while she has them herself.

Then tell her you will eat what you like and not concerned about your weight

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:31

Plus it’s half past 10 on a Monday night, my kids are in bed and my husband is away. No, I’ve got nothing better to do 😂

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:30

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:27

Have you nothing better to do? 😂

Well your thread would have been a right damp squib if no one had engaged with it!
Anyway, you still haven’t answered why you can’t just do what the vast majority of actual adults would do, and ask the woman to stop commenting on your diet. Have you got nothing better to do than seethe and start threads about it, when you could have nipped it in the bud ages ago?

themoirarosee · 11/08/2025 22:29

It only needs to be kept in the fridge until the first injection, then it can be stored outside the fridge. I’ve taken mine to work before as well, I need to inject at 10am lol 😂

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:28

HRTQueen · 11/08/2025 22:23

She doesn’t have to admit to anything and it makes no difference to you

and I don’t blame her because as soon as I told people the negativity wrapped up in concern 🙄 was tedious

it’s odd that people would prefer you be fat

It is fine if she wants to keep it to herself but then she keeps boring everybody with amazing stories of her willpower. Telling us to stop having snacks while she has them herself.

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betnet · 11/08/2025 22:27

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Have you nothing better to do? 😂

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betnet · 11/08/2025 22:26

usersame · 11/08/2025 22:21

She MUST be hiding it. From her family, her neighbours, the government! Yes super-sleuth OP (who is definitely not jealous at all) has it all worked out.

Have you applied for MJ yet?

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HRTQueen · 11/08/2025 22:23

She doesn’t have to admit to anything and it makes no difference to you

and I don’t blame her because as soon as I told people the negativity wrapped up in concern 🙄 was tedious

it’s odd that people would prefer you be fat

usersame · 11/08/2025 22:21

She MUST be hiding it. From her family, her neighbours, the government! Yes super-sleuth OP (who is definitely not jealous at all) has it all worked out.

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:21

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:19

And as I have said twice (at least) upthread, what would she do with it she had to go home from work? Where would she store it at evenings and weekends? And why would she keep it visible at the top of her bag, rather than hid away at the bottom/in a pocket of the bag?

I haven't thought about it that much.

You clearly have though.

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SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:20

You haven’t answered why you can’t use your big girl words though, and ask her to stop commenting on your diet?

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:19

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:17

She might be hiding it from her family. She has said they give her a hard time about her weight.

Just because you can't see a reason doesn't mean there isn't one.

And as I have said twice (at least) upthread, what would she do with it she had to go home from work? Where would she store it at evenings and weekends? And why would she keep it visible at the top of her bag, rather than hid away at the bottom/in a pocket of the bag?

daddysgirlnot · 11/08/2025 22:18

It’s none of your business.

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:17

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:11

Nah, just can’t see any reason why someone would carry a WLI pen around with them. It’s nonsensical.

She might be hiding it from her family. She has said they give her a hard time about her weight.

Just because you can't see a reason doesn't mean there isn't one.

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betnet · 11/08/2025 22:16

usersame · 11/08/2025 22:15

In the normal world when random woman in office loses weight ...

"Hey Pam are you on the MJ? It's working, you're looking fab! Good for you."

In OP's world -

"How dare she. She is LYING. LYING I tell you. I must start a thread to slag this outrageous weight-losing person off. No I'm not jealous at all. Noooo! Jealous me? What makes you all think that?"

You really need the MJ, huh?

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betnet · 11/08/2025 22:16

AiryFairyLights · 11/08/2025 22:10

Sorry wrong thread 🙁

Edited

You have posted this in the wrong place.

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usersame · 11/08/2025 22:15

In the normal world when random woman in office loses weight ...

"Hey Pam are you on the MJ? It's working, you're looking fab! Good for you."

In OP's world -

"How dare she. She is LYING. LYING I tell you. I must start a thread to slag this outrageous weight-losing person off. No I'm not jealous at all. Noooo! Jealous me? What makes you all think that?"

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:14

I also can’t see any reason why you can’t just use your big girl words and say ‘please stop commenting on my diet, it’s tedious’.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 22:11

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:09

Thank you. A lot of people seem very confused.

Nah, just can’t see any reason why someone would carry a WLI pen around with them. It’s nonsensical.

AiryFairyLights · 11/08/2025 22:10

Sorry wrong thread 🙁