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to think my colleague should just admit she is on weight loss injections?

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betnet · 11/08/2025 17:31

At work we have all noticed Sally has lost a lot of weight in the past few months. She is always talking about diets and what she eats and does not eat anymore and makes a big deal about avoiding the biscuit tin in the kitchen. She keeps saying it is just willpower and cutting out snacks.

Last week I walked past her desk, her bag was open, and there was one of those weight loss injection pens in plain sight.

Now I cannot unsee it and every time she goes on about her self control it feels performative.

I am not saying she has to announce it to the whole office, but when she is preaching about anyone can do it if they just try it feels a bit dishonest.

AIBU to think she should either be upfront or just stop making a song and dance about how she has done it all naturally?

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SomeOfTheTrouble · 12/08/2025 10:08

My office is mainly men. They don’t tend to talk much about weight loss methods.

cyvguhb · 12/08/2025 09:57

Carpedimum · 11/08/2025 23:08

It’s much more likely to have been an epi-pen or similar because the weight loss meds need to be kept refrigerated and there’d be no need to take it out of the house.

If there's one thing I've learned from this thread it's that the pens dont need to be kept in the fridge 😁

There could be many reasons why someone would take the pen out of the house, that doesnt take much imagination to come up with

cyvguhb · 12/08/2025 09:39

GreyCarpet · 11/08/2025 18:11

It's literally got nothing to do with anyone else.

I cannot imagine being in the slightest bit concerned about how a colleague was losing weight.

That's really unusual, ime people are pretty much always interested in how someone is losing or has lost weight. It's been a totally normal topic of conversation in every office I've every worked in, even more so since the jabs came along

PutThe · 12/08/2025 09:36

😆

ilovesooty · 12/08/2025 09:27

betnet · 12/08/2025 08:10

Seriously you looked up my past posts? You are getting really bored now 😂

I will name change for the next one!

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"I have other threads"

I expect you name changed for those. ETA it appears that you did.

usersame · 12/08/2025 09:16

"I am off to focus on my other threads where I did name change"

There's more from you? Fantastic!!!

I bet you are 'Twiggy' who just started the thread about the colleague - this time, it's one who is too overweight to lift things.

And / or the poster on about people who can't eat everything in restaurants.

The tone is the same and the topics equally petty.

WaterGarden · 12/08/2025 09:06

I don't believe that someone who was pretending to be losing weight through will power would take their syringe to work and have it on display in their open bag.

PlioTalk · 12/08/2025 09:03

Russiandollsaresofullofthemselves · 11/08/2025 23:06

or she is diabetic. I developed sudden onset diabetes at the age of 28. I was already thin and couldn’t explain the rapped weight loss I was experiencing that didn’t stop for months after I was diagnosed. I could tell loads of people were talking about me behind my back. people should mind their business.

@Russiandollsaresofullofthemselves- that must've been so hard! My great-nephew is T1, he has an insulin pump now, some kids at school picked on him for it.

I hope your diabetes is as well-controlled as it can be x

Lmnop22 · 12/08/2025 09:02

Since you only inject one a week and the pen needs to be refrigerated, the chances it was in her handbag are, well, zero.

Pretty sure OP is the one being caught in a lie here, not her colleague….

DuckbilledSplatterPuff · 12/08/2025 09:00

I felt sorry for the colleague because she's going through a lot of changes. People have noticed and I think she feels she has to justify it in some way.

I don't think she needs to tell people if she's on medication though.

At the same time I think her going on about other people's eating habits is out of order and so I can see why you find that annoying OP.

She'll never learn unless someone says something. She will probably take it in more easily if its done in a nice way.
Best of luck.

HowAmYa · 12/08/2025 08:44

OP just let it be. Don’t get invested like this. People hate admitting because of all the judgement. So leave it be.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 12/08/2025 08:18

betnet · 12/08/2025 08:14

Your husband still not back? Kids still asleep?

I hope he comes back soon and your kids wake up, then you can start bothering them 😂

I am off to focus on my other threads where I did name change 😁

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Have fun! And when you get to work, you could try saying ‘stop commenting on my snacks, Sally’. It will change your life! 😘

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betnet · 12/08/2025 08:14

SomeOfTheTrouble · 12/08/2025 08:11

Took about 45 seconds.
Which is about the time it would take you to say ‘Sally, please stop commenting on my dietary choices’. You should give it a try 😉

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Your husband still not back? Kids still asleep?

I hope he comes back soon and your kids wake up, then you can start bothering them 😂

I am off to focus on my other threads where I did name change 😁

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SomeOfTheTrouble · 12/08/2025 08:11

betnet · 12/08/2025 08:10

Seriously you looked up my past posts? You are getting really bored now 😂

I will name change for the next one!

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Took about 45 seconds.
Which is about the time it would take you to say ‘Sally, please stop commenting on my dietary choices’. You should give it a try 😉

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betnet · 12/08/2025 08:10

SomeOfTheTrouble · 12/08/2025 08:04

I’ve just had a quick look and it appears that not only is the OP an actual adult, she’s a grandparent. So you’d think in all her years on the planet she’d have learned to say ‘excuse me Sally, I’d prefer if it you didn’t comment on my dietary choices’.

Seriously you looked up my past posts? You are getting really bored now 😂

I will name change for the next one!

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betnet · 12/08/2025 08:08

AiryFairyLights · 11/08/2025 23:04

I know, I’m so sorry - I was mortified and couldn’t edit it quick enough 😂

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It was a good post!

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SomeOfTheTrouble · 12/08/2025 08:04

I’ve just had a quick look and it appears that not only is the OP an actual adult, she’s a grandparent. So you’d think in all her years on the planet she’d have learned to say ‘excuse me Sally, I’d prefer if it you didn’t comment on my dietary choices’.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 12/08/2025 07:51

MrsSunshine2b · 12/08/2025 00:26

OP appears to be mad about her colleague continually gloating and putting down others for their "bad" diet choices, which is even more egregious when she hasn't suddenly adopted healthier choices through the "willpower" she tells others to have but is getting help.

In the same way as in my example further up, if I went around lecturing people with unmedicated ADHD on the importance of staying organised and concentrating, when actually the only reason I manage is with meds.

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Why can’t the OP use her words and ask the woman to stop commenting on her dietary choices then? That’s one question she is resolutely refusing to answer.

Booyaka619 · 12/08/2025 07:43

betnet · 11/08/2025 22:28

It is fine if she wants to keep it to herself but then she keeps boring everybody with amazing stories of her willpower. Telling us to stop having snacks while she has them herself.

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So tell her it’s rude to comment on other people’s eating habits and ask her to stop. You could even say “I really don’t want to talk about dieting at all,” if it’s bothering you.

MounjaroBingo · 12/08/2025 07:01

Doseofreality · 11/08/2025 18:08

I know someone doing the same, brags that she’s lost 6 stone through dietary changes and walking and suggests to other’s they should do the same.
We all know she’s on the jabs, she’s in all the groups asking for and giving advice.
We just roll our eyes and laugh at her.

But she WILL have lost through dietary changes and walking. It’s just that WLI are a tool to support her in being able to do that.

Mumofyellows · 12/08/2025 06:39

Leave her be! If she wanted to tell you she would.

liquoriceallsortfamily · 12/08/2025 06:36

I’m on self funded WLI and I kept it to myself for months and it was constantly in the news and people were being really nasty and judgemental so I can’t blame her in some ways. I did eventually put a post on facebook owning up and most people were lovely but the one who always struggled with their weight were really jealous and bitchy.
I can understand both sides of this argument.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 12/08/2025 04:04

I really dislike nosey people.

BlankBlankBlank14 · 12/08/2025 03:59

betnet · 11/08/2025 21:04

You would if you are hiding it from your family.

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I don’t think you would, I mean as you’ve proved it’s a bad hiding place.

You seem to be obsessed with “snacks” and the fact she is still having them. As far as I’m aware, the WLI don’t erase calories, you have to reduce your calorie intake. So the snacks she’s having are either low calorie (assuming she’s eating meals as well) or not as many as you think.

washinwashoutrepeat · 12/08/2025 02:34

betnet · 11/08/2025 20:35

How do you know that is how we are all making her feel? Are you one of my colleagues?

Is it wrong to notice when someone loses or gains weight?

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It is in very bad taste to comment upon it.
her body is no one’s business.

these are not magic jabs that dissolve fat! that person still has to put in the hard work.

it sounds like she is re-educating herself abiut diet and trying very hard. Good for her!

IIWY I would smile, nod, encourage and not give it another moments thought.

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