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to think my colleague should just admit she is on weight loss injections?

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betnet · 11/08/2025 17:31

At work we have all noticed Sally has lost a lot of weight in the past few months. She is always talking about diets and what she eats and does not eat anymore and makes a big deal about avoiding the biscuit tin in the kitchen. She keeps saying it is just willpower and cutting out snacks.

Last week I walked past her desk, her bag was open, and there was one of those weight loss injection pens in plain sight.

Now I cannot unsee it and every time she goes on about her self control it feels performative.

I am not saying she has to announce it to the whole office, but when she is preaching about anyone can do it if they just try it feels a bit dishonest.

AIBU to think she should either be upfront or just stop making a song and dance about how she has done it all naturally?

OP posts:
Louiestopit · 11/08/2025 18:13

Does it matter?

I’ve lost 16 stone over the last 4 years, 3 and a half of that this year. I’ve been “confronted” so many time this year about weight loss injections. No matter what I say, there are a couple of people so angry at me, wanting me to admit it. One person stopped speaking to me over my “lies.” I’m sure there are more people convinced I am on it and lying.

I’m not on them. I just stopped eating anything processed and I don’t eat sugar or fake sugar. I was 27 stone and killing my self and I decided one day that I didn’t want to be that way anymore. It’s a very boring story. That’s it. My only “secret” is that I was diagnosed with celiac, so that cut out a huge swathe of crap (McDonalds and Greggs, my old loves 😭), and the rest was easy.

But when I tell people that, they won’t accept it.

CarefulN0w · 11/08/2025 18:13

Ooh do I need to admit that the reason my skin has improved in the past few months is due to collagen?

Ask you to take into consideration that I also take magnesium supplements to help me sleep?

Heck, I even used to take tablets so that I could have sex and not get pregnant. Does that need to be run past you too OP?

betnet · 11/08/2025 18:13

ByLemonFish · 11/08/2025 18:11

Maybe she's worried about criticism
I've been on mounjaro since end of June and have only told my brother and 2 of my cousins

That's fine but she is always talking about diets and weight loss. It is her business but then why keep talking about it all the time?

OP posts:
SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:12

Doseofreality · 11/08/2025 18:08

I know someone doing the same, brags that she’s lost 6 stone through dietary changes and walking and suggests to other’s they should do the same.
We all know she’s on the jabs, she’s in all the groups asking for and giving advice.
We just roll our eyes and laugh at her.

Well she DID lose weight through dietary changes and walking.

The WLIs do not make your fat evaporate, the diet you follow whilst on them does.

My diet to lose weight on WLIs is different, and more disciplined, than my diet when I am maintaining my weight on WLIs

Imagine eye rolling and smirking like mean teenagers at someone's medical treatments? Vile

betnet · 11/08/2025 18:12

Battels · 11/08/2025 17:38

And the whole office burst into cheering when the OP called her out.

I haven't called her out and haven't told anybody.

OP posts:
ByLemonFish · 11/08/2025 18:11

Maybe she's worried about criticism
I've been on mounjaro since end of June and have only told my brother and 2 of my cousins

GreyCarpet · 11/08/2025 18:11

It's literally got nothing to do with anyone else.

I cannot imagine being in the slightest bit concerned about how a colleague was losing weight.

betnet · 11/08/2025 18:11

Tubatuber · 11/08/2025 17:36

Really? Most people keep their injections at home in the fridge.

You really need to butt out. It is none of your business. If you keep harassing her you are going to into trouble with HR.

Where did I say I was harassing her?

OP posts:
CrispySquid · 11/08/2025 18:10

Why would she take her very expensive weekly weight loss injection that needs to be kept refrigerated, to the office and have the syringe exposed in her bag (not in a case or pouch or packet or anything) in plain enough sight so you could see?! Especially if you say she’s being evasive about it?! Why would she need to inject herself with it at work instead of the comfort of her own home?! Absolutely nobody does this.

If the story is true (probably not) maybe it was an insulin shot or something else?

If it is a weight loss injection, just be kind and act like you are none the wiser and be happy she is feeling healthier.

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:10

betnet · 11/08/2025 17:31

At work we have all noticed Sally has lost a lot of weight in the past few months. She is always talking about diets and what she eats and does not eat anymore and makes a big deal about avoiding the biscuit tin in the kitchen. She keeps saying it is just willpower and cutting out snacks.

Last week I walked past her desk, her bag was open, and there was one of those weight loss injection pens in plain sight.

Now I cannot unsee it and every time she goes on about her self control it feels performative.

I am not saying she has to announce it to the whole office, but when she is preaching about anyone can do it if they just try it feels a bit dishonest.

AIBU to think she should either be upfront or just stop making a song and dance about how she has done it all naturally?

You still have to be disciplined on WLIs
Sometimes that means you have to make sure you're eating enough

As well as tracking macros to minimise pancreatitis risks

As well as being disciplined to use them for creating NEW habits

You wouldn't tell a smoker who used nicotine patches that they didn't use any will power to stop!

CaptainMyCaptain · 11/08/2025 18:10

Doseofreality · 11/08/2025 18:08

I know someone doing the same, brags that she’s lost 6 stone through dietary changes and walking and suggests to other’s they should do the same.
We all know she’s on the jabs, she’s in all the groups asking for and giving advice.
We just roll our eyes and laugh at her.

Well you're all quite nasty aren't you? Jealous?

loveawineloveacrisp · 11/08/2025 18:09

What the actual fuck has it got to do with you?

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 18:08

3678194b · 11/08/2025 18:06

Same as when people have their teeth done/cosmetic surgery/fillers etc and want people to think it's all natural, I guess.

Well not really, WLI is a medication prescribed by a medical professional, used to treat a medical condition (obesity). It’s not a cosmetic treatment.
Everyone is entitled to keep their medical history private.

Doseofreality · 11/08/2025 18:08

I know someone doing the same, brags that she’s lost 6 stone through dietary changes and walking and suggests to other’s they should do the same.
We all know she’s on the jabs, she’s in all the groups asking for and giving advice.
We just roll our eyes and laugh at her.

LastKnownSurvivor · 11/08/2025 18:07

She doesn't owe anyone an explanation.

Showerflowers · 11/08/2025 18:07

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 17:36

Why would she be carrying it around with her?

My guess is that ops made that but up if not the whole story

Rosscameasdoody · 11/08/2025 18:06

gamerchick · 11/08/2025 17:41

I always thought they had to be kept in the fridge.

They do until first use and then they can be stored at room temperature below 30c. Regardless I don’t think it’s any of OP’s business - she can’t be sure what she saw is a weight loss jab. It could be an EpiPen or something for diabetes. I use the same type of injection pen for arthritis medication. I can’t figure out why anyone would carry around something like Mounjaro or wegovy as they are once a week jabs. I think there’s a certain amount of envy to this and OP is just looking for a reason to bring her down. Nasty.

CaptainMyCaptain · 11/08/2025 18:06

None of your business.

3678194b · 11/08/2025 18:06

Same as when people have their teeth done/cosmetic surgery/fillers etc and want people to think it's all natural, I guess.

cadburyegg · 11/08/2025 18:05

I’ve been on WLI but I haven’t mentioned anything about dieting to anyone unless they asked and then I’ve been vague. It doesn’t make sense that she would carry the pen in her bag. I’ve always left mine at home. But diabetes pens look very similar so unless you saw the specific label on you wouldn’t know the difference.

If she is on WLI she’s being disingenuous but you’re also being unreasonable by expecting her to divulge personal information.

TheOnlyThing · 11/08/2025 18:05

“Oh come on Susan, we’ve all heard of Ozempic”

Although I’m on a injectable pen medication, it’s not for weight loss or diabetes and it doesn’t need refrigeration.

genesis92 · 11/08/2025 18:04

People don’t carry these pens around with them in their handbag.

PinkArt · 11/08/2025 18:04

Admit? Why would anyone have to admit to being on any medication? She isn't committing a crime, she has nothing to confess to. Would you be so triumphant if a colleague had been smiling more and you spotted anti depressants in their bag?
Anyway how convenient than you saw the pen that she will have had no obvious reason to bring to the office. If she does chose to share her private medical information with you, then perhaps she could also explain to you that she will have needed to eat less snacks and use will power alongside WLI to have the success she's had. They don't do the work for you, they're a helpful tool that stops your body fighting weight loss efforts.

MaryTheTurtle · 11/08/2025 18:03

I have a colleague who announces every Summer her new diet. So boring that she isn’t eating X . Eats Y and goes swimming every morning. Good for you but stfu about it

Corrag · 11/08/2025 18:03

MrsLizzieDarcy · 11/08/2025 17:59

A lady I work with has been overweight for about 15 years. Then since March she's lost around 6 stone. But to be fair, she had sleep apnoea and diabetes and I think she looks amazing but I do grit my teeth a little when she's talking about how she never snacks anymore. I'm diabetic and my nurse won't prescribe it for me, instead I'm on some trial astra zeneca drug instead that is giving me constant UTI's. The joy.

Why do you grit your teeth?