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to think my colleague should just admit she is on weight loss injections?

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betnet · 11/08/2025 17:31

At work we have all noticed Sally has lost a lot of weight in the past few months. She is always talking about diets and what she eats and does not eat anymore and makes a big deal about avoiding the biscuit tin in the kitchen. She keeps saying it is just willpower and cutting out snacks.

Last week I walked past her desk, her bag was open, and there was one of those weight loss injection pens in plain sight.

Now I cannot unsee it and every time she goes on about her self control it feels performative.

I am not saying she has to announce it to the whole office, but when she is preaching about anyone can do it if they just try it feels a bit dishonest.

AIBU to think she should either be upfront or just stop making a song and dance about how she has done it all naturally?

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SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:31

PringlesTube · 11/08/2025 18:29

Why does it even matter? 😂 why are people obsessed over it being in her bag? Maybe she’s going to her mums after work but always does her jab at 7pm so will do it there? Who bloody cares?

It's not daily

It's not time dependant. Am last week, pm this week, doesn't matter

It's not even particularly day dependant.
If you took it on Tuesday last week you can take it tues, weds or Thurs this week.

And they expire quicker out of the fridge and why waste them?

m00rfarm · 11/08/2025 18:31

PringlesTube · 11/08/2025 18:29

Why does it even matter? 😂 why are people obsessed over it being in her bag? Maybe she’s going to her mums after work but always does her jab at 7pm so will do it there? Who bloody cares?

Why would she take it anywhere? That's why people are obsessing over it - it is entirely possibly it was NOT a WLI that the OP saw in the bag. The whole thing is a made up story to get people talking.

TragicMuse · 11/08/2025 18:31

So what? Why do you think it matters? Regardless of what she says or does, it literally doesn’t matter. Nothing she says or does has any actual bearing on your life.

I’d find something else to obsess over, maybe something that actually is your business.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 18:30

PringlesTube · 11/08/2025 18:29

Why does it even matter? 😂 why are people obsessed over it being in her bag? Maybe she’s going to her mums after work but always does her jab at 7pm so will do it there? Who bloody cares?

Because it sounds like bullshit to be honest. Just (another) excuse for people to bash those using WLI.

BrendaSmall · 11/08/2025 18:30

They only have to be kept in the fridge until you first use them then it can be kept anywhere!
mines in my cabinet beside my bed!!
Only myself and my husband knows I’m using it, it’s nothing to do with anyone else how I’m losing weight!!

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:29

m00rfarm · 11/08/2025 18:27

Interesting that you know to recognise a pen from a quick look in her bag. I had no idea what they looked like until I researched it.

You have to look pretty closely because they're not the only meds in those kindsa pens!

PringlesTube · 11/08/2025 18:29

m00rfarm · 11/08/2025 18:27

Well, you do until you start using it. And why would someone bring it into the office for a once a week injection?

Why does it even matter? 😂 why are people obsessed over it being in her bag? Maybe she’s going to her mums after work but always does her jab at 7pm so will do it there? Who bloody cares?

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:27

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 11/08/2025 18:17

This. If it really was a WLI pen then she would almost certainly be keeping it in her bathroom at home. There's no reason for her to have it in her bag. I suspect the OP is not giving the correct picture

This

Diabetic pens need to be taken at certain times of the day

WLIs are weekly, and you don't even have to take them the exact same day, if you miss it on day 7 you can take it on day 8 instead. There's zero reason to bring one to work.

I don't even take them on holiday! There's no need. If the trip is longer than a week I can skip a week

I have never taken my pens out of my fridge after recieving them except to use them in my kitchen

m00rfarm · 11/08/2025 18:27

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 11/08/2025 18:25

No you don’t.

Well, you do until you start using it. And why would someone bring it into the office for a once a week injection?

WearyAuldWumman · 11/08/2025 18:27

It's taken me around two years to lose two stone and to build up some muscle.

Twenty years ago, I lost more than 4 stones over a 3/4 yr period doing the same as I'm doing now - cutting calories and going to the gym. My experience is that each time no one really noticed the weight loss until I got to around the two stone mark; in fact, the last time round it wasn't until I'd lost about three stones. I'm managing more gym visits this time round and that's definitely made a difference.

I'm sure that some people might scoff that I've been overweight for most of my adult life. (I'm 65.) There are certainly some people who seem to think that I've suddenly lost excess fat.

In actual fact, now that I've gone down from a large size 22 to an 18 with a fat stomach, I'm finding it slightly easier to find clothes which fit instead of having to wear tents all the time, so the weight loss looks more than it actually is. My arms were never as fat as the rest of me, but I had them covered up because they looked so awful - I'd lost a lot of muscle for various reasons, but have now built it back up again.

Why has it taken me so long to get back on track after losing and then regaining the weight in my 40s? Quite simply, I was working full time and caring/advocating for my parents and then my late husband. It simply wasn't possible for me to get back to the gym, my single best motivator for getting fit and keeping to my calorie deficit. I also had to have bits of surgery, including a shoulder decompression.

m00rfarm · 11/08/2025 18:27

Interesting that you know to recognise a pen from a quick look in her bag. I had no idea what they looked like until I researched it.

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 11/08/2025 18:26

betnet · 11/08/2025 18:21

This is what I don't get. She keeps going on about weight loss and diets all the time whereas most people would just keep it quiet.

Does any actual work get done in your workplace?

YouWillFindMeInTheGarden · 11/08/2025 18:25

upandleftthenright · 11/08/2025 18:14

Made up. You need to medically keep the pen in the fridge.

No you don’t.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 18:24

betnet · 11/08/2025 18:20

See @Scarlettpixie post

Still no need for anyone to carry it around with them though. Taking it isn’t time critical.

MrsSunshine2b · 11/08/2025 18:24

betnet · 11/08/2025 18:18

I have seen her having snacks quite a few times. She tells other people off for having snacks though.

That would really annoy me.

I'd ask her what gave her the impression that you wanted her advice or opinion, and tell her it was extremely rude to make assumptions that other people want to lose weight.

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:24

Merryoldgoat · 11/08/2025 18:19

No, but if the smoker was going around telling everyone they’d gone cold turkey and not needed any assistance it would be disingenuous.

No one needs to share anything they don’t want to but pretending it’s all due ONLY to dietary changes and willpower is strange.

I’m ok with people knowing I’m on the jabs. If I wasn’t I’d take them, keep my mouth shut and say I’ve been trying to lose weight if asked but not offer any information or thought on how easy it is and that ‘anyone can do it’

Is she saying "I don't use WLIs"?
(I mean she can if she wants, I am pretty open about using them but can see why people aren't telling you

or

is she just not mentioning that aspect and talking about the other aspects of her plan?

Bigsigh24 · 11/08/2025 18:24

Merryoldgoat · 11/08/2025 17:36

To be honest I’d not have managed to say something because of the performative bollocks.

I’m on MJ and have lost 4 stone. I’ve told anyone who asked. There’s nothing shameful about being on them but pretending it’s some new-found strength of character it’s fucking irritating.

Yep agree I used MJ lost 3st10lb and the first question anyone asks is ‘have you cheated/used drugs? ‘ which is equally annoying but then so is people preaching on about diets so mostly agree, nothing do with anyone else really x

SomeOfTheTrouble · 11/08/2025 18:23

betnet · 11/08/2025 18:21

This is what I don't get. She keeps going on about weight loss and diets all the time whereas most people would just keep it quiet.

Because she’s on a diet and losing weight?

CoffeeCatsandBooks · 11/08/2025 18:23

I have lost a stone and a half in 3 months. People keep saying is because I am on the injections. Im not! I cut out snacking (which was a massive thing for me), cut out drinking coke zero (I was drinking at least 2 lt a day), started going to the gym, drinking water and eating more healthy. I dont go preaching about it, but when people ask me i tell them exactly what i have done. I avoid the “biscuit tin” and nibbles because I am too weak to have only one. People around me think is because I am “obviously” on the injections. It annoys me because it has been really hard for me to have made all these changes, and is a daily struggle to stay on them for people who have nothing to do with my life (ie. work colleagues, people i know and am friendly with) to say its because of something else. Just as a side note, needles absolutely freak me out! I get massive anxiety and panic attacks when i have to get anything medical that requires a jab.

it has nothing to do with you, she owes you absolutely nothing. If she says is not the injections why are you doubting her?! Do you pay her rent? Buy her groceries? If not, butt out!

XenoBitch · 11/08/2025 18:23

Doseofreality · 11/08/2025 18:08

I know someone doing the same, brags that she’s lost 6 stone through dietary changes and walking and suggests to other’s they should do the same.
We all know she’s on the jabs, she’s in all the groups asking for and giving advice.
We just roll our eyes and laugh at her.

But you do change your diet when on the weight loss jabs.

I know someone on them who lived on takeaways and crap from the local garage. On the jabs, he does not crave the bad stuff anymore but has to make sure he eats, and healthily. So he is now eating things like stir fries, and upped his veg intake by a lot. He is also trying to walk a lot more.

I swear some people on here thing the jab dissolves fat. It does not. They make you feel less hungry. They don't impart you with knowledge on how to cook a healthy meal, or suddenly make you want to exercise. You still have to want to do those things yourself.

How awful that you would laugh at someone who is trying to better their health.

BigOldBlobsy · 11/08/2025 18:22

As others have said, could it be:
Vape
Diabetic pen
Epi pen
?

even so, best to mind your own business! She doesn’t owe anyone an explanation

Teenytwo · 11/08/2025 18:21

🐂💩.

Why would she have it in her bag at work? If she was keeping it a secret why would she leave it on display? Why is it any of your business? Why are you so invested that you have turned an online forum to judge her for it - maybe that’s why she hasn’t confided in you!

WillyWonkasPurpleHat · 11/08/2025 18:21

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:18

Yeah

But that's what WLIs do!
They give you the willpower / headspace to do it
The rest is still old fashioned diet, tracking and exercise!

But it isn't just willpower.

I have been on them for 7 months and have no desire to eat much at all, the "food noise" has gone - so it isn't will power.

I haven't told anyone, but I am certainly not banging on about everyone else food like Sally is as though I have finally seen the light!. She should just keep her nose out of other people's choices.

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:21

Doseofreality · 11/08/2025 18:17

We roll our eyes at her telling people they need to lose weight and it’s easy as she’s done it. Then lying about how she’s done it.

What's the lie?

All WLIs do is level the playing field so that people with out of whack GLP-1s can then follow the lifestyle plans that work for people who don't have disordered GLP-1

If she's on a plan that she feels good about why not enthuse

If you don't need WLIs then you are you cheating? By having normal GLP-1 regulation?

betnet · 11/08/2025 18:21

youreactinglikeafunmum · 11/08/2025 18:19

I mean, definitely dont say anything but

If I were her, I wouldnt be going around banging on about my various diet methods when whats actually working is mounjaro

Like, just dont say anything. Otherwise you invite questions

Same as someone suddenly sprouting bigger boobs and banging on about her chest workouts at the gym, rather than just going about her business with big boobs 🤷‍♀️

No judgement at all, i actually have huge respect for anyone on a wl journey, but what shes doing will backfire when the questions inevitably come

This is what I don't get. She keeps going on about weight loss and diets all the time whereas most people would just keep it quiet.

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