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To not want neighbours cats in my garden?

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Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 14:46

Our neighbour has cats and they keep coming into our garden. They have also made their way into our house several times through the window and back door. I’m currently pregnant and have two young children. The children get upset when they come in as they don’t understand why they come and go (they want them to stay to play with). We have a lot of songbirds birds that sit in a bush in our garden and the cats are constantly trying to hunt the birds.

The cats are also doing the toilet in the garden which my husband has to clean with a hose. I believe it’s not entirely safe to clean up cat mess when pregnant.

I spoke to the neighbour and asked if they could stop the cats coming into my house and garden. They said there is nothing that can be done.

Is it unreasonable that this is bothering me?

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grumpygrape · 11/08/2025 18:17

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:06

I’ve seen them physically do it but cat owners know best! My grass was covered with the filthy stuff, 5 cats and that was just from one house and I had a lot of grass. It would have cost me thousands to cat proof my garden. Covering the holes in the huge hedge would also have prevented hedgehogs too as another poster said. Impossible.

Oh, yes, as Hoskins said about spraying .... Grrrrr.

Again, I say this as a cat owner, unless being kept for breeding there is no valid reason for cats to not be neutered. Tom cat pee is disgusting 🤢

JoyfulLife · 11/08/2025 18:16

TheSwarm · 11/08/2025 15:22

I would hope it was clear what I meant by the word wildlife.

Cats are not domesticated or trainable in the way dogs are.

Cats kill birds and under uk law are free to roam without restriction. Yes, it's understandable that you don't want cats coming into your home, but the solution to this is to keep windows etc shut or only open so far so that the cats can't come in.

This is utter insanity and I see it more and more often whether is about cats or noise etc. You are basically saying that this woman has no right to enjoy her home in the way she needs it to, not to even mention protect her health because the neighbour's right to have a bloody cat that has the right to "roam free" and come into someone's house trumps everything. It is utterly insane and it only reflects the insane lobbyism of cat owners who have no common sense. If they are so wild and need to roam free perhaps they shouldn't be kept as pets.

OneAlertOliveFinch · 11/08/2025 18:13

Cat owners are infuriatingly selfish. Why should OP pay to cat proof her garden? They should pay to keep their moggy contained! If cat owners cared about their animals, they would invest in catios or cat proof fence panels to keep them contained.

Bells won't stop bird predation. Birds haven't evolved to recognise a bell as a threat. There is certainly nothing vulnerable fledglings can do against a cat. Cats are not native. They are kept at inflated density levels due to human feeding and have a devastating effect on local small animal populations.

breakfastdinnerandtea · 11/08/2025 18:11

MrsSunshine2b · 11/08/2025 18:02

It's cruel for them not to be allowed to roam. We know that animals in zoos need a lot of space and we worry about them not getting it, but then we advocate for people keeping their cats in a garden.

The law is that you can own a cat, and as I said, most cat-owners are not going to treat them in a way they think is cruel.

Is it not cruel to let them out where they can potentially get hit by a car? There are dozens of posts on my local Facebook page “saw a cat on the busy road, does anyone recognise? Can anyone scan?” I see it all the time.
Is it not kinder to keep them in a cat proofed garden with plenty of enrichment inside and out?

Didimum · 11/08/2025 18:10

Hey, OP. It’s understandable that you’re really annoyed, but your annoyance is coming off as unrealistic (unfortunately). You have a neighbour with roaming cats, and it is what it is. Some people have neighbours with loud kids, barking dogs, constantly hosting garden parties, smoking outside etc.

Here are the things you can do:

  • electronic cat deterrents in your garden. Some claim they don’t work but most of those people use the ineffectually – keep them out of long grass, have enough for the size of your garden and they usually take a couple of weeks to be properly effective.
  • if you own the shared fence, then get the spiked plastic fence topper.
  • get screens for your windows and door. Handy at keeping out insects too.
  • use a citrus spray deterrent liberally around garden, windows and doors.
  • spray water on the cats whenever you see them, and keep at it. It will provide them with a negative pattern of coming into your space.

You say it’s not your responsibility, but unfortunately it has to be, because there is nothing your neighbours can do.

grumpygrape · 11/08/2025 18:10

godmum56 · 11/08/2025 17:57

I am advocating cat owners cat proofing their gardens.

As a cat owner, I think that's fair.

Dogs are roaming, hunting, pack animals but we don't allow them to do that nowadays. We have 'evolved' them to be members of human packs and not roam or hunt.

I don't believe cats NEED to roam or hunt. There are plenty of toys to satisfy their hunting instincts and a house and garden are quite enough for them to exercise in.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:10

SprayWhiteDung · 11/08/2025 18:02

But you know how a great many people get rid of annoying insects, don't you? I'm not necessarily saying it's right, but it's what people do - and it works.

Insects are not owned by anybody, but if they stray where they are not welcome, they get blatted.

Dogs are owned by somebody, and it is incumbent on the owner to take responsibility for their pet and keep them under control.

Cats fall awkwardly between the two - they matter enough to their owner that they don't want them to be killed when they continually step out of line (and I'm not for a single moment suggesting that they should be killed at all), but when it comes to preventing them from being a constant nuisance to neighbours, they suddenly don't matter enough to their owners, who will shrug and pretend that there's nothing they can do to stop it.

Said cat owners who shrug are always quick with suggestions of expensive and/or time consuming 'fixes' for YOU to take to stop THEIR cat being a nuisance.

Here's a simple one: if your NDN has complained to you about your cat coming into and pooing in their garden, why don't YOU wait there watching it constantly, with a supersoaker ready to deploy the moment they start to venture next door. If it's a good suggestion for them to do for somebody else's pet, surely it's good enough for you to spend the time doing for your own pet, eh?

Well said.

Northernladdette · 11/08/2025 18:09

You can buy cat alarms that only cats can hear and prickly trim that goes across the top of your fences.

RunningJo · 11/08/2025 18:07

I wish the local cats here buried it!
We get it on our drive & on our front lawn. 🤢

We live in an area with loads of cats, I don’t mind them but I do get pissed off with my front garden being a toilet area, and when they decide to walk on my garden cushion covers with muddy feet! . We’ve also got scratch marks over a new fence and on one of our cars which a local cat uses to get over a fence.

I know cats wander but it doesn’t mean we all want them in our garden and definitely not in the house (although my dogs would put a very fast stop to that!).

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:06

HoskinsChoice · 11/08/2025 17:59

🤣 I love that cat owners are still not ready to admit that even if a cat attempts to dig and cover, its still on the surface of your flower beds.

We can't control cats, that's life but don't kid yourself that they're not causing other people issues by shitting and spraying everywhere. They absolutely are!

I’ve seen them physically do it but cat owners know best! My grass was covered with the filthy stuff, 5 cats and that was just from one house and I had a lot of grass. It would have cost me thousands to cat proof my garden. Covering the holes in the huge hedge would also have prevented hedgehogs too as another poster said. Impossible.

Ruggerlass · 11/08/2025 18:06

DollyTots · 11/08/2025 16:58

I have an outdoor cat and have to accept the risk that comes with allowing him to roam, I wont moan about it and certainly wouldn’t blame anyone else for something bad befalling him…but I’d obviously still be upset?

As part of that, I also accept that not everyone likes cats, nor wants them around their house or garden. As long as no one purposely caused him harm, I don’t care frankly what measures they take to keep him away. Use the hose, hiss at him, high pitched deterrent, nerf gun…give it all a go.

And no, I wouldn’t like your dog entering and toileting in my garden, but seeing as I have to put up with them absolutely everywhere else I think it’s swings and roundabouts really. Bit rich these days saying cats are the ones who roam, when dogs get taken everywhere.

Well said. As an outdoor cat owner this could have been written by me.

Thenose · 11/08/2025 18:03

hamstersarse · 11/08/2025 14:56

I presume you live in a residential area? The only solution is a house in a rural location.
You have to compromise when living in more densely populated areas, that's life

I think it would be more accurate to say, "You have to compromise when living".

The UK countryside is filled with feral cats. We have one lounging in our garden right now. He's fourth generation at least. His feral mother and grandmother both sat in the same spot.

MrsSunshine2b · 11/08/2025 18:02

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 17:59

Yeah it's cruel to get a pet that you don't personally have a sufficient enriching space for.

There is the option to just not. Or chose a pet more suitable to your property.

Cause you know, you just never know what kinda neighbours you might have. They might be like me!

It's cruel for them not to be allowed to roam. We know that animals in zoos need a lot of space and we worry about them not getting it, but then we advocate for people keeping their cats in a garden.

The law is that you can own a cat, and as I said, most cat-owners are not going to treat them in a way they think is cruel.

Livelovebehappy · 11/08/2025 18:02

Even if your neighbours cats were no longer around, other cats will loiter around your garden. I have two or three pass through my garden regularly and I've no idea where they live.

SprayWhiteDung · 11/08/2025 18:02

TheSwarm · 11/08/2025 15:07

If it's not these particular cats it will be different cats, or other wildlife. It's what animals do.

You might as well ask your neighbours to keep the insects under control.

But you know how a great many people get rid of annoying insects, don't you? I'm not necessarily saying it's right, but it's what people do - and it works.

Insects are not owned by anybody, but if they stray where they are not welcome, they get blatted.

Dogs are owned by somebody, and it is incumbent on the owner to take responsibility for their pet and keep them under control.

Cats fall awkwardly between the two - they matter enough to their owner that they don't want them to be killed when they continually step out of line (and I'm not for a single moment suggesting that they should be killed at all), but when it comes to preventing them from being a constant nuisance to neighbours, they suddenly don't matter enough to their owners, who will shrug and pretend that there's nothing they can do to stop it.

Said cat owners who shrug are always quick with suggestions of expensive and/or time consuming 'fixes' for YOU to take to stop THEIR cat being a nuisance.

Here's a simple one: if your NDN has complained to you about your cat coming into and pooing in their garden, why don't YOU wait there watching it constantly, with a supersoaker ready to deploy the moment they start to venture next door. If it's a good suggestion for them to do for somebody else's pet, surely it's good enough for you to spend the time doing for your own pet, eh?

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:02

HoskinsChoice · 11/08/2025 17:59

🤣 I love that cat owners are still not ready to admit that even if a cat attempts to dig and cover, its still on the surface of your flower beds.

We can't control cats, that's life but don't kid yourself that they're not causing other people issues by shitting and spraying everywhere. They absolutely are!

Cats are CLEAN
Every poo is always a fox poo. Always. Even if it looks and smells nothing like a fox poo and you saw the cat squatting in that very spot

Ruggerlass · 11/08/2025 18:02

Gloriia · 11/08/2025 16:56

'She came back about a week later and said she thought the cats were now indoor cats as they hadn't been seen in a week.'

Indoor cats, sounds perfect! Owners could get a little leash and walk them down the street for exercise as dog owners manage to do.

The RSPCA don’t approve walking cats on leashes for numerous reasons.

Alexandrine · 11/08/2025 18:01

YABU sorry, as this is just life in Britain, unless you live in the middle of nowhere with no close neighbours who have cats 🤷‍♀️. Cats are free to roam. Personally the only time we don’t get cats in the garden is when we have a dog or cat ourselves (as even if your dog or cat isn’t in the garden at the time, most cats sense there is one in the home and stay clear). Personally I miss watching all the different cats that have stopped coming now 🤣- I find the sticky pigeon poo everywhere in the garden since they left, far worse with my toddler 😡

But since I assume you don’t want to get a dog or a cat yourself (and therefore only have to deal with your own animals mess) your only alternative is to try to cat proof the garden - you can buy a variety of things for the top of fences (such as nasty looking plastic spikes that make it uncomfortable to climb over, or mesh) and hope for the best. But cats are crafty creatures and if there is available territory ie. not “owned” by another cat or a dog, then they are going to want to try to claim it, whatever the human deterrent.

sparkles18 · 11/08/2025 18:01

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HoskinsChoice · 11/08/2025 17:59

MeganM3 · 11/08/2025 14:59

Dogs shit on the pavement for everyone to walk through / on. Cats shit in holes they dig and cover, out of the way. It’s hardly the same.

Cats roam around. It’s just one of those things.
And there’d likely be more mice and rats around if they didn’t.

I can’t believe you asked your neighbour that. What did you expect them to do to keep their cats from roaming? What were you expecting from the conversation?

🤣 I love that cat owners are still not ready to admit that even if a cat attempts to dig and cover, its still on the surface of your flower beds.

We can't control cats, that's life but don't kid yourself that they're not causing other people issues by shitting and spraying everywhere. They absolutely are!

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 17:59

MrsSunshine2b · 11/08/2025 17:55

Regardless of whether you do or don't like cats, it's legal to own a cat in this country and it's generally accepted that cats, by nature, like to roam and to hunt. Most people agree that it's cruel to keep a cat confined indoors or to a small outdoor space, hence why, excepting the odd pedigree who is kept under lock and key, cats are allowed to roam free, unlike dogs.

They also do not follow instructions so can't be taught not to go into a particular garden or to stop hunting.

Unless you're advocating for a cat-free country (in which case, dogs also need banning since they are a far bigger nuisance) you have to accept that they will come into your garden.

You might ask the neighbours to attach bells to their collars so the birds at least get a warning.

Yeah it's cruel to get a pet that you don't personally have a sufficient enriching space for.

There is the option to just not. Or chose a pet more suitable to your property.

Cause you know, you just never know what kinda neighbours you might have. They might be like me!

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 17:57

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 17:50

The black ones are stunning.

10/10 recommend. A dramatic addition to any garden

Am going to start gifting them to my neighbours, bit of a change from the wines n candles we swap at Christmas. Different and interesting.

We'll have a beautiful gothic sea of em up and down the road by next year.

godmum56 · 11/08/2025 17:57

MrsSunshine2b · 11/08/2025 17:55

Regardless of whether you do or don't like cats, it's legal to own a cat in this country and it's generally accepted that cats, by nature, like to roam and to hunt. Most people agree that it's cruel to keep a cat confined indoors or to a small outdoor space, hence why, excepting the odd pedigree who is kept under lock and key, cats are allowed to roam free, unlike dogs.

They also do not follow instructions so can't be taught not to go into a particular garden or to stop hunting.

Unless you're advocating for a cat-free country (in which case, dogs also need banning since they are a far bigger nuisance) you have to accept that they will come into your garden.

You might ask the neighbours to attach bells to their collars so the birds at least get a warning.

I am advocating cat owners cat proofing their gardens.

godmum56 · 11/08/2025 17:56

TheOGBethDuttton · 11/08/2025 17:20

I didn't read all the replies. But if you could spell properly it would really help

and if you weren't so snotty that would helpt too.