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To not want neighbours cats in my garden?

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Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 14:46

Our neighbour has cats and they keep coming into our garden. They have also made their way into our house several times through the window and back door. I’m currently pregnant and have two young children. The children get upset when they come in as they don’t understand why they come and go (they want them to stay to play with). We have a lot of songbirds birds that sit in a bush in our garden and the cats are constantly trying to hunt the birds.

The cats are also doing the toilet in the garden which my husband has to clean with a hose. I believe it’s not entirely safe to clean up cat mess when pregnant.

I spoke to the neighbour and asked if they could stop the cats coming into my house and garden. They said there is nothing that can be done.

Is it unreasonable that this is bothering me?

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SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:50

It's another wondrous phenomenon that cat owners can tell that the cats in a strangers garden are strays, but the people whose garden it is cannot tell the difference?

Same as how only outdoor cat people are such scatology experts that they can tell you that a poo they've never seen was definitely a fox, but non cat owners couldn't tell an elephant poo from a bird poo so definitely can not be trusted to identify the quite different scats of wild foxes Vs domestic cats!

It's so weird, huh?

jenny38 · 11/08/2025 18:50

Put some orange peel down.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:49

JoyfulLife · 11/08/2025 18:48

I will buy 100 more bulbs. cats do not need to be in my garden. and I want to be able to eat my vegetables that I work hard to grow instead of having to throw them away because cats use my veg garden as a toilet. Unbelievable that you would ask someone what they can and cannot plant in THEIr garden

Truly unbelievable.

JoyfulLife · 11/08/2025 18:48

MissMoneyFairy · 11/08/2025 18:39

Lillie's are poisonous to cats, please don't use these, or spikes or an electric fence.

I will buy 100 more bulbs. cats do not need to be in my garden. and I want to be able to eat my vegetables that I work hard to grow instead of having to throw them away because cats use my veg garden as a toilet. Unbelievable that you would ask someone what they can and cannot plant in THEIr garden

Welshmonster · 11/08/2025 18:48

You can cat proof your own garden. It will cost you but worth it.

I have a cat and someone else’s cat coming in would do my head in. Mine uses her litter box so the cat shit in garden would piss me right off.

get a water pistol and squirt them. I had to do it to cats visiting my garden as they were bullying my cats. I see them run across fence now in case crazy lady comes out.

one thing that works is getting men to pee in the garden where the cats toilet.

my husband refused so i sent my 8 year old out to do garden wees which he thought was hilarious.

hellswelshy · 11/08/2025 18:47

Pollyxplummer · 11/08/2025 18:21

Whataboutism does absolutely nothing whatsoever to prove or disprove any thing I have said.

I want talking about dogs. I was talking about cats.

I don't know ehst you think bringing dogs up achieves.

No you weren't talking about dogs, that's true. I suppose I was just introducing a comparison so that showed some perspective on calling cat owners crazy etc.

Isittimeformynapyet · 11/08/2025 18:46

Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 14:51

They don’t wear collars. I am thinking a bell on the collar might deter them killing the birds? They have caught a couple of small bluetits.

All bluetits are small.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:46

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 18:45

We bought a roll of this very tall thin Bamboo fencing which looks quite nice and has stopped the cats going over and sitting on the neighbours gazebo. The rest of the fence we out humane spikes on - the neighbour put carpet gripper on which is brutal so we replaced it.

Thank you.

JoyfulLife · 11/08/2025 18:46

Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 17:50

When I found the cat in my baby’s nursery it badly scratched my arm and drew blood when I lifted it out. Was a bit worried about infection risk with being pregnant. Would agree cats are less likely to cause life changing injuries than a dog but if that had been my toddler’s face it could have been nasty.

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yes and be careful it can also harm your unborn baby as they can carry nasty parasites.

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 18:45

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:22

How did you do it successfully for your neighbours?

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We bought a roll of this very tall thin Bamboo fencing which looks quite nice and has stopped the cats going over and sitting on the neighbours gazebo. The rest of the fence we out humane spikes on - the neighbour put carpet gripper on which is brutal so we replaced it.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:44

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 18:41

You are another person winding yourself up with a fake version of reality! Have you any idea what a massive stray cat crisis we've got in the UK? That's your biggest problem, those are the cats that are killing wildlife because they have to in order to survive! My cats were ex ferals as little ones and they are happy staying on our property, my female has never killed anything to my knowledge, my boy was a bit of a sod for about the first 3 years of his life and the.urges to bring mice and birds in stopped and he's almost 7 now. Strays are nightmare to all of us and it's bloody heartbreaking at times when they want to get in because they've got nowhere to go thanks to someone else's neglect. There are no magic spells to take away the need to be outdoors for cats that have previously lived on the streets, they aren't inanimate objects, they can get depressed and frantic to get out of you were to suddenly lock them inside all the time. Rescue cats are a different thing to a tiny kitten that can be raised to be indoor all it's life.

When people post that the next door neighbours cats are the problem, why wouldn’t you believe it instead of blaming it on stray cats. And you say people are winding themselves up with a ‘fake’ version of reality! The lengths you cat lovers go to is unbelievable. I had one neighbour with 5 cats all of which shit all over my garden and tormented birds.

JoyfulLife · 11/08/2025 18:44

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 17:44

Don't block up fence holes that it's disastrous for hedgehogs.

Who I will be leaving catfood out for.

We should be adding hedgehog holes not blocking them.

All these "tips" harm other creatures that are REALLY wild. And welcome in my garden

That is the dilemma, I love seeing the hedgehogs about, last night coming back home it made my day to see one on the driveway, running to the back garden when we arrived. But I am sick to the maximum of cats, the numbers are constantly increasing and it is not sustainable.

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:42

MissMoneyFairy · 11/08/2025 18:39

Lillie's are poisonous to cats, please don't use these, or spikes or an electric fence.

Too late, I love em!

Best keep mr shnuggles away eh?

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 18:41

Pollyxplummer · 11/08/2025 15:14

This thread won't go well for you sadly.

The cat culture in this cointry is absolutely crazy and completely unfair to people that give a shit about wildlife, give a shut about people other than themselves, and simply want to be left alone.

But sadly, the idea that cat owners should take responsibility for their pets is not a popular one and you won't win. They will absolutely point blank refuse to accept perfectly valid points and will eventually just start throwing insults af you about how cruel you are, with no logical argument to give back (literally none whatsoever, I've had this debate for years and I've never seen one)

You will feel like you are hanging your head against a brick wall until you eventually give in and accept that most people are just selfish and want a cute fluffy pet without having to take any responsibility for it whatsoever.

There are some nice normal people that sympathise with you though so please know you're not alone at least

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You are another person winding yourself up with a fake version of reality! Have you any idea what a massive stray cat crisis we've got in the UK? That's your biggest problem, those are the cats that are killing wildlife because they have to in order to survive! My cats were ex ferals as little ones and they are happy staying on our property, my female has never killed anything to my knowledge, my boy was a bit of a sod for about the first 3 years of his life and the.urges to bring mice and birds in stopped and he's almost 7 now. Strays are nightmare to all of us and it's bloody heartbreaking at times when they want to get in because they've got nowhere to go thanks to someone else's neglect. There are no magic spells to take away the need to be outdoors for cats that have previously lived on the streets, they aren't inanimate objects, they can get depressed and frantic to get out of you were to suddenly lock them inside all the time. Rescue cats are a different thing to a tiny kitten that can be raised to be indoor all it's life.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:39

Emmz1510 · 11/08/2025 18:37

There really is next to nothing the owners can do. Your garden just needs to be made as cat unfriendly as possible. I agree with giant supersoakers and I’m sure there are other things which repel them and a search of google would tell you what. I’m thinking citrusy smells? And if they are climbing your fence to get in you can buy spikes to put across the top.

Someone further up the thread successfully cat proofed her own garden due to her neighbour. I have asked the poster how she did it but no reply yet.

MissMoneyFairy · 11/08/2025 18:39

JoyfulLife · 11/08/2025 18:36

I have several lillies in my garden, bought because I like them didn't know about other functions. I have currently 4-5 cats that made a habit of congregating in my garden, shitting, having fights in the middle of the night and constantly chasing the birds. I probably need to multiply my lillies by 1000s to get them to fuck off somewhere else, so far no effect.

Lillie's are poisonous to cats, please don't use these, or spikes or an electric fence.

EsmeWeatherwaxHatpin · 11/08/2025 18:38

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:38

By the way, not everyone has a fence to cat proof, a lot of people have hedges.

Or dry stone wall!

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:38

By the way, not everyone has a fence to cat proof, a lot of people have hedges.

Emmz1510 · 11/08/2025 18:37

There really is next to nothing the owners can do. Your garden just needs to be made as cat unfriendly as possible. I agree with giant supersoakers and I’m sure there are other things which repel them and a search of google would tell you what. I’m thinking citrusy smells? And if they are climbing your fence to get in you can buy spikes to put across the top.

JoyfulLife · 11/08/2025 18:36

BlotAnExpert · 11/08/2025 17:32

I'm not really sure the purpose of your question, it seems baity.

Obviously anyone can plant whatever they want in their garden. A lot of people don't know about lilies, hence why I always share this information.

Once you know that it could cause harm I would judge you for making an aesthetic choice for which an animal could end up suffering 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have several lillies in my garden, bought because I like them didn't know about other functions. I have currently 4-5 cats that made a habit of congregating in my garden, shitting, having fights in the middle of the night and constantly chasing the birds. I probably need to multiply my lillies by 1000s to get them to fuck off somewhere else, so far no effect.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 18:36

Hope you aren’t short of money OP!

Rewis · 11/08/2025 18:35

Spikes on the fence, electric fence kit, cat deterrent from homebase, mixture of pepper and lemon sprayed to the garden, motion detector water spray. It sucks when cats shit in your garden. There is a reason I don't have pets so i dont want to clean up after othera.If it is the next door neighbour then just put it on their side.

Where I'm from you need to keep cat on leash and walk them. When my bf first saw it when visiting family he thought it was hilarious. Now due to neighbours cat ruining his garden, he's thinking that the leash is a fantastic idea.

Birch101 · 11/08/2025 18:34

Cat detterant included automated sprinklers

Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 18:34

Livelovebehappy · 11/08/2025 18:02

Even if your neighbours cats were no longer around, other cats will loiter around your garden. I have two or three pass through my garden regularly and I've no idea where they live.

The other issue is I think their cats are female and seem to be attracting all the Tom cats in the area to our garden and our neighbouring houses gardens. Other neighbours have complained about the issue

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LemonTreeCafe · 11/08/2025 18:33

Isometimeswonder · 11/08/2025 16:03

Yes, us cat owners generally do get quite upset when our beloved pet gets hurt or killed. We're funny that way.

A woman moved to our village a few years ago, she had six or seven cats. She’d previously living in a cul de sac and her cats were used to lying on the road in the sun. They carried on doing this on the busy a road outside her house. Within months five of the cars had been run over. She was upset about it but said nothing could have be done to stop them. If that’s really the case then why not rehouse them? It must’ve been horrible for the people who ran the cats over too. I know one of them and she and her husband were really upset. She’s an older lady and it’s shaken her confidence in driving.

I don’t understand how your can be really upset when your cat is hurt or killed but do nothing about the behaviour that causes that death. And maybe have a thought for the poor driver who ends up killing your pet too

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