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To not want neighbours cats in my garden?

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Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 14:46

Our neighbour has cats and they keep coming into our garden. They have also made their way into our house several times through the window and back door. I’m currently pregnant and have two young children. The children get upset when they come in as they don’t understand why they come and go (they want them to stay to play with). We have a lot of songbirds birds that sit in a bush in our garden and the cats are constantly trying to hunt the birds.

The cats are also doing the toilet in the garden which my husband has to clean with a hose. I believe it’s not entirely safe to clean up cat mess when pregnant.

I spoke to the neighbour and asked if they could stop the cats coming into my house and garden. They said there is nothing that can be done.

Is it unreasonable that this is bothering me?

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Bikergran · 11/08/2025 19:28

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 17:51

Do you mind me asking approximately how much you spent overall? Before accepting defeat.

It was a long time ago, so I cannot remember, but it was quite a substantial amount. We had a very large flat roof on a kitchen extension, covered in white gravel chippings, (which on old asphalt style roofs was supposed to protect them) and one day a local cat decided this was the perfect giant litterbox!! The stench wafted into the house, we went on the roof and removed all the poop, then over a course of a couple of months tried every anti-cat product sold in the local hardware stores and garden centres. None of them worked, we were still removing poop frequently, one smelt almost as bad as the poop (I think that was the garlic one). We never saw the cat, or I woukd have tried a water pistol, it must have been a nocturnal pooper. In the end we simply swept all the chippings off and washed the roof with a very strong solution of Flash, and it finally stopped.

Pinkclouds80 · 11/08/2025 19:27

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I bought this stuff for my neighbour when my cat was driving him nuts by wrecking his meticulously weeded, beautiful flowerbeds. It worked, they started boycotting his whole garden.

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Didimum · 11/08/2025 19:27

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 19:03

Well I wouldn't

Because I like animals

So I wouldn't be so lazy in the first place as to get my cat, if I had one, used to roaming so that I didn't have to bother putting time and effort into creating enrichments at home!

‘Used to’ isn’t particularly relevant to roaming. Cats either like to roam or they don’t. It’s individualistic and largely a hormonal urge, particularly in males. You can’t predict the individual nature of a cat when you get it. You have the cat you have. An enriching home environment is great, but it doesn’t equate to the desire to roam.

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:26

godmum56 · 11/08/2025 19:14

but you could choose not to make the problem worse by having a cat or cats yourself?

Edited

So you want mass abandonment and mass cull of all cats? That's highly disgusting! I adopt rescues! Do you want them all dead? Fuck me your mindset is beyond help! Thing is that cat rescues take strays and ferals of the street, they get neutered and become pets that like mine barely leave our property, you want people to stop owning cats, that means the rescues can no longer take them off the street if they can't home them, if they can't take them off the street and you would just have lots of roaming strays and ferals that breed like hell and kill wildlife to survive. Your comment is pretty silly isn't it?

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 19:25

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:15

Many of is adopt rescues that have spent time living on the streets, your cringey condescending comment shows massive ignorance! Some cats are on the street that long that they can't be homed in houses and the rescues have to find them homes on farms etc. Ask your local cat rescue to teach you about the cold hard reality of strays and ferals.

Hang on hang on...

We were told that cat owners gardens are to SMALL for catios...

Now we have leaped to rural farm cats (which nobody complained about and isn't relevant to any of the examples stated this far in the threat...

The cats that rescues are only rehoming on farms... Cannot in the same breath be the same cats that cannot be CRUELLY contained in owners teeny urban gardens, if they even have gardens at all!,

tinyspiny · 11/08/2025 19:25

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:15

Many of is adopt rescues that have spent time living on the streets, your cringey condescending comment shows massive ignorance! Some cats are on the street that long that they can't be homed in houses and the rescues have to find them homes on farms etc. Ask your local cat rescue to teach you about the cold hard reality of strays and ferals.

But they don’t rehome feral cats in residential areas so that is an irrelevance . Cats , even cats that roam would soon adapt to only having their own garden to roam in , shit in and kill things in .

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 19:24

littlemousebigcheese · 11/08/2025 19:20

You’re not listening though. So many posts suggesting to squirt it gently with water or set sprinklers or get higher fences etc; the onus is on you here. As everybody has highlighted, cats are allowed to roam. You might not like it, you might not think that’s right, you might be allergic, your children may think they are moving teddy bears.. ultimately, there is nothing the owners have to do and little they actually could do so if you want to keep them out, it’s on YOU.

Money, money, money.

littlemousebigcheese · 11/08/2025 19:20

You’re not listening though. So many posts suggesting to squirt it gently with water or set sprinklers or get higher fences etc; the onus is on you here. As everybody has highlighted, cats are allowed to roam. You might not like it, you might not think that’s right, you might be allergic, your children may think they are moving teddy bears.. ultimately, there is nothing the owners have to do and little they actually could do so if you want to keep them out, it’s on YOU.

Gretafamily · 11/08/2025 19:18

My next door neighbour actively encouraged my cat to go in her house so now he thinks he is welcome into my next door neighbours the other side. I told them to spray him with water every time.

linaplatelover · 11/08/2025 19:17

Mugsey62 · 11/08/2025 19:14

You are absolutely not being unreasonable. Unfortunately people have a very selfish attitude towards pets in general and cats in particular. They want their interactive fluffy toys and everyone else can go and fuck themselves. This is unlikely to end anytime soon so you are correct, you just have to put up with it.

In Freemantle, Australia, cat owners are fined if their cats are found outside. Fingers crossed, that may be introduced into the UK sometime in the future:

In Fremantle, Western Australia, cats are effectively banned from roaming freely in public areas. According to Sky News, the city council has implemented changes to its cat management laws, designating all city-owned land, including roads, verges, and bushland, as cat prohibited areas. This means cats must be kept indoors or on a leash when outdoors.

Key points about Fremantle's cat laws:
Prohibited Areas: All public areas owned or managed by the City of Fremantle are cat prohibited areas, including roads, verges, footpaths, and car parks.

Wildlife Protection: The primary reason for these laws is to protect native wildlife from being preyed upon by domestic cats.

Responsible Pet Ownership: The aim is not to ban cats entirely, but to encourage responsible pet ownership by keeping cats contained, either indoors or in secure outdoor enclosures like a catio.

Fines for Violations: Owners who allow their cats to roam in prohibited areas may face fines.

Leash Policy: Cats can be walked outdoors if they are on a lead.

Formal Ratification: The amended local law requires formal ratification by the State Government before it comes into effect.

this country can barely run schools and hospitals it’s hardly going to achieve cat rules 🤣🤣🤣🤣

XL bullies still killing people - we can hardly contain those!

ThankYouNigel · 11/08/2025 19:17

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:42

Too late, I love em!

Best keep mr shnuggles away eh?

Me too! The spikes along our back fence have made a massive difference. It’s my fence, I paid for it, scrubbed it, painted it all- stop walking on it and scrabbling back up scratching my fresh paintwork I spent hours on! Don’t like the feel of them? Good, get the message and keep out of MY garden! Good burglar deterrent too as a bonus 👌🏻 One more fence to add them along now 👏🏻

Pollyxplummer · 11/08/2025 19:17

Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 18:51

Our family dog had a barking issue and we invested our own money in professional training to improve it. If we had noisy teenagers we would do our best to keep them quiet as we have respect for our neighbours. With all the issues you have listed there are ways they could be managed. The problem with the cat situation is it’s causing us issues and we will either need to invest a lot of our own money in ‘cat proofing the garden’ when our neighbours who own the cats only need to buy cat food and cat litter. It feels really unfair.

It absolutely is unfair and I feel for youqra the yoghurt on the sofa why is you'd yoghurt on the sofa how can you not see it you should be at the table yes because it's on the sofa it's on your shorts pay attention to one thing at a time the little balls are. between the cushions cam you

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 19:17

linaplatelover · 11/08/2025 19:13

When streets don’t have enough cats living in them the rat and mouse population goes up.

they are useful for everyone

find something that the cats dislike and do it every time you see them - if the water gun doesn’t work try a loud noise!

and stop harassing your neighbours. Cats are part of life always have been.

I also had a rat problem, the neighbour’s cats would rather terrorise birds. They left cat food outside too, didn’t help.

NegroniMacaroni · 11/08/2025 19:17

Cats are bloody annoying. I've successfully kept them out by
a - throwing a glass of water at them
b - looking at them angrily in the eyes
c - covering any bare earth with plants (eg clover) < this stopped the poo

They soon learned not to come round.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 19:16

godmum56 · 11/08/2025 19:14

but you could choose not to make the problem worse by having a cat or cats yourself?

Edited

Too logical.

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:15

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 19:03

Well I wouldn't

Because I like animals

So I wouldn't be so lazy in the first place as to get my cat, if I had one, used to roaming so that I didn't have to bother putting time and effort into creating enrichments at home!

Many of is adopt rescues that have spent time living on the streets, your cringey condescending comment shows massive ignorance! Some cats are on the street that long that they can't be homed in houses and the rescues have to find them homes on farms etc. Ask your local cat rescue to teach you about the cold hard reality of strays and ferals.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 19:15

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:09

Exactly this! I have two cats I've counted ten other cats that pass through our garden since we've moved in last year, there's 4 cats living in close proximity to us, there's at least one stray that's on the cul de sac at some point every day! Stray cats are a big issue. There will always be cats about, at my last house it was like a cat conveyor belt over the years with different cats passing through, we had 5 different strays use our garden as a home over the years.

These people forget that everyone of us has the same problem! Because we have cats ourselves it doesn't make our gardens magical cat shit free zones! We all get cats coming in.

So are you claiming your cat never shat on someone else’s garden?

Mugsey62 · 11/08/2025 19:14

You are absolutely not being unreasonable. Unfortunately people have a very selfish attitude towards pets in general and cats in particular. They want their interactive fluffy toys and everyone else can go and fuck themselves. This is unlikely to end anytime soon so you are correct, you just have to put up with it.

In Freemantle, Australia, cat owners are fined if their cats are found outside. Fingers crossed, that may be introduced into the UK sometime in the future:

In Fremantle, Western Australia, cats are effectively banned from roaming freely in public areas. According to Sky News, the city council has implemented changes to its cat management laws, designating all city-owned land, including roads, verges, and bushland, as cat prohibited areas. This means cats must be kept indoors or on a leash when outdoors.

Key points about Fremantle's cat laws:
Prohibited Areas: All public areas owned or managed by the City of Fremantle are cat prohibited areas, including roads, verges, footpaths, and car parks.

Wildlife Protection: The primary reason for these laws is to protect native wildlife from being preyed upon by domestic cats.

Responsible Pet Ownership: The aim is not to ban cats entirely, but to encourage responsible pet ownership by keeping cats contained, either indoors or in secure outdoor enclosures like a catio.

Fines for Violations: Owners who allow their cats to roam in prohibited areas may face fines.

Leash Policy: Cats can be walked outdoors if they are on a lead.

Formal Ratification: The amended local law requires formal ratification by the State Government before it comes into effect.

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godmum56 · 11/08/2025 19:14

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:09

Exactly this! I have two cats I've counted ten other cats that pass through our garden since we've moved in last year, there's 4 cats living in close proximity to us, there's at least one stray that's on the cul de sac at some point every day! Stray cats are a big issue. There will always be cats about, at my last house it was like a cat conveyor belt over the years with different cats passing through, we had 5 different strays use our garden as a home over the years.

These people forget that everyone of us has the same problem! Because we have cats ourselves it doesn't make our gardens magical cat shit free zones! We all get cats coming in.

but you could choose not to make the problem worse by having a cat or cats yourself?

Mugsey62 · 11/08/2025 19:13

Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 14:46

Our neighbour has cats and they keep coming into our garden. They have also made their way into our house several times through the window and back door. I’m currently pregnant and have two young children. The children get upset when they come in as they don’t understand why they come and go (they want them to stay to play with). We have a lot of songbirds birds that sit in a bush in our garden and the cats are constantly trying to hunt the birds.

The cats are also doing the toilet in the garden which my husband has to clean with a hose. I believe it’s not entirely safe to clean up cat mess when pregnant.

I spoke to the neighbour and asked if they could stop the cats coming into my house and garden. They said there is nothing that can be done.

Is it unreasonable that this is bothering me?

You are absolutely not being unreasonable. Unfortunately people have a very selfish attitude towards pets in general and cats in particular. They want their interactive fluffy toys and everyone else can go and fuck themselves. This is unlikely to end anytime soon so you are correct, you just have to put up with it.

In Freemantle, Australia, cat owners are fined if their cats are found outside. Fingers crossed, that may be introduced into the UK sometime in the future.

linaplatelover · 11/08/2025 19:13

When streets don’t have enough cats living in them the rat and mouse population goes up.

they are useful for everyone

find something that the cats dislike and do it every time you see them - if the water gun doesn’t work try a loud noise!

and stop harassing your neighbours. Cats are part of life always have been.

MomsGotInk · 11/08/2025 19:12

I’ve got 2 big dogs & they both dislike cats so we don’t get many in the back garden. I leave them to it if they’re wandering around at the front as my dogs can’t get to them there. If I spot any out the back I tend to try & shoo them away as I’d hate my dogs to hurt/kill someone else’s pet & my older dog has managed to corner one before but luckily I intervened.

godmum56 · 11/08/2025 19:12

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 18:50

It's another wondrous phenomenon that cat owners can tell that the cats in a strangers garden are strays, but the people whose garden it is cannot tell the difference?

Same as how only outdoor cat people are such scatology experts that they can tell you that a poo they've never seen was definitely a fox, but non cat owners couldn't tell an elephant poo from a bird poo so definitely can not be trusted to identify the quite different scats of wild foxes Vs domestic cats!

It's so weird, huh?

yup....you can say "I saw the cat do it" or, as I said, I have video of the cat doing it.....and the response is "nononononono its a fox"

JoyfulLife · 11/08/2025 19:12

breakfastdinnerandtea · 11/08/2025 19:02

I completely agree. I’m a dog owner and I’d be mortified if my dog shit on someone’s lawn. She knows well enough that she isn’t allowed on anyone else’s driveway / garden.
I would be all for dog licences coming back, and probably wouldn’t disagree if they said they were introducing them for cats, although I’m not sure how well it would work.

thank you. not only that it happened but he shouted at me being a complete arse whilst I was polite

ThankYouNigel · 11/08/2025 19:11

Buxusmortus · 11/08/2025 17:17

I've had cats for 40 years. There are numerous cats around here, all allowed outdoors, how on earth is anyone supposed to know which cat has shat where? 😂
Fortunately I live somewhere with normal neighbours who wouldn't dream of expecting someone else to come into their garden and pick up random cat turds.

So would you personally be happy to pick up cat poo daily in your private garden if you had chosen not to own an animal? I think not.