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To not want neighbours cats in my garden?

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Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 14:46

Our neighbour has cats and they keep coming into our garden. They have also made their way into our house several times through the window and back door. I’m currently pregnant and have two young children. The children get upset when they come in as they don’t understand why they come and go (they want them to stay to play with). We have a lot of songbirds birds that sit in a bush in our garden and the cats are constantly trying to hunt the birds.

The cats are also doing the toilet in the garden which my husband has to clean with a hose. I believe it’s not entirely safe to clean up cat mess when pregnant.

I spoke to the neighbour and asked if they could stop the cats coming into my house and garden. They said there is nothing that can be done.

Is it unreasonable that this is bothering me?

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thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 20:31

Robin67 · 11/08/2025 20:15

Do you object to killing rats or mice? For some people, cats are no different. They are a pest that I don't want in my garden. And I don't consider them as native wildlife. PTS of these unwanted cats is surely for the best.

She is completely self indulgent about her own cats so will only talk about them. Its’s all about her and her cats, any conversation won’t advance beyond that.

YeOldeGreyhound · 11/08/2025 20:27

I used to have three cats, and that seemed to attract more cats into my garden and even my house. A few times I would come home and some strange cat was walking down the stairs like the fucker owned the place. And one of my own cats walking up the stairs and almost nodding at them like "you alright, mate?".

Now I have no cats, but I have a greyhound. She is too old to care now, but a cat coming into my garden a few years back would have been toast had she caught it. Not mine or my dog's fault. Greyhound is gonna greyhound.

We do have a cat come into our garden who is a total knob. Hisses at me if I have the audacity to go within metres of it, and has launched at myself and my dog a few times. Shits in my veg patches too.
I keep meaning to get a water pistol to try and deter it.

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 20:25

Robin67 · 11/08/2025 20:15

Do you object to killing rats or mice? For some people, cats are no different. They are a pest that I don't want in my garden. And I don't consider them as native wildlife. PTS of these unwanted cats is surely for the best.

I don't kill any animal, I've not got sick tendancies. I challenge you to sit euthanising cats all day when that includes kittens and pregnant mothers rather than let them go to loving homes. We love our cats to bits and they are not problematic cats but you think they should have been killed rather than had years of the loving home they've had with us!

Pinkgiraffe34567 · 11/08/2025 20:23

I’ve heard pepper works, has anyone else heard of this and does it work to detract them?

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 20:22

AWitchCalledMeg · 11/08/2025 19:40

I've taught my children (have 4) to throw rocks at the cats that come in our garden. It's a made a difference. It's something I wouldn't have dreamt of doing in the past but the amount of cat poo was becoming a health hazard. My sons have a good aim. Having an animal that defecates in your neighbours gardens makes you a real lowlife IMO but strangely it's normalised in the UK.

Why would you brag online about being a very unfit mother that is raising 4 kids to be violent torturers! Three kids were arrested for murdering a man today and you brag about your kids being sick, twisted little thugs? Do you think social services would let you keep your kids if they saw your posts bragging about animal torture and giving your violent child a gun to kill things with! You must be thick to think your kids have a bright future or that social services won't remove them from you when you post such dangerous posts? Who are you? Rose West? A child in our town killed a cat for fun and social media ruined their lives! Your kids would be in juvenile detention centres for animal cruelty! Wake up before you take their futures away from them.

Robin67 · 11/08/2025 20:15

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:26

So you want mass abandonment and mass cull of all cats? That's highly disgusting! I adopt rescues! Do you want them all dead? Fuck me your mindset is beyond help! Thing is that cat rescues take strays and ferals of the street, they get neutered and become pets that like mine barely leave our property, you want people to stop owning cats, that means the rescues can no longer take them off the street if they can't home them, if they can't take them off the street and you would just have lots of roaming strays and ferals that breed like hell and kill wildlife to survive. Your comment is pretty silly isn't it?

Do you object to killing rats or mice? For some people, cats are no different. They are a pest that I don't want in my garden. And I don't consider them as native wildlife. PTS of these unwanted cats is surely for the best.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 20:15

Didimum · 11/08/2025 20:13

Ah well. That’s life.

Is that what you say to your neighbours, so casually and unconcerned? A pass agg shrug of the shoulders.

ilovesooty · 11/08/2025 20:14

KeenGreen · 11/08/2025 19:44

This is shocking behaviour! There are far more decent ways to deal with unwanted cats in your garden than harming them!

And she's just suggested that it's fine to buy weapons for children so that they can shoot animals.

Didimum · 11/08/2025 20:13

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 20:07

I've given up trying to post common sense information, their minds can't cope with it.

Ah well. That’s life.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 20:11

tinyspiny · 11/08/2025 20:09

all I know is that it is perfectly ok for cats to be kept in a house with a catio / run or cat proofed garden and that way the owner of the cat can enjoy them ( like I do ours ) and the neighbours are not inconvenienced by them . Hopefully eventually it will be law .

❤️ Thank you for being so considerate. It means a lot.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 20:10

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 20:07

I've given up trying to post common sense information, their minds can't cope with it.

What charity do you work for?

tinyspiny · 11/08/2025 20:09

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:58

I hate to break it to you but my cats were feral for the first 4 months of their life, they were born on the local steelworks, ferals can be homed anywhere depending on how likely the rescue thinks they are to adapt, you would never know that my cats were ferals, my male is a real house cat by his own choice. This is why I am asking people to sit back and understand that it's complicated when it comes to rescue cats.

all I know is that it is perfectly ok for cats to be kept in a house with a catio / run or cat proofed garden and that way the owner of the cat can enjoy them ( like I do ours ) and the neighbours are not inconvenienced by them . Hopefully eventually it will be law .

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 20:08

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:58

I hate to break it to you but my cats were feral for the first 4 months of their life, they were born on the local steelworks, ferals can be homed anywhere depending on how likely the rescue thinks they are to adapt, you would never know that my cats were ferals, my male is a real house cat by his own choice. This is why I am asking people to sit back and understand that it's complicated when it comes to rescue cats.

It is not all about you! You do realise we aren’t talking about your specific cats don’t you? You seem so self absorbed.

rosiejaune · 11/08/2025 20:07

Rainbow3210 · 11/08/2025 14:51

They don’t wear collars. I am thinking a bell on the collar might deter them killing the birds? They have caught a couple of small bluetits.

Bells don't work. They just learn to keep them silent till they spring and it's too late.

Cat bibs work better, but I doubt they are going to make them wear them, and it wouldn't solve the other issues.

Cat spikes on the fence (if you have one) might work, and blocking other gaps. But some cats will still walk on them.

And properly spraying water at them, not just near them (you still probably won't get them anyway, but they're more likely to be deterred if they think you're serious about it). And/or running outside and hissing at them every time you see them. The local cats have much reduced their visits to our garden (and the sparrow-filled bush) since I consistently made it clear they weren't welcome.

Legally cats are allowed to roam, but the owners could be held civilly liable for their actions if they are persistent and dangerous/destructive. It doesn't happen that often though, so realistically it probably is your problem (though I agree it shouldn't be).

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 20:07

Didimum · 11/08/2025 19:27

‘Used to’ isn’t particularly relevant to roaming. Cats either like to roam or they don’t. It’s individualistic and largely a hormonal urge, particularly in males. You can’t predict the individual nature of a cat when you get it. You have the cat you have. An enriching home environment is great, but it doesn’t equate to the desire to roam.

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I've given up trying to post common sense information, their minds can't cope with it.

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 20:05

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 20:02

I wasn't talking to your OP, I was talking to you kiddy tantrum throwers? Your refusal to politely acknowledge the information I'm explaining about why there's cats about is so childish! You won't grasp fundamentals because it goes against your fake narrative.

Lol at kiddy tantrums, your language is pure hyperbole and utterly ridiculous. Anyone would think you’re the leading cat expert. Hmm, you probably think you are….

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 20:05

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 19:59

Yeah

Lots of wrong uns about.
And what about the ones that haven't been caught yet
And the traffic
And the lilys
And the car thieves

Better keep sir shnugs in.

There are no kids where I live. I hope the parents will be proud when they visit their little thugs in prison.

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 20:02

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 19:55

And, again, when posters tell you that they KNOW whose cats are shitting on their garden because they have witnessed it over and over, believe them. Don’t add insults to your repertoire.

Oh, you’re the stray cats enthusiast, should’ve known.

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I wasn't talking to your OP, I was talking to you kiddy tantrum throwers? Your refusal to politely acknowledge the information I'm explaining about why there's cats about is so childish! You won't grasp fundamentals because it goes against your fake narrative.

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 20:00

ListOfJobsKeepsGrowing · 11/08/2025 19:59

This is sounds like my exact roof.
Did you have to replace the gravel up there after using the flash?

We have a small pitched roof (original) next to the flat roof. I've even found poo balanced on the very point now.

Its truly disgusting and stinks my whole house.

We are a terrace, so difficult to cat proof every entry point, and I don't own the fence that is the launch point from my end.

That is rank

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 19:59

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:50

Three kids were arrested for killing a man today - that's what happens when atrocious parents tell their kids to torture things to death for fun. Be very careful about being psychos, a child killed a cat for fun in our town last year and trust me, social media has ruined her life!

Yeah

Lots of wrong uns about.
And what about the ones that haven't been caught yet
And the traffic
And the lilys
And the car thieves

Better keep sir shnugs in.

ListOfJobsKeepsGrowing · 11/08/2025 19:59

Bikergran · 11/08/2025 19:28

It was a long time ago, so I cannot remember, but it was quite a substantial amount. We had a very large flat roof on a kitchen extension, covered in white gravel chippings, (which on old asphalt style roofs was supposed to protect them) and one day a local cat decided this was the perfect giant litterbox!! The stench wafted into the house, we went on the roof and removed all the poop, then over a course of a couple of months tried every anti-cat product sold in the local hardware stores and garden centres. None of them worked, we were still removing poop frequently, one smelt almost as bad as the poop (I think that was the garlic one). We never saw the cat, or I woukd have tried a water pistol, it must have been a nocturnal pooper. In the end we simply swept all the chippings off and washed the roof with a very strong solution of Flash, and it finally stopped.

This is sounds like my exact roof.
Did you have to replace the gravel up there after using the flash?

We have a small pitched roof (original) next to the flat roof. I've even found poo balanced on the very point now.

Its truly disgusting and stinks my whole house.

We are a terrace, so difficult to cat proof every entry point, and I don't own the fence that is the launch point from my end.

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:58

tinyspiny · 11/08/2025 19:25

But they don’t rehome feral cats in residential areas so that is an irrelevance . Cats , even cats that roam would soon adapt to only having their own garden to roam in , shit in and kill things in .

I hate to break it to you but my cats were feral for the first 4 months of their life, they were born on the local steelworks, ferals can be homed anywhere depending on how likely the rescue thinks they are to adapt, you would never know that my cats were ferals, my male is a real house cat by his own choice. This is why I am asking people to sit back and understand that it's complicated when it comes to rescue cats.

SkylarFalls · 11/08/2025 19:56

TonTonMacoute · 11/08/2025 19:44

Unfortunately many people who own cats, do not care what the cat gets up to when it leaves their house.

I can assure I care very much what my cats get up to. I would much prefer it if they stayed safely in our garden (which is huge) and didn't wander off. I would much prefer it if other peoples cats didn't come into our garden. And I would very much prefer it if they didn't hunt - except for the rats, pigeons and magpies, they can hunt them!

But they are cats, so I cannot control what they do and don't do.

Then I can't control if your cat moves into my house 👍

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 19:55

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:52

No, I'm saying lots of cats shit on every ones gardens! It's not hard to grasp basics here!

And, again, when posters tell you that they KNOW whose cats are shitting on their garden because they have witnessed it over and over, believe them. Don’t add insults to your repertoire.

Oh, you’re the stray cats enthusiast, should’ve known.

FlyMeSomewhere · 11/08/2025 19:52

thebraveryofbeingoutofrange · 11/08/2025 19:15

So are you claiming your cat never shat on someone else’s garden?

No, I'm saying lots of cats shit on every ones gardens! It's not hard to grasp basics here!

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