To not help my friend- passport fraud

Correct, I assumed this was in the past 20 years. (Law actually changed in 2003, so the old law would not cover anyone who is currently a minor).

My daughter is 40 born 1985. But l didn't get any maintenance either .
He couldn't tell me how to bring her up.
Which school she went to.
I took her abroad without having to get permission.
So who's the dumb one now?
Educate yourself on the history.

Parental Responsibility" Definition:
This includes the ability to make decisions about a child's upbringing, such as their education, healthcare, and where they live.

• Before 2003:
• Unmarried fathers typically did not automatically have parental responsibility for their children. This meant they needed to take specific legal steps (like obtaining a court order or entering into a Parental Responsibility Agreement with the mother) to gain those rights.
• December 1, 2003:
• The law changed, and unmarried fathers who were named on the birth certificate after this date automatically gained parental responsibility.

Yes thats true.. l can photo shoot the letters l still have etc. Daughter is now 40 and it clearly says on the 28th of " month" 1985.. you gave birth to an illegitimate daughter of whom is the father.
Of whom you wish to change the surname
.
Under the act of .... etc etc etc..
( ill have to find the paperwork )... l have filed for said daughter that her surname be changed to of the wishes of her mother ( my name) who has sole responsibility etc etc.
He couldn't even tell me which school l should put her in... how to bring her up .. l could take her abroad without his permission etc etc..
The law has changed. 40 years is a long time.

Stay away from her.

She is dangerous.

Well done for making that decision. You’re obviously a kind person but this so-called friend is just taking advantage. She sounds very damaged and I can sympathise with that, but the way she’s dealing with her trauma, whatever that may be, is by manipulating and using the people around her. You don’t need people like that in your life. I just hope her children don’t get too messed up.

look up the grey rock technique. Grey rock her or cut her off. She is a dramatic troublesome nightmare. Imagine all the time you could have for yourself and your own kids and improving your own life or self care or anything other than dealing with someone elses self made drama. Move on from her and do yourself a favour. Do not waste time on whether she has forged your signature - if you are asked and you confirm that you did not sign it and she has forged it then she will be in trouble. Time to move on now

You are out of your depth.. be a friend and maybe offer a listening ear but as far as helping her out of her own mess you can't.
It's not your mess to sort out.
As you said dad is on the birth certificate he has parental responsibility and wants a relationship with his child which the court will agree to if he is no risk.
Your friend had no right to change said childs name she will be in deep trouble there are penalties for going against a child arrangement order.
Keep out of it .

A father who takes his ex partner to court will be asked if he has parental responsibility if not they will make sure that is in place before court proceedings take place.
If the father is on the birth certificate he automatically has parental responsibility.

Not sure if you have ever seen a childs court order but it states that no one can change the chids name except the parents but you cant do it without the other parents authority.
What planet are you on saying it's not fair.
The child has a right to see his / her biological father and the father has the right to have authority over name changes.
The courts are in the best interests of the child not the best interests of the mother.

I would steer well clear she sounds like a nutcase a dangerous one at that

“Two years ago she wanted a new baby and found a sperm donor on a website.” WTAF? A baby is a human being and this sounds like someone who fancies a new handbag or pair of shoes. Did it never occur to her that this arrangement might have an emotional and psychological impact on her child going forward? She got herself into this ridiculous situation and I wouldn’t get involved. I wouldn’t even want to be friends with someone that selfish.

yes – 100% go to a reputable clinic, do your research, speak with the Donor Conception Network, and ensure you understand how to parent a donor child.

@LBFseBrom Have you had to deal with infertility? Or looked into the ethics of donor conception in any meaningful way? If not, please keep your opinions about donor conception to yourself.

Or at least go to a reputable clinic where things are done properly and legally.

After your last update I’m hoping the father applies for more contact as well as the change of name. While being on “natural sperm donor” websites is sleazy as hell and doesn’t exactly mark him out as man of the year, it sounds like he might actually be a more stable influence for the child than she is.

OP said they still slept together after she got pregnant - that would muddy the waters because it wasn’t just having sex until she got pregnant so they both crossed a line there which complicated things. She even wanted a relationship so it seems the situation wasn’t as simple as just being sperm donor and they both let their emotions become too involved in different ways.

Actually the law has changed. It used to be if you were unmarried then the father did not automatically have parental responsibility even if he was named on the birth certificate. If the parents were amicable then they could both sign and get witnessed a Parental Responsibility Agreement which then got registered officially. Or if the mother refused, the father could apply to court for a Parental Responsibility Order.

Certainly this was the case 20-odd years ago but the law did subsequently change so that unmarried fathers got PR by being named on the birth certificate.

the law has not changed. And your solicitor is completely wrong. You have broken the law.

Are you seriously dumb enough think that just because parents aren’t married the father has no parental responsibility?

I mean that would mean fathers have no parental responsibility for over half the children born in the country (a majority are born to unmarried mothers). Would save them a lot of money in child maintenance!

So, your friend found a sperm donor on a website and it all went wrong. What a shocker. Not very smart is she, or to put another way: she’s stupid.

That’s why they have clinics for this sort of thing. Yes, they’re more expensive, but they know what your doing and you get all the legal protections. She should at least be thankful the donor wasn’t HIV+ or something.

And under the law he has parental responsibility for the child, and no she can’t arbitrarily change the name on the child’s passport. She also can’t take them abroad without the father’s permission. That’s how parental responsibility works, which she would know if she had a brain.

Read the update... It was not a sperm donor at all! They had sex until she got pregnant and after too! And then she wanted to stay in the relationship! So this definitely doesn't classify as a donor.

Keep away from this woman she will only cause problems, l feel very sorry for the poor kid she doesn't like the father but she liked him enough to have repeated sex with him, now she throws away what he gives to his child, not much of a mother perhaps the court should give custody to the father

Before she changed the child's name all she had to do was do a bit of research. She would have found out she needs he's permission, unless she got permission from the court. She has committed fraud and will be made to child the child's name back. I'm not sure what the police will do. 🤷

But what was she thinking getting a sperm donor like that? She should have slwent to a proper clinic. She father could have children everywhere or be riddled with all sorts. I always wonder what type of men sign up to be a sperm donor like that.

No worries and totally agree with you - she's behaved like a total plum.

that contract means nothing and sorry she not a good person