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To be annoyed with neighbour re fence

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Tygertiger · 11/08/2025 11:38

I live in a terraced house. The gardens are separated by laurel hedges which are very dense and provide a natural secure boundary. The deeds are clear in terms of who owns which side, but we all just maintain both our garden-side bits so they don’t get too overgrown. All fine. I have an escapologist dog who got over the back wall of our garden before we reinforced that, but he’s never been able to get through the hedges so the sides are secure. Laurel would not have been my choice of a hedge, but it’s what we inherited, all the houses in the row have it so it is what it is.

Anyway, new neighbour has moved in and drastically thinned out the hedge which is legally his. It’s his hedge, totally his right to do what he wants with it, no issue. But in consequence there are now huge gaps at ground level which my dog would easily get through. I’ve told him this - he says he’s not going to put a fence up as he doesn’t like the look of them and he doesn’t want to plant anything else in the space. But he also has been very clear he doesn’t expect to see my dog in his garden! Again, fair enough. But now that means I’m going to have to put a fence up on my side - which will reduce the width of my garden hugely as the laurel is wide and goes over both boundaries, so effectively I’m giving him another three feet of garden. Neighbour has said he’s not going to take the laurel out altogether, he just wanted to thin it, and the gaps don’t bother him as he has no pets or small children so doesn’t need a secure boundary.

I know it’s his hedge and I know it’s my duty to not let my dog in his garden. But AIBU that he’s backed me into a corner here and I’m now going to have to pay for a fence and lose some garden? There’s no way of just covering the gap as the dog is very adept at wiggling round or through things and the laurel is so thick I can’t just wiggle chicken wire through it or similar.

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Venalopolos · 11/08/2025 11:45

It’s annoying, but your dog your problem. Our neighbours dog sometimes came into our garden though our thick hedge, so when we got a dog we fenced up against the hedge. The hedge is ours so we cut it right back but some of our land is just behind the fence so we took lots of pictures to prove the boundary before we put the fence up.

It’s annoying you’ve now got to do this, but this was always the risk you were taking by having a dog and no fence.

ParvuliThankYouDebbie · 11/08/2025 11:44

I can’t see how it will help three foot lost - just cut back right to the boundary line and put a low fence in there. Then the laurel will bush out over the height of the fence so you still have the benefit of a green, nature, aspect. Maybe even a picket style fence, the laurel would then grow through if you wanted to maintain the look of a hedge.

editing - haha, yes essentially what everyone else said - I’m just a slow typer obvs

Hillarious · 11/08/2025 11:44

Sundaybananas · 11/08/2025 11:41

Cut the hedge back to the trunk and put up a chicken wire fence on your side. The laurel will the grow back through to wire so it will look the same as before.

Perfect! It’s your dog you need to keep secure.

Noshowlomo · 11/08/2025 11:43

Cut anything on your side… he can’t moan about that. It’s your boundary, and then chuck up a cheap fence…

Sundaybananas · 11/08/2025 11:41

Cut the hedge back to the trunk and put up a chicken wire fence on your side. The laurel will the grow back through to wire so it will look the same as before.

PhaseFour · 11/08/2025 11:41

Ahh cross posted, there!

PhaseFour · 11/08/2025 11:41

What about cutting back the hedge on your side of the garden, to the boundary line, before you erect the fence? That way, you will actually gain back more garden than you had before.

tealandteal · 11/08/2025 11:40

Cut the laurel right back to your boundary and have a fence put up. Doesn’t save you money but does give you the space.