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OnemargarIta · 2025-08-11T10:36:45+00:00

I'm currently in Italy (staying in Rome) for three nights. It's my first foreign break in a warm country and I've been so excited and saved up especially. We booked an excursion for today consisting of a trip to Sorrento where we'd spend time exploring, visiting shops and enjoying local food - and then on to Pompeii on the route back. We've spent the whole morning/day so far stuck in traffic on the motor way. We are so behind schedule we can now no longer go to Sorrento first because Pompeii closes at 5.30 and there won't be time. A sit down restaurant meal will now be replaced by a takeaway which will be eaten on the coach. We've just been told the cause of the traffic jam and it's because somebody has died in a collision on the motorway. Instead of feeling saddened about the loss of life I just feel inconvenienced and pissed off that the highlight of my trip has been ruined. Does this make me a shitty person? It just occurred that it might 😳

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 12:25

Volturra · 13/08/2025 12:23

I can't see many people virtue signalling on this thread so the posters calling people this are wrong.

The chorus of 'Yes. You are a shitty person. HTH.' much of which was in response to the original question certainly struck me as virtue signalling and sanctimonious.

Even if you were shocked at a perceived lack of empathy, the above is unhelpful. A response more along the lines of "That doesn't sound normal. Do you experience a lack of empathy in other situations? Have you spoken to anyone about this?" would be more constructive.

But that wouldn't be an opportunity to parade your own goodness, would it?

I completely disagree that a lack of sadness in this situation means someone is lacking in empathy or morals. I think it's very normal, in fact.

Thank you for putting it better than I could.

Volturra · 13/08/2025 12:23

I can't see many people virtue signalling on this thread so the posters calling people this are wrong.

The chorus of 'Yes. You are a shitty person. HTH.' much of which was in response to the original question certainly struck me as virtue signalling and sanctimonious.

Even if you were shocked at a perceived lack of empathy, the above is unhelpful. A response more along the lines of "That doesn't sound normal. Do you experience a lack of empathy in other situations? Have you spoken to anyone about this?" would be more constructive.

But that wouldn't be an opportunity to parade your own goodness, would it?

I completely disagree that a lack of sadness in this situation means someone is lacking in empathy or morals. I think it's very normal, in fact.

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:22

nomas · 13/08/2025 12:18

So posters can call OP names like tosser but she is the nasty one? How does that make sense?

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Because that's what she has come across as.
No decent person would start a thread like this.
Does the namechange tell you nothing?
She was obviously ashamed to use her real username as she didn't want her S&B friends to recognise her and see what kind of person she can be.

nomas · 13/08/2025 12:19

LemonCheesecake2025 · 13/08/2025 12:18

Clutching at straws.

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Op can’t even use an emoji without being attacked for it. Ridiculous.

nomas · 13/08/2025 12:18

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:17

She deserves what has been said to her.
It's you who needs to give your head a wobble.
You're grasping at straws to defend the undefendable.

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So posters can call OP names like tosser but she is the nasty one? How does that make sense?

LemonCheesecake2025 · 13/08/2025 12:18

nomas · 13/08/2025 12:16

The comment above yours has a laughing emoji. Will you also be calling her nasty?

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Clutching at straws.

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:17

nomas · 13/08/2025 12:15

No one deserves to be attacked. And you think YOU are kind? Shockingly spiteful. Give your head a wobble and grow up.

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She deserves what has been said to her.
It's you who needs to give your head a wobble.
You're grasping at straws to defend the undefendable.

nomas · 13/08/2025 12:16

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:10

Oh, and also the constant laughing emojis.
Some of you are easily taken in.

The comment above yours has a laughing emoji. Will you also be calling her nasty?

nomas · 13/08/2025 12:15

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:14

She deserves to be attacked.
She deliberately started a thread, ( under a new name), that she knew would trigger some people.
She has constantly put anyone down who has questioned her and used numerous laughing emojis throughout this thread.
It's not really the sort of thread you'd use a 😂🤣 on, is it?

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No one deserves to be attacked. And you think YOU are kind? Shockingly spiteful. Give your head a wobble and grow up.

nomas · 13/08/2025 12:14

Justchilling07 · 13/08/2025 11:55

I find that very hard to believe because that hasn’t held you back in anyway, there’s no excuses for how you’ve lead this thread and been nasty to people who disagree with you.And conveniently denying what was said in the deleted posts.

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Why have you not called out the people calling OP a tosser? Was that not nasty? OP hasn’t called anyone names.

And you are not the judge of who has ADHD.

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:14

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 12:10

Fair enough. Thats your opinion.

In my opinion, all the posts attacking her and talking about what wonderful people they are because they would feel devastated by it weren’t genuine.

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She deserves to be attacked.
She deliberately started a thread, ( under a new name), that she knew would trigger some people.
She has constantly put anyone down who has questioned her and used numerous laughing emojis throughout this thread.
It's not really the sort of thread you'd use a 😂🤣 on, is it?

LemonCheesecake2025 · 13/08/2025 12:13

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 12:10

Fair enough. Thats your opinion.

In my opinion, all the posts attacking her and talking about what wonderful people they are because they would feel devastated by it weren’t genuine.

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Many of weren't attacking her, just saying it was a weird subject to make a thread about. What was she hoping to gain from it?

LemonCheesecake2025 · 13/08/2025 12:11

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 12:10

Fair enough. Thats your opinion.

In my opinion, all the posts attacking her and talking about what wonderful people they are because they would feel devastated by it weren’t genuine.

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Who's claimed to be wonderful?

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 12:10

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:08

Even the 'damn, what a wake up call', wasn't genuine in my opinion.

Fair enough. Thats your opinion.

In my opinion, all the posts attacking her and talking about what wonderful people they are because they would feel devastated by it weren’t genuine.

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:10

Oh, and also the constant laughing emojis.
Some of you are easily taken in.

LemonCheesecake2025 · 13/08/2025 12:10

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 12:08

I dont think you do need to have empathy for the OP. At all. Youre not required to. Just like she’s not required to have empathy for you or any other complete stranger either.
I was pointing out the hypocrisy.

Im gonna keep quiet on people talking about threads that trigger them because you won’t like my response.

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You're not a nice person, are you? 😂

BunnyLake · 13/08/2025 12:09

OnemargarIta · 13/08/2025 10:59

I'm not a normal person, I'm neurodivergant with a severe case of ADHD. I assure you I have never felt nor claimed to be normal 😂

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I know someone who is ND but they aren’t an arsehole so that is no excuse for you being one. You come across as more and more unpleasant with every post.

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:08

Even the 'damn, what a wake up call', wasn't genuine in my opinion.

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 12:08

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:04

Why should I have empathy for OP?
She didn't show me any when I said her thread had triggered me.
And if she's such a good person why constantly namechange to start different threads?
Sounds like she's a bit of a wind up merchant to me.

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I dont think you do need to have empathy for the OP. At all. Youre not required to. Just like she’s not required to have empathy for you or any other complete stranger either.
I was pointing out the hypocrisy.

Im gonna keep quiet on people talking about threads that trigger them because you won’t like my response.

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 12:04

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 11:59

How are you not getting this?

You can have morals and empathy without having to publicly demonstrate it to show everyone else what a good person you are!

Where is your empathy for the OP? People are claiming she’s loved every minute of, you’re making her out to be awful - she’s even told us she has ADHD and someone has just called her a liar.

Why is your empathy selective? Why do you think it’s ok to attack someone else because you don’t think they’re kind enough and can you not see the irony there?

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Why should I have empathy for OP?
She didn't show me any when I said her thread had triggered me.
And if she's such a good person why constantly namechange to start different threads?
Sounds like she's a bit of a wind up merchant to me.

LemonCheesecake2025 · 13/08/2025 12:00

Justchilling07 · 13/08/2025 11:59

You’re so patronising, no one is asking for your help🙄

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I've asked them not to help but here they are repeating themselves.

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 12:00

Feeling empathy is for the other person
Gobbing off about how empathetic you are is for you.

Justchilling07 · 13/08/2025 11:59

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 11:55

Where the hell did I say you had
Youre clearly really struggling with this concept. I can’t help you further.

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You’re so patronising, no one is asking for your help🙄

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 11:59

Letmehaveabloodyusernameplease · 13/08/2025 11:56

No, that isn't virtue signalling at all. That's just people having morals and empathy.
OP name changed for this thread and posted it in AIBU because she knew she'd get the reaction she did.
I personally think she's enjoyed every minute of it.

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How are you not getting this?

You can have morals and empathy without having to publicly demonstrate it to show everyone else what a good person you are!

Where is your empathy for the OP? People are claiming she’s loved every minute of, you’re making her out to be awful - she’s even told us she has ADHD and someone has just called her a liar.

Why is your empathy selective? Why do you think it’s ok to attack someone else because you don’t think they’re kind enough and can you not see the irony there?

LemonCheesecake2025 · 13/08/2025 11:57

WhereIsMyJumper · 13/08/2025 11:55

Where the hell did I say you had
Youre clearly really struggling with this concept. I can’t help you further.

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You are really acting strange now.