To feel inconvenienced by a tragic accident?

I can understand why you wold be annoyed, but you can rebook and go another time. It is going to have no lasting implications for you, and I bet you will have forgotten about it in a few years anyway.
Meanwhile, there is a family out there that have received tragic and life changing news. This date will be etched in their minds forever.

It is guilt tripping and it’s attention seeking behaviour. You are trying to make them feel bad. Why do you need other people to feel bad? Any care wouldn’t be real or have any depth anyway, their life won’t stop in the way that I’m sure yours did when you lost your BIL and mine did when I lost my uncle. Despite losing my uncle in an RTA, I still feel pissed when I get delayed due to an accident. We can’t be upset for everyone, we’d never cope with life.

Perfectly normal to feel disappointed yes. To feel nothing but disappointment in this situation is actually pretty horrible. In her position I would be disappointed, but I would mainly be sad for the people affected by the accident and very aware of how lucky I was that it wasn’t me. That’s not virtue signaling, it’s the truth. It’s called empathy, something the OP appears to lack.

Also, if the trip was that important to her she should have planned better. It was a ridiculous amount to try to fit into one day with all that travel. Any number of things could have gone wrong to ruin it.

Here you go: a 55 year old woman who was a pillion passenger on a motorcycle driven by her husband died when she was flung off it in a collision with a car: the husband is in intensive care. If you can bear to look there is a photo of the bike!

https://www.nanotv.it/2025/08/11/torre-annunziata-scavi-grave-incidente-alluscita-dellautostrada-morta-una-donna/

Does that make you feel a bit less cheesed off?

Some pratt whose life has fallen apart and whose mind must be an absolute turmoil. I prAy you’re never there!

Yes I have a family member like this, they make out to the whole world they're kind and caring , maybe they are to some people, but in my opinion to the wrong people, they're absolutely vile to family, she's actually a nasty abusive bitch.

Also, do you feel better for that?

It's not guilt tripping.
It's more a case of trying to wipe the smug smiles off the faces of the clever arseholes commenting on here.
To put it in raw context, if you like.
I'm not competing with anyone.
Just explaining how some people on here are seriously pissing me off.
And even after giving context someone felt they had to make a snarky comment.
Mumsnet really is full of twats.

Things can be more than one thing at a same time.

I live near an A road that accidents happen on all the time. The only way that can really happen is for at least one car in the accident to be driving dangerously and I'm fucking sick of it tbh. Things can be sad and tragic and also ruin your day due to the disruption

I really can’t stand it when people try to guilt trip others. We all know people who have been through stuff and some of us have gone through it ourselves. I have and I’d never guilt trip someone else for thinking of themselves because it’s normal. The fact is, OP doesn’t know these people, she didn’t know the circumstances, if the person had family, children etc and when that’s the case, there is less sympathy because it’s is just an anonymous person. We wouldn’t cope if we started imagining who these people are, the fact they might have children and being upset at every tragic story we heard. We look after our own and others do the same.

I'm not looking for sympathy, just giving perspective from the flip side.
You know where you can shove your Oscar.

You think my sense of humour is directed at the heart of this topic or the ops comeback think about it

This sums up precisely how I feel having been in a similar situation myself. Not everything is a opportunity to compete on grief!

Here's something for you to laugh at then, seeing as you're finding this thread humerous.
My brother in law, who was killed in an accident, had just got married and had a newborn baby. He was 29. Whole life ahead of him. His mother died four years later probably from the massive effect grief had on her. His child will never know him.
The accident was not his fault.
He was just driving to work.
A bit of context can make quite a difference.
These faceless people who have the audacity to hold up traffic and ruin someone's holiday plans are someone's son, daughter, mother, father.
Until you've been through it yourself, and I sincerely hope you never have to go through anything like this, you'll never begin to understand how laughing emojis and snarky replies will affect a person.

Tbf in the short term I’d fee angry and inconvenienced but I think I’d get over it in a few minutes and reflect on how lucky I was to not be involved in an accident.

It's Mumsnet - they'd be lecturing the poster about how everyone has their own lives to live and while their loss is tragic, it's dreadfully self-centred to expect random strangers to care, and besides probably the FB poster was a single mum trying to get to work to make money for her three disabled children etc etc so focus on your own life, OP, kindly...

My uncle died in a RTA. The road was closed for about 10 hours. If I had read this at the time, I would still have rolled my eyes at posters telling the OP that she is wrong to be disappointed about her plans being changed. My uncle was important to our family and friends, but not to anyone else. I wouldn’t have wanted sympathy from strangers because I know they don’t really care. Their life continued despite any online condolences or emojis they put online. I’d rather they didn’t bother. My uncle would have been the first to moan about being delayed.

There is no difference. There will be plenty of people who have lost a loved one in an RTA (I have myself, actually) who aren’t virtue signalling.
Its the handwringing and gross display of the moral high ground that’s the virtue signalling bit - over something that literally doesn’t even affect you.

Telling the OP she is a terrible person for being disappointed that her day trip was essentially ruined. Of course she was disappointed, some of you are behaving as though that makes her evil when it’s a perfectly normal thing to feel.

A sense of humour, on this topic, you think it’s funny
Well if it’s ok with you, not everyone agree’s with you, that this thread is humorous.

Unsure how those going on about virtue signalling can differentiate people who have lived through the hell of losing a loved one in an RTA from those who haven’t? Some of us are sadly talking from lived experience.

It’s an easy insult to chuck around I guess 🤷‍♀️

Another one parroting the same old term.How very original of you.

No. I don't think so but what I'd suggest in moments like this is learning to then think positively and creatively about how you can make the most of the moment - life is short and you are where you are and it's often not as though you will be back in this same location again so I always think, when sh!t happens - which is normal in life (it doesn't always just happen to other people) - how do I make the most of this moment, this situation - and that might involve you making some quick decisions - you can't do anything about what HAS happened - just learn to accept it, not to dwell on it, and to move on as quickly as possible to think about how you make the most of the situation - life is full of unexpected sh!t that you have no control over. It took me decades to understand this but now I do - I think life is more enjoyable and less frustrating because I've accepted and understood that life is unpredictable - it's better to embrace the reality of life - the uncertainty (imho).

How is that unfair, that’s the reality.