To feel inconvenienced by a tragic accident?

I don't think the OP is unusual. Some of the "Find Madeleine" billboards in Portugal were vandalised by locals who were furious at the impact Madeleine's disappearance had on their businesses. It's how the human race is.

That’s your opinion, that’s it’s ok to find humour around death, not everyone feels the same way about it and that’s ok, it’s not odd.Context is everything.
It’s not a case of making others feel bad, it’s about being respectful that someone has died in tragic circumstances.Which is not about feigning sadness either, your day may have been disrupted, you might feel annoyed, that’s understandable, is it really necessary to be so vocal about it though, how inconvenienced you’ve been.
The thread started, about someone dying in an RTA, then moved onto some posters finding humour in people who died from suicide, some of these comments were disgusting and MN took them down Maybe you didn’t see them, but it caused upset to people who have lost friends, family members through suicide, many people commented about this.And that’s where the thread changed.
Yes people die in tragic circumstances all the time, no one’s expecting anyone to be sad, just that it’s not the worst thing to happen that your day has been disrupted.

Some of you are irrated by people sending condolences? Weird.

I felt more irrated by the young woman pissing herself about something behind me in a shop queue after my Brother died after giving her a lift from the airport the day before.

I'm leaving this thread.

I'm sick of the over use of internal misogyny and now virtue signalling which some posters love to over use over and over again.

I may have misunderstood you, my apologies.

I agree. It’s the disingenuousness of it that I find jarring.

I actually find the sympathy of people who don’t know the deceased incredibly condescending.

When my FIL died a colleague asked if she could come to the funeral as moral support. No, you can’t.

I got bored of the “my thoughts are with you xx” messages and sick of the sad-face-head-tilts that didn’t make my family any less bereaved.

Deep down, I know none of these people are actually bothered. It’s not their loss, or their grief, and that’s alright. But I find the pretence irritating.

I also think a lot of these posters are full or shit. I don’t believe for a second they spend every waking moment saddened by strangers’ deaths.
We’re all capable of being selfish - it’s perfectly normal and human - and have times where our own wants overshadow that of anything else. (And I say that as someone who can be moved to tears hearing about the tragedies of strangers. And I always hope dearly no one is seriously hurt whenever I pass an accident. But that’s me; I don’t think anyone who doesn’t is awful or wrong).
I lost a close loved one in a RTA - I didn’t, and don’t, expect everyone in the world to feel saddened by it. That’s a sadness for his loved ones/us to carry - not perfect strangers

They do feel like this in real life.

It is ok to find humour in things around death. My cousin said something like ‘dad will be up there pissed off at himself for causing a road closure’, because he was the first to moan LOUDLY about being delayed in traffic for any reason.

Everyone realises that when people die, there will usually be loved ones who are upset, that doesn’t need spelling out in an attempt to make people feel bad. I find that really odd. My uncle was loved, but to others, the RTA would have just been an inconvenience. People probably missed all sorts of things due to it and were probably disappointed which is ok.

Feelings aren't reasonable or unreasonable really. You feel how you feel. People vary.
How I feel when I've been delayed by a tragedy depends on how much stress I'm under, what mood I'm in, and how much being late is going to affect me.

It's not great but anyone who has been at a London Station when they announced that all trains are cancelled will know the collective groan of "the selfish bastard".

I’m an awful person because my first feeling is always annoyed because I will be late or miss something.
I can remember being 4 hours late on the train to Edinburgh because someone died. I felt sorry for the train driver. I did receive a refund of my ticket. And most people on train were also pissed off. Because everyone was moaning.

I do agree and I'm sorry you've been through this too.
It was the posters laughing that were pissing me off which is why I thought I'd give some context, (not for sympathy, I actually find sympathetic gestures uncomfortable), my context was to show that whoever died on OP's route was a real person with family members.
Not just an inconvenience.

That’s because what you describe ISNT virtue signalling or competitive grief. Plenty of people have managed to give another perspective to the OP without resorting to these measures.
FWIW, in OP’s situation, I would feel both disappointed and bad for the people involved in the crash. I think that’s a fairly normal position to take.

But some people are being competitive over it and it’s bloody tiring.

What an odd response - Pompeii is only there for you to visit because it was buried by a volcano, killing an estimated 16000 people in the region. I've nothing against it being a tourist attraction but don't pretend it's not a scene of mass fatalities.

There's about a 100 casts of dead people preserved by the pyroclastic flow.

Spot on

Exactly. OP is essentially asking on their post “is it weird that I have zero empathy for the situation?”

And the answer is “yes, of course it’s weird.”

Others are trying to point out why it’s weird and try and explain the empathy that they might feel in a similar position. I don’t think that’s virtue signalling or trying to compete on grief?

“BE KIND AND AGREE WITH ME OR I WILL SAY MEAN THINGS”

Hmmmm 🤔

I don’t need to think about.You’re laughing with op who has started this thread.I was interested at the start of thread, then it just took a turn, many of these comments have been deleted, so they can’t be cross referenced, op is denying, that there has been any talk of suicide.
l get it, l’m not saying everyone should feel sad, when someone they don’t know has died in RTA.I have some experience, with people, who have taken their own life or tried too, there’s no funny side to it, that’s where, l took issue in these comments and posters defending them, that’s where the thread took a nasty turn.
I realise this thread is not for me, it’s just pointless getting involved with arguments with people.
I do stand by what l’ve said though.

A friend of mine has a SIL like this. Constantly posting on SM about how open minded and caring she is, supports all the ‘right’ causes. Is a twat and treats her little 5 year old daughter terribly.

But YOU aren’t virtue signalling here.

I feel like some people on this thread, if they were on OP’s coach, would have filmed themselves falling about wailing and then posted it on their socials to show everyone just how ‘empathetic’ they are.

There is a big difference between empathy and virtue signalling. In some ways they are polar opposites.

Why would it? It’s more guilt tripping. OP can feel disappointed about her day without it making her a monster. This is sad for this persons loved ones, but not the rest of us.

“Be kind or I will call you an arsehole”

hmmmm 🤔