To want to launch the kid who called DD(5) fat into space?

And saying he thinks dd is not beautiful and said the truth is not nice. Beauty is subjective, so what kind of truth or fact is it?

Not truth or fact but it's opinion, and last time I checked we were still allowed to have that!

What does a 6 year old boy know about beauty anyway. Really? At 6 ?

Mean girl.

Little boy should not be called names. But I think op is hurt for her daughter who at the age of 5 felt conscious about how she looks due to his comments.

And saying he thinks dd is not beautiful and said the truth is not nice. Beauty is subjective, so what kind of truth or fact is it?

In your DD’s case, it must be jealousy. As girls approach teenage years, they become looks conscious. Your dd must be considered pretty, and the ‘friend’ started to put her down due to her own insecurity.
Speaking from my own experience, the friend was overweight and started putting me down for physical aspects I never had any issues with.

Why is this little boy being called names?
Isn't this worse, because you're an adult and should know better?

The boy did nothing wrong except state facts. The way he states facts needs to be worked on, as he grows.

HE thinks your DD isn't beautiful and he said so.
You say your DD does have chubby cheeks and he said so.
Her arms maybe are a bit plump, he saw one of them (maybe she was putting jumper on at the time) and he said so.

Your response is way over the top and makes things worse for your DD, instead of better.

I always told my children that being mean and a bully is a clear sign that those children typically aren’t loved enough at home or sporting bad had happened to them. This means they have a hole inside them and they try to make themselves feel better by being horrible to others. It’s not about the child they are trying to bully, it’s about their being miserable inside. Oddly this really worked for all 4 of my kids as they just felt pity for the bully and saw over time that they didn’t act like typical kids, were often scruffy and didn’t have decent life experiences to share on the carpet. My kids made the observation on their own time that bullies start to tell bigger and bigger lies as they went through school. They knew by year 5-6 that bullies are inherently insecure ( not in those words obviously).

Regardless of what size your daughter is, it's depressing that children as young as six are being taught to use "fat" as in insult rather than a descriptive word. But you only need look at posts on this thread and on Mumsnet in general to see that this attitude is sadly persistent.

That's 12 year olds. These are 5 and 6 years? You can't reasonably call a 6 year old child, a dick!

As for your DD, I'm sorry to say, but it sounds like you're not bringing her up to be strong within herself.
A comment about her nose should be easily laughed off.
For 12, she sounds extra sensitive and quite vulnerable.

The issue isn’t that he said it, children say horrible things regularly.

The issue is that your DD was distressed about it.

She should at 5 yo know that:

a) she is normal size
b) even if she wasn’t she could also be beautiful
c) we don’t care what unpleasant people think about us
d) she’s fabulous in every way.

Spend the summer working on her resilience and her sarcastic come backs.

I have a child this age and couldn't get upset about this. Kids say all kinds of crap and at this age, like another poster has said, "fat" doesn't hold the same weight (no pun intended) as it does for us as adults.

It's a descriptive term in most cases, they say what they see. It seems it has touched a nerve with you?

@LittleGreenDragons YES! My 5 year old is on 90th centile, one mark off being overweight and requiring 'advice'. What they fail to miss is that my child was born on 99.6th centile so has actually dropped...

No you are not unreasonable. My DD is 12 and one girl has decided to be horrible to her (they were friends previously and my DD went out of her way to be nice) and she said to the class behind DD’s back that she has a big nose when it’s anything but. It’s a little button nose. These kids fuck me right off.

How on earth can a 6 year old child sound like "a dick"

Behave.....

He sounds like a dick, but fat doesn't carry the same weight at 5 as it does for us. Did he just come out with it out of nowhere?

The one a sounds more like talking about a drawing or something.

There was a huge hoo hah in my DSs class, with a girl going home upset that a boy had said X was prettier than her. Mum was furious. However, this girl had been going around asking who was prettier, her or X, her or Y etc. so wasn't exactly blameless for the situation. It's v different if he just said it out the blue than if someone else was pushing the conversation.

I agree with this. Your behaviour is far worse OP.

And if you are like this over a 6 year old just wait until the government contact you with the The National Child Measurement Programme (NCMP). They call nearly every child overweight 😬

Just say he's being silly, making it into sonething it isn't and over reacting will have more of an impact on your dd.

The key lesson to teach your daughter - beauty comes form within and it is a far better thing to be kind than to be physically attractive.

I think he's forgiven for being a twat at 6 years old. This can be a learning experience for him to understand that words hurt and he's not supposed to say something like that. Is there a context? My DS could be rude to kids when he felt hurt that age. Like you don't want to play with me so you're a meanie, ugly whatever. Obviously I pulled him up on it. Just saying that it might not have been a comment out of the blue which can make your dd understand that he was saying vile things that he doesn't really mean because he was hurt. Not excusing him though, he should have a Stern talking to by school/his parents.

I partly blame the mums who are always on a highly publicised diet that they announce at every meal time. The mums who shudder when they try stuff on in the mirror and declare it makes them look too fat. It's not surprising that children of these people learn that fat = bad and then it becomes the default insult when they are annoyed with other kids.

When and where did this happen. As far as I know all uk schools are on holiday at the moment.

Have you been stewing on this for weeks?

An adult calling a 7 year old those names is not acceptable. Teaching your child that we all come in different shapes, sizes and colours and that there are kinder ways of talking to people is great.

Btw, is your child a healthy weight? When was she last weighed and her height measured? We see so many overweight members of society (of all ages) that what we think of as normal can be quite skewed.

If he’s the same age as her he won’t understand what he’s saying. What he said proves it.

Also remember that you are bringing adult baggage to your reaction to the word 'fat', as most adults would (especially women). The 6 year-old doesn't understand that - it's just a mean word.

I get why you're annoyed, OP, but this child is 6. 6 year-olds often lash out with the first thing that comes into their heads (however illogical or untrue) when they are upset or having a bad day. A 6 year-old doesn't have to be a little shit to do this. They are just being a six year-old. Ok, some kids that age might be kind and lovely at all times, but most aren't.

Honestly, you need to keep things in perspective. When my daughter was younger, I used to drive her to the large town with a leisure centre for gymnastics classes. She was naturally very good. Able to do cartwheels aged 4 and whizzed through the little badges they do. A rather tubby older girl started picking on my daughter and saying she was ugly because her skin was the colour of butter, among other slurs. I did report it in a gentle way (a) my daughter was upset and confused and (b) the girl needed to learn sooner rather than later that racism swings both ways. I honestly she was just parroting what she had heard elsewhere and she needed to be told kindly about behaviour expectations and guided in the right direction. I suggest you approach your daughter’s situation in a similar manner.

It's a horribly upsetting comment, maybe even more so as a parent than for the child. But are you sure she's not over weight? You should be able to see a child's ribs until they are 10 at least. People often don't think their child is overweight when medically they are, we are all so used to seeing very overweight people. I've never known young children to call someone fat who isn't so maybe this could be a bit of a wake up call for you?