To think indecision is bloody rude

Feck off..be very thankful you have a loving family you can do this with you never know what's round the corner..just do what you want to do and I'm damn sure if they want to do different they will eventually say..get a grip of yourself there's nothing ignorant about it at all..

I find it annoying when they say they don't mind but then end up complaining about the choice afterwards.

Either make a decision yourself and take responsibility for it or truly let someone else decide for you and accept the consequences.

I don't mind indecision - however if I make a plan, I don't want any criticism. You could have planned it and choose not to. So if its not uo to standard or not want you to do - tough!!

Do you have kids???
This is my kids all the time so they get what they are given. Don't like it, tough

This. I'm afraid I don't see the problem unless they then moan about the decision you took on their behalf later.

I often have quite firm choices on what I'd like to eat or do, so if I say "I don't mind," I really don't mind! I would say that when I trust the other person to perhaps make a more interesting choice than I might think up myself.

don't bother asking them. Just serve up stuff and tell them what they are doing. Take the lead and take charge.

I say what I want if I want something. And I say if I'm not bothered. That's not lame or infantile, it's just honest.

@LillyPJ

And what's infantile got to do with it? Young children make very clear demands because they haven't learnt that it's not always their wants and needs that come first.

I don't think all children make demands at all: a lot are too timid to ask for anything at all: clearly these are the same children who grow up unable to ask their host for a glass of water when they are staying with them...

But also when someone has clearly offered you options it's hardly a case of your wants and needs coming first is it?

These are invariably the people who say "I don't want to cause any fuss/bother". When they are actually creating far more fuss and bother by just being lame and refusing to say what they want.

I said 'once in a while'. That's not always making it someone else's decision. And what's infantile got to do with it? Young children make very clear demands because they haven't learnt that it's not always their wants and needs that come first.

This is how I handle it with my family
and friends who do this. Just repeating “no, you choose! Your turn!” until they’re forced into a choice or they give up.

Yeah maybe, but when you have no genuine preference and people don't like you saying "I don't mind" it's just logically how I would come to a decision.

For me it's only passive aggressive if they say they have no preference then afterwards criticise the choice or silently fester on it. I like to think that's a minority of people, though. Most say nothing because they genuinely don't have a preference/suspect you might and don't want to put you out.

I don't think anyone really cares if it's an occasional thing. It's more if say you go for a trip away with a friend and every day and every meal and activity is 'oh I don't mind' so you have to make all the decisions. And then to top it off they make little comments after - like it's such as shame we didn't get to try this or that restaurant or do this activity on the trip

There isn't and you don't. You are chronically overthinking this.

I've never realised that so many people get wound up about this. If I offer someone a sandwich, give them options and they say 'I don't mind' I just make them whatever I'm making for myself and don't give it another thought. I've never thought to myself 'what a rude, passive aggressive wanker'. 😂

But if I had no genuine preference, to me the next logical step in deciding is making life a little easier for you - if you're having ham, then it makes sense for me to have ham too, save getting the eggs out. If there's several people and everyone else wants ham, equally I'd go with ham. If some wanted eggs and some ham, I'd probably just randomly pick a side. Maybe ham if the eggs are as yet uncooked. If the choice was something I really hated versus something I like then I could bring myself to express that. But genuinely I usually don't mind and my random choice generator isn't always fully charged. And as a previous poster said, sometimes there is a right and wrong answer and you have to work out what that is!

I'd just make the drink/food decision for them! Activities are a bit more of a problem especially I you'd rather they went iff on their own for the day.

If you genuinely have no preference, it's for you to mentally flip a coin and choose one. It is rude to put the decision on someone else.

I have a lovely friend who answers "I'm easy" whenever a plan/ decision needs making. She comes across as really laid back but actually it just means someone else has to do the planning/work. I'm away with her this weekend and will kindly tell her this the 1st time she does it too me! I honestly don't think she realises it is annoying and probably thinks she is being the easy going friend.

It drives me mad too. Ridiculous.

I don't think the OP is taking offence, just pointing out that its incredibly annoying.

There is nothing passive aggressive about this at all!! They are just trying to fit in with you! It’s madness you’re taking offence at this!

But even if you are the only guest I still don't want to decide what drink to make you. It's the same to me to make two coffees or two teas or one coffee and one tea - I just don't want to choose your drink for you!

Then I say I’m having xyz and they either eat that or they speak up and say the other option.

No, ADHD (depending on the severity) is literally a disability.

Completely different to not liking something.