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To think of they want to bath together then it’s not a problem?

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LondonLady1980 · 10/08/2025 19:34

I have two boys; the eldest is 11.5 years old and the youngest has just turned 8.

They adore each other and are pretty much inseparable which also includes bath time.

I have never had a problem with them bathing together as that’s what they choose to do, but some of my friends who have children of a similar age have started making comments that it isn’t appropriate.

They have expressed concern for my eldest son and say that at “his age” (puberty implications I imagine) he shouldn’t have to share a bath.

But I’m not making them share….they want to share. I give them to option to bathe alone if that’s what they’d prefer, but they don’t want to.

When I explain this to my friends I just get eye rolls in my direction.

What do other parents do in this situation?

Should I be enforcing separate baths?

OP posts:
ooooohlala · 10/08/2025 19:41

I agree with PPs - there comes a point when it’s not OK, however much they want to. That might not be right now, but it’s soon. So I’d stop it before it’s a real problem.

Fishfungus · 10/08/2025 19:39

I think this is time where as their parent you start encouraging them to bathe alone. I do think it’s too old now and your eldest needs to start having some privacy.

Sirzy · 10/08/2025 19:36

I think around stating secondary school is a good point to start implementing privacy around bathing