Are you sure there aren't two in there?

Yes, I had a planned CS. I had really wanted to try for a VBAC because I had an emergency CS with my DD. The hospital were very good and tried to accommodate what I wanted but safety had to come first.

The other problem I had was because I had so much fluid, DS was still turning and moving a lot, so he was what they called an unstable lie, even though he mostly went back to transverse. It’s a really odd feeling having a baby doing full rolls at 38 weeks!

we talked about trying to turn him but decided not to bother because would almost certainly have just turned back. They were worried that my waters would break and he would drop and compress the cord. So I went in at 38 weeks for a week of monitoring and had a CS at 39 weeks.

i hope things go well for you, best of luck!

During pregnancy and being a mum of young children you really do find that "opinions are like arseholes" is true. I couldn't believe how rude, judgy and inappropriate random people were suddenly.

I’ve come to the conclusion that half the time, these people are just repeating common stock phrases because they’re such dullards that they don’t have anything more interesting/insightful to say.

”it’s nice weather for ducks, isnt it?”
”I bet they’re a handful”
”it’ll soon be Christmas”
”are you sure it’s not twins in there?”
”smile, it might never happen”

Oh just bore off…

it’s akin to verbal diarrhoea. Why they feel compelled to speak and fill the air, I do not know.

basically, it’s a them problem. Your bump likely looks standard and they just have nothing better to say but for some strange reason feel compelled to say something!

Who are the 45% of people who think it's OK to comment on the size of a pregnant woman's bump? Commenting on strangers' bodies full stop is weird but especially pregnant ones where you literally could be commenting on something that's a medical concern or source of pain/worry - nobody needs it.

You can offer someone a seat or help without being entitled to a comment - it's not an exchange situation. I wouldn't offer an elderly person a seat and feel entitled to exclaim, "gosh, you're old!" You can ask how someone is feeling if you want to wish them well or make conversation.

It’s amazing how many people have opinions on your pregnancy/baby name/gender/choices…. I get it. I had twins. The number of f-wits who asked me if they were “natural”…. (No they’re artificially coloured and flavored.) Or “What made you decide to have twins?” (Just a whim…) My personal fave “IVF?” - (No… S.E.X. ) I was told not to be rude. Fuck off!

I had a complete stranger of a man, likely in his 50s come up to me on the street and play a game of “guess the gestation”. He was of course very wrong as my baby had placental insufficiency, and was 1% of size. I was in the hospital almost daily at that point and was so frustrated and upset when he did that to me. I should have said something but I was just trying to hold it together. Baby was small but ok in the end, and honestly, this man was well intentioned, but needed someone to tell him politely to f* off.

I think people are just trying to make conversation and they don’t think how annoying it can be. Most people aren’t actually interested if you’re having one or two, whether it’s a boy or girl etc, they just feel the need to say something and it’s the obvious thing when they see you’re pregnant. They couldn’t really care less most of the time so don’t give it any thought.

When someone asks you if you have two in there say “yes it’s two and by the looks of it you have two in there yourself”

It's a long time since I was pregnant (my DD is now 42) but I can clearly remember the comments I used to get during the last couple of months. The most frequent one was 'Haven't you had that baby yet?' when I still had 6 weeks to go. Don't some people realise that pregnancy lasts 40 weeks?!

I was completely sympathetic but as a woman moving into 'old hag' territory you lost me a bit.

I remember getting these comments. I used to worry with ds1 when i was walking around with a massive bump and people asking me if I'd had the baby yet. I thought i was going to still look 9 months pregnant afterwards. On a positive note though, when i had the baby and only looked 6 months pregnant i was really pleased at my new "slim" figure!

unfortunately the stupid comments have continued. With 5 dc i get a lot of "are they all yours?" and " so do you like children then? ". And mine are all the same sex too so i get a lot of "aww, better luck next time" and "don't worry, you'll get your girl one day". At 43 with 3 teenagers and 2 nearly teenagers you would think it would be obvious that I'd either stopped trying for more and/or be struggling to conceive a 6th baby, but apparently not.

when my mum was pregnant with me (in the late 70's) scans weren't available like now. my uncle looked at her one day fairly early on and said, either you've got your dates wrong or there's 2 in there. he was right, i'm a twin.

I was hilariously massive with DS due to him being a transverse lie right at the top of my belly and me having extra fluid which all sat below him, plus I'm a short arse. I cried in ikea when I was about 35 weeks because DH thought he would measure me with one of the little tape measures they have and it only went about 3/4 the way round me 😂

strangers stopped me in the street and said things like "my god, you're enormous" just in case i didn't already know. it didn't bother me though because i was, they were just stating facts. a friend of mine was due just after me and she is tall and skinny, and honestly it looked like my baby bump could have eaten hers, although the babies themselves weren't that different in weight

There's a way of showing interest without the comments on size though. Just like you can chat to a non pregnant person without commenting on how thin or fat they are.

People are crazy, too. I remember once in the space of a few hours I was told I looked massive, and by someone else that I looked tiny.

Yes I had this and from about 24 weeks comments not long now

people are just showing interest and it’s usually from a nice place

I personally wasn’t bothered by the comments people were nice it was never said in a mean spirited way and it’s part of social interaction

Good question. I ignore, have absolutely no interest and it’s none of my business. But then I think I come across as weird or cold.

I actually didn't get loads of comments (I got a few) but I HATED being visibly pregnant. Somehow it felt like such an intrusion that everyone could see my progress through pregnancy. It felt odd something personal being so visible.

It’s just chatting and showing an interest.

When pregnant with DD, I met two acquaintances in town within half an hour of each other. One said “Aren’t you big”, the other “Aren’t you small” 🙄

When pregnant with DS, overdue and fed up, someone said “Haven’t you had the baby yet?”. I said “Yes, I have, this is a cushion”.

There's just no way this is ever a good comment. Someone once asked me this and I just burst into tears. I had been pregnant with twins but one twin stopped developing at week 8. It was awful, and constantly worrying that if lose the second twin.

All the sympathy in the world for your current situation. People really should think before they open their mouths.