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To wonder why there’s no media reportings that describe Dwight Yorke as the scumbag that he is?

115 replies

Y1000 · 10/08/2025 15:47

He has had no presence in Harvey’s life. Why isn’t this repeatedly in the media as to how atrocious this is? Misogyny at its finest or something else?

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JHound · 10/08/2025 18:20

FenderStrat · 10/08/2025 16:36

Ok fair enough i'm wrong.
People have no responsibility whatsoever for the outcome of unprotected sex.

I mean technically they don’t. It’s why abortion and adoptions exist.

JHound · 10/08/2025 18:16

SemperIdem · 10/08/2025 16:27

This has been well covered over the years. He pays for Harvey. He didn’t want a relationship with him, this was the case before his disability was diagnosed. Before Harvey was even born. Katie Price was sleeping with Gareth Gates whilst pregnant so she and Dwight were very much not in a relationship.

Men cannot force women to terminate babies just because they don’t want them. However men also cannot be forced to parent the children they didn’t want, cases such as Dwight Yorke, Jack P Shepherd, Liam Gallagher, Owen Wilson, Jude Law demonstrate this well but it is also pretty commonplace amongst non celebrities too.

Agreed.

Just as we need to respect women who don’t feel an unplanned child should require them to be a parent to said child the same should be respected for men.

GenieGenealogy · 10/08/2025 18:14

Begaydocrime94 · 10/08/2025 18:08

Katie is an absolutely class mum to Harvey. She’s a sometimes troubled woman and it’s upsetting how many people will judge her rather than empathise with her! I’ve always had a bit of a soft spot for her

I am not sure how you define "absolutely class" but you've set the bar really low. Why are people queuing up to fangirl over this woman?

Odd.

JHound · 10/08/2025 18:13

FarmGirl78 · 10/08/2025 18:05

My understanding was that he paid all of Amy's bills and expenses and also paid her a full time wage (MUCH more than I was getting as a qualified clinician in the NHS) so she could be available to support Katie and Harvey.

Who is Amy.

Mysterian · 10/08/2025 18:13

I've not heard the media describe him as a scumbag, but then again I've not heard anything about him whatsoever anywhere. I wasn't aware if he was even still alive.

Begaydocrime94 · 10/08/2025 18:08

Katie is an absolutely class mum to Harvey. She’s a sometimes troubled woman and it’s upsetting how many people will judge her rather than empathise with her! I’ve always had a bit of a soft spot for her

ConscientiousObserver · 10/08/2025 18:07

SemperIdem · 10/08/2025 16:27

This has been well covered over the years. He pays for Harvey. He didn’t want a relationship with him, this was the case before his disability was diagnosed. Before Harvey was even born. Katie Price was sleeping with Gareth Gates whilst pregnant so she and Dwight were very much not in a relationship.

Men cannot force women to terminate babies just because they don’t want them. However men also cannot be forced to parent the children they didn’t want, cases such as Dwight Yorke, Jack P Shepherd, Liam Gallagher, Owen Wilson, Jude Law demonstrate this well but it is also pretty commonplace amongst non celebrities too.

I remember he was quite a famous footballer at the time. Who knows if Price saw him as a meal ticket although obviously it was also his responsibility to ensure contraception was 100% foolproof but that doesn’t always happen in practice despite the best will in the world. Gareth Gates confirmed he lost his virginity her at age 17 when she was 6 months pregnant with Harvey. So no wonder Yorke wanted a DNA test.

Price has said Yorke saw Harvey 9 times or 10 times in different publications before he was 10 and he had said she made it very difficult which I can well believe considering her very publicised behaviour over the years, and she has said he did turn up at the birth albeit late but who knows where he was at the time.

I had read before he set up a trust fund and paid her mother to look after Harvey. Obviously she’s not going to talk about that as it detracts from the story of him abandoning Harvey.

I doubt there was much more he could do other than take her to court to get visitation rights which may not have been possible to set up to travelling for his job, especially if she made impossible, and as Harvey needed ongoing medical care.

She has made lots of money talking about it and TBH has made lots of money from putting Harvey in the public eye, which let’s face it, most mothers with children with Harvey’s disabilities wouldn’t do to protect him from the vile trolls who have said disgusting things about him.

She did a show with him as a baby with Peter Andre. Didn’t she do I’m a Celeb in Australia when he was only a toddler? Andre said himself that he never adopted Harvey because Yorke wouldn’t let him. You’d think he would have jumped at the chance to get rid of his responsibilities to him if he didn’t care.

That’s not to say he’s innocent but I don’t think we know the half of it.

Maybe if Price had been a bit easier to deal with, Harvey may have had more of a relationship with Yorke.

youreactinglikeafunmum · 10/08/2025 18:07

FarmGirl78 · 10/08/2025 18:05

My understanding was that he paid all of Amy's bills and expenses and also paid her a full time wage (MUCH more than I was getting as a qualified clinician in the NHS) so she could be available to support Katie and Harvey.

Yeah, my opinion has changed a little

He's still vile for abandoning a child, seemingly because of his disability, but he's done the right thing re payment

I wonder whether this was voluntary though or by force 😪

Poor lad

I agree that he is in the right place now, getting the care he needs

Katie is such a mess

FarmGirl78 · 10/08/2025 18:05

youreactinglikeafunmum · 10/08/2025 15:56

Did dwight at least pay for Harvey? I cant remember

I suppose if you dont wanna be a dad, fine. But it seems to me it was about his disability, which makes me sad 🥺

My understanding was that he paid all of Amy's bills and expenses and also paid her a full time wage (MUCH more than I was getting as a qualified clinician in the NHS) so she could be available to support Katie and Harvey.

JHound · 10/08/2025 17:53

jazzybelle · 10/08/2025 16:01

Dwight Yorke isn't the only one who has done this. Jack P Shepherd cheated on the mother of his children and had a child with another woman. The child is disabled. JPS pays but doesn't see his son.

That’s the risk of continuing a pregnancy in that circumstance.As the saying goes “consent to sex is not consent to parenthood”.

At best all you can expect is they fulfil their financial obligations.

And before anybody asks - I have the exact same view of women who don’t wish to parent s child they created.

I do have a dim view on a man walking away from a planned child though.

JHound · 10/08/2025 17:50

Y1000 · 10/08/2025 15:57

@youreactinglikeafunmum no idea if he has ever paid.

How can it be fine though to not want to be a dad? He IS a dad. A thoroughly awful one.

I think it’s fine not to want to be a mom or a dad (although I would expect both to be using precautions in that case).

I would still expect him to fulfil his financial obligations though.

Lollypop701 · 10/08/2025 17:48

from Google Dwight paid for Harvey till 18, paid for his care. There’s mention of a trust fund.
Many fathers do not want to be dads, many mothers make it difficult for ex fathers to be dads . No one knows the truth in this situation other than the 2 parents.

neither parent comes out well in this from a public perspective.. but we only know what is published. All I hope is that Harvey is cared for and I think his grandmother is involved and taking care of him

JHound · 10/08/2025 17:48

youreactinglikeafunmum · 10/08/2025 15:49

Yanbu!

I've another thread but I find it hard to hate Katie price, given the men shes been dealt

Whats his career like now though, does he do anything? I havent really seen him in the press

The men she was dealt?

Do women no longer get a say in who we date?

JHound · 10/08/2025 17:46

I think it makes him a deadbeat but I really don’t
see it as misogynistic.

I am sure it was reported at the time but Harvey is an adult now. The media moved on.

StrictlySequinsandStiIettos · 10/08/2025 17:32

Kimmeridge · 10/08/2025 17:19

Wow looks like KPs PR team are working on a Sunday

Huge own goal in that case. I just looked her up to see what she's doing...yet more surgery and seemingly Envy of her daughter's new show the Princess diaries (I see what they did there).
Not a good look in either scenario (miaow).
That said, we've not had a thread on Carby Claire in aeons... Wink

AliceMaforethought · 10/08/2025 17:30

MyDeftHedgehog · 10/08/2025 17:28

I votes YABU because it's old news. Harvey is in his 20s now and I'm pretty sure it's been discussed plenty over the years. Yes Dwight is a dick for ignoring his son be everyone knows, so no need to keep repeating it

This. I do get that there is a narrative that blames women for men's bad behaviour, and that is crap. However, I'm not sure that that's what's going on in this case. Dwight is barely in the news nowadays, he certainly doesn't court the media as aggressively as Katie does.

MyDeftHedgehog · 10/08/2025 17:28

I votes YABU because it's old news. Harvey is in his 20s now and I'm pretty sure it's been discussed plenty over the years. Yes Dwight is a dick for ignoring his son be everyone knows, so no need to keep repeating it

AliceMaforethought · 10/08/2025 17:27

Why are there suddenly two Katie Price threads up? Is her management on here? In answer, while it might partly be misogyny, it is also that he is barely relevant. Also, while Katie isn't 100% to blame for everything that has gone wrong in her life, she is to blame for a lot of it. You can't blame Dwight or Peter or any of the others for the constant driving bans and animal abuse, nor for the way that she keeps messing about with her body. It isn't misogyny to expect someone to take some responsibility for their own life.

ExtraOnions · 10/08/2025 17:25

Harvey has 2 shit parents … luckily for her other kids, they only have one

Hankunamatata · 10/08/2025 17:24

He is a waste of space who ditched her when pregnant. Nothing much else to say is there

StrictlySequinsandStiIettos · 10/08/2025 17:22

youreactinglikeafunmum · 10/08/2025 17:08

I wouldve told him to get to fuck tbh, glad he didnt win

There are plenty of egg donors and surrogates around (despite my personal objections) and he wanted this kid because they wouldve been hers.

Well, exactly.
He did say he'd agree to sole custody but I think he'd have gone after maintenance.

I always mix Sofia up with Eva Longoria (makes me problematic) - the latter did freeze eggs then had children later.

Back to the thread title - no stories on Dwight because he is now coach of Trinidad and Tobago team, as opposed to being a main pundit/in the TV spotlight?

GenieGenealogy · 10/08/2025 17:22

You cannot force men to be fathers if they do not want be involved in their child's life. It's a shitty decision, and the child obviously misses out. Finances are a separate matter - a man can and should be forced to support a child he has created.

Most women know this, and are therefore very careful about who they choose to reproduce with. If you have unprotected sex or an "accident" with someone who has made it clear they are not up for being a father, get pregnant and choose to have the child, you cannot then moan at them for not stepping up.

Kimmeridge · 10/08/2025 17:19

Wow looks like KPs PR team are working on a Sunday

StrictlySequinsandStiIettos · 10/08/2025 17:19

Azdcgbjml · 10/08/2025 17:00

I'm astonished at the amount of people who think it's fine for a Dad to opt out of parenting. Would they be equally cool if the Mum opted out and just threw money at it? What happens if both parents opt out like that?

The moment of choice for becoming a parent is when the baby gets made. If a man does not want to be a parent then they need to make sure they don't make a baby. Once that baby is made you don't get to just opt out, or demand someone else has an abortion, not morally anyway.

If both parents opt out then you put it up for adoption at birth, and make a childless couple's dream come true.

StrictlySequinsandStiIettos · 10/08/2025 17:16

Azdcgbjml · 10/08/2025 17:07

I'm not who you are asking but that wouldn't be leaving a child to grow up rejected and unsupported by one of their parents would it? I'd be very disappointed if my daughter had a baby then abandoned it and just paid maintenance.

I would struggle if my daughter gave birth and gave up for adoption/fostering/or gave to the partner/their family to bring up.
I'd support them and get them through it and be proud of their strength in making that decision, but I'd find it hard personally.