To find this so rude and awkward?

It’s totally reasonable to ask to move a van off drive way! I don’t understand why you think it isn’t. They are just being considerate of their neighbours. I imagine if you had a caravan or multiple cars etc they’d ask the same.
I often ask my DP to do this as I know it bothers neighbours. Cul de sacs work like that - it’s not awful just a part of living there. Just tell your fiancé to move van please. Easy.

If it's just because they think the van 'lowers the tone', I'd be mildly annoyed. It's rather a snobbish thing to worry about to the point of asking for it to be moved. However, as they are doing you a favour by letting you stay in their home, I'd probably do it to keep the peace.

Your partner is helping you care for your grandparent out of love for you, not your parents, so I don't think that has much bearing on the situation.

Move it, don’t move it. Make a decision. What’s really sad in posting about it on MN.

Get over yourselves and move the van

What's the harm?

I think you are being unreasonable but maybe you're projecting some worries you have about your parents' relationship with your partner onto this situation?

I don't see this as them being embarrassed of the van - after all they aren't generally unhappy with it being there. They just want to be considerate towards their neighbours who are having a street party. Perhaps other neighbours have previously been asked to move cars or vans, and your parents would stand out if they didn't do the same thing.

Its not clear whether you are staying at their house to help them out with their renovation, or whether they are doing you a favour whilst something is going on with your house? But either way, I feel the same.

Yawn. Move the van.

Some of these replies just seem totally weird to me.

I could understand a request to move the van if it was parked on the road and would be in the way but it's on the driveway.

Surely street parties are all about neighbours getting together, having fun and enjoying each other's company.

What's with the fuss about "aesthetics" for photos. Is it because people live their lives on social media? The comments about work vans not looking nice in suburban streets are very Margo from the Good Life.

Thank fuck I've never lived anywhere where people are so snobby.

I probably wouldn’t marry a man who a) would be offended by this request or b) I didn’t feel able to have an honest ‘my parents are loopy but…’ conversation with.

I think most people move their cars for street parties?

Not that lazy 😝

I do not give permission for this to be circulated on any news sites.

Personally I don’t know why you shared it on MN at all. You could have shopped it around the tabloids to see who stumped up the biggest offer for the world exclusive.

I'm from Hello magazine and I'll fight you for this story. It's absolute dynamite!
Exclusive rights please OP! I'll pay you in Snowflake bars.

She said they're waiting to move into one.

Did you explain why you and your partner are living at your parents' house when they are renovating it?

Why aren't you living in your own house?!

I'd send a message back to your parents saying ' no problem ' and move it.
Seriously its a small request, why make life hard work..
Could you have not done that without making a mountain out if a mole hill and come on her complaint about it.

Bear in mind said van has been most gratefully used to:
-pick up furniture for them recently
-house tools to do various works around the house for them
So what? Grow up.

It is rude of them, I wouldn't move it, I would pretend I hadn't seen the message. How snobbish
Its a small request. The van wouldn't be there if there weren't allowing the son in law to stay.
Why be awkward 😕

They’re ALLOWING their son in law to stay at their house?!?

What sort of relationship do you have with your parents and ILs? 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫

Hello, my name is Keira and I work for Daily Mail. What luck I came across your story today!! It will make for an excellent article to feature in one of next weeks papers. It would be amazing if I could send someone to get some photos of the van and the street party when it’s ongoing?

it's on the driveway, not in the road.....

@Mightymaniac1 i think they are making an unneccessary fuss over nothing.... I'd probably leave it there and not inconvenience people in another street who probably don't have enough parking.

It is rude of them, I wouldn't move it, I would pretend I hadn't seen the message. How snobbish!

I do not give permission for this to be circulated on any news sites

Oh, OP. It's not for you to give permission. Mumsnet owns your posts. They're not even deleted if you dereg. And this is a public forum crawling with lazy journalists.

It's moving a van, not paying their mortgage! Take a breath. You're in their house.

I think the poster above me has nailed it, someone has contacted your parents and has asked for the van to be moved so if you don't move it it may reflect badly on your parents so I'd probably just move it if it was me.
I would be unhappy and totally understand though - I'd be put out by this request too. It's a bit snooty of the neighbours presuming it did come from them. This does happen in more affluent areas as I've experienced it myself.

I do not give permission for this to be circulated on any news sites

oh op, I missed this, my toes curled, no one is going to print a story as your parents asked you to do them a favour and have the van moved during the party, 😂

Sorry op, couldn’t get worked up about this and don’t find it remotely rude or awkward, they are not saying he can never park there, just move it for the party, which is fair enough, and I’m not sure helping your grandparents justifies your reaction,

I wouldn't move the van. It's just a party on the grass.