Partner on holiday without me

But there's no guarantee that op will get a payout. We've no idea. It's zero and possibly costs if they lose. It'd be crazy to assume that you'll have £200k in the bank until it's confirmed by a judge.

Sorry OP but you may be disappointed with my response. Life is not all about you. You sound very self centered and selfish. Sounds to me like the poor bloke is doing his best give him a break.

I admit to being a bit confused as in your opening post you are stating that you are waiting for a knee and hip replacement and in constant pain, but in your updates you are saying their lazing by the pool isn't your idea of a good holiday and you want to get out and about.

It is strange that his first holiday was with his family and didn't include you from the start, but given your various health conditions and the fact that you don't like this type of holiday, maybe he thought it wouldn't be your choice - which it isn't - so he would spend quality time with his family doing what suits them, then quality time with you doing what you prefer.

It's nice that he is considering his original family as well as his new partner, many men don't. So other than perhaps he could have swapped the order around, I am not sure he is really at fault.

I wouldn't be considering sharing a potential £200k award with someone who thinks after 6 years he still needs to ask his kids’ permission to bring you on a holiday where he’s paying for their bf/gf? They sound grabby and I’m on the fence about him @DancesLikeAFairyhowever, don’t think this is the right holiday for you either …. But the permission thing? Nah.

I've just come back from a holiday with my DD's and GC. I'm my DP'S carer, but he sounds in similar health to you. I wanted a holiday that was a holiday for me. We've been together for nearly 6 years and because we don't have the long shared history and haven't got married, I'm not giving up the rest of my life. He's offered you a holiday, so plan that and stop dwelling. He has rights as a person. I don't have mobility issues and I'm not always prepared to holiday/live as though I do, he doesn't have to either. He isn't your carer, he hasn't let you down.

Why do you think / feel you will be very lonely when he is on holiday ? you barely see him anyway.

Op your replies dont make any sense and has nothing to do with your original post.
Just stop it its getting silly.

You can't rely on a potential payout. How were you planning to pay for this holiday?

I think your DP should consider LTB

How is that relevant to the post?

Now that's uncalled for.

And presumably you meant to type "meant" rather than "meaned".

I'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but it doesn't really make sense. The type of holiday you say you want isn't compatible with you being immobile? Whilst relaxing by a pool, with food and drinks to hand, might not normally be your top choice, it sounds like this is the only type of holiday you could manage, given your disabilities and acute pain levels.

Also, you say you can't afford anything. I do genuinely sympathise with that, but how could you pay for any type of holiday?
Presumably your DP is paying, in which case an All Inclusive works better as there's minimal outlay once you get there.

I hope your DP has a lovely holiday with his daughter.
If I'm being honest, he must be bent double trying to juggle everyone else's needs and costs at the moment.

I hope your life gets better soon.

So how were you going to get around on a holiday where you wanted to be out and about and not relaxing by a pool? Would he have to drive you everywhere and help you around?

Im sorry to hear about that but its nothing to do with what your saying.
His kids come first end of.
I cant see what he has done so wrong.
As i said above i hope him and his kids have a fantastic time.

So you’ve been immobile all year but wanted your DH to take you on an independent holiday involving car hire and driving around to different places/activities because a relaxing pool/beach holiday is boring for you?

So he works away all week and you only see him twice a month for four days and he sees his kids the other weekends. You missed that out on your original post and it was the key detail of your relationship!
You and his kids are in separate compartments in his life as you are in a long distance relationship, no wonder he stressed it was a family holiday.
You are upset because he put his family first and is spending quality time with them on a holiday you would’ve hated because he isn’t available to be in a relationship that you need. You need someone you can see more regularly than this man, you are living for his phone calls and counting down the days till you see him. You think it staves off the loneliness but you are living a half life and feel resentful that you don’t mean as much to him as he is to you.

I don't see how he's done anything wrong. You don't like the type of holiday they chose, and have no money to pay for anything if you did go.

You only see your boyfriend four days a month, why not build a rich life with hobbies and friendships? There are various apps and FB groups, book clubs, women's only meetups etc.

Is he your carer OP?
Perhaps he considered the fact his kids might want a bit of proper time with their dad without him having caring responsibilities (sorry I don’t mean that to sound harsh at all!).
How long ago were you diagnosed with ADHD and what support are you currently receiving?