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Work friends went out drinking without me

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ThatLilacHedgehog · 10/08/2025 01:20

So at work I thought i made some really good friends, we share a group chat with the 6 of us in and we organise drinks occasionally and talk a lot. However tonight i watched one of their instagram stories and 3 of my supposedly work friends were out drinking together, so they organised this without me and I don’t know how to feel, because we were supposed to be friends and I would have thought they would have organised this in our chat.

am I being unreasonable for feeling left out and sad?

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ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 10/08/2025 01:23

What about the other two people from this group of 6 on the chat? Maybe this particular three happen to have a bit more in common.

UsingAMansNameInAWomensWorld · 10/08/2025 01:22

3 of the 6?

Maybe those 3 are closer with each other than the wider group of 7?

So they do things as a 3 and then things as a 7 depending?

ThatLilacHedgehog · 10/08/2025 01:22

LurkThenPost · 10/08/2025 01:21

Work friends are never usually your friends, if you left - the friendship will naturally fizzle out. It is what it is. Don't get attached to people at work. Keep your work and private life very separate. Keep boundaries.

We’ve all said on multiple occasions how we feel like friends

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LurkThenPost · 10/08/2025 01:21

Work friends are never usually your friends, if you left - the friendship will naturally fizzle out. It is what it is. Don't get attached to people at work. Keep your work and private life very separate. Keep boundaries.